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 Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 10:55 am
Hey, guys... guess what?
Boy troubles!
There's a boy in my group. He's good looking and to top it off he's actually NOT an a*****e (as opposed to some of my other friends). He's a great guy to talk to, he's funny, good taste in beer (we both believe light beer is a sin) and i can fight with him every so often.
FML i like him.
But i'm not one to show it. I'm really good at hiding them and being a stubborn git. I just like hanging with him.
Of course there's another girl in my group. I love her to bits. She's the nicest, most adorable thing ever and I could hug her so hard her neck breaks. I LOVE HER! She's a great friend!
And she likes him.
It was so blatantly obvious too. And I felt myself getting jealous whenever they were together. Not little pangs of jealousy, but BIG HEAPING STRONG WAVES OF EVIL. I swallowed it down and continued on with my life. I can tell that this guy treats her differently from the other girls. She came to me, stressing about the fact that he teased her so much. I explained quite bluntly that he teases her because she's cute. There's no denying it.
So when i finally asked her if she liked him and she admitted, I explained I did too, but I wasn't going to fight for him. Honestly, i want to get over him as not to ruin any friendship I do have. He's too cool a guy. And those two WOULD be great together. I'd never get between them because they're my dearest friends.
godamnit, how do you get over such a great guy when there are no hot guys in my course and I'm too shy to talk to anyone else?
*sighs* I should just go with my roomie to parties more often.
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Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 4:12 pm
My Friend Grimm How do you get over such a great guy when there are no hot guys in my course and I'm too shy to talk to anyone else? I used to go to your school. I know for a fact that last year, the male-to-female ratio at UOIT was 6 to 1. I doubt that's changed much. If you're saying NONE of those males are physically attractive, then you seriously need to lower your standards. If you're too shy, then get over it, because as long as you can do that, you should have no problems finding someone. If you like the guy, then ******** ask him out. If you think your friend is better off with him, then tell her so, and help her out. What you definitely SHOULDN'T do is p***y out and let the drama build. This isn't high school, no one wants drama.
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Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 7:36 pm
Well, if you've already said that you won't fight for him, and if you don't want to hurt your friendship with her, then you can't make a move on him. Even if he makes a move on you, you really can't, because you've talked with your friend about it. So, unless he talks to her about pursuing you, you can't touch the dude. Sorry. So, move on, find another hunk of man-meat, and be happy. biggrin Forgive me for being blunt, but, it's easy to do. Good luck!
And yes, go to parties. Ditto to what Levi said about drama. No one freaking likes drama. My old group of friends here at school were worse than high schoolers with regard to drama.
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Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 8:19 am
Leviticus00 My Friend Grimm How do you get over such a great guy when there are no hot guys in my course and I'm too shy to talk to anyone else? I used to go to your school. I know for a fact that last year, the male-to-female ratio at UOIT was 6 to 1. I doubt that's changed much. If you're saying NONE of those males are physically attractive, then you seriously need to lower your standards. If you're too shy, then get over it, because as long as you can do that, you should have no problems finding someone. If you like the guy, then ******** ask him out. If you think your friend is better off with him, then tell her so, and help her out. What you definitely SHOULDN'T do is p***y out and let the drama build. This isn't high school, no one wants drama. Should I mention he has a girlfriend? That's why I'm getting over him. I'm not one to start drama anyway, which is why i'm not trying anything. I've just made friends here. I can deal with being single. And don't try and tell me I have high standards, thanks. I find that kind of insulting. Just because I have a friend who is good looking and is an overall decent guy... it's not really a surprise i have a crush on him. But I enjoy just talking to him as it is. He isn't what can be considered a high standard. He can be what is considered a great guy. And for the record, the guys in my class also have two other problems, they're either socially awkward beyond talking to, or they're assholes. Sometimes both. Please refrain from taking things I say and making me look like a b***h, thanks.
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Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 9:22 am
Before this starts to get out of hand, if this looks like it will become an issue/drama thread then it will immedietly be closed.
As far as the situation goes, and from what I have read, it looks like that you have an idea of what you need to do. Being socially awkward towards guys can be difficult (believe me I was like that for years) but sooner or later you will build up your confidance and you'll find a great guy.
This guy may be taken, and it's only natural for you to slightly jealous towards both your friends. We're human, anything we know we can't have we want. You can say to yourself "It's okay if I can't be together with him, because I'll find myself a better guy in the close future and still be able to keep my friendship with this one." That's what you need to think, and go to parties too!
This isn't high school where everyone knows you. It's college/university, and there are 10 times more people there than in high school. You can meet so many different people that don't even go to the university you do, so parties are a great idea!
You'll be okay, and don't worry, things always work out for the best, one way or another. ^.^
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Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 9:59 am
saturnwonder Before this starts to get out of hand, if this looks like it will become an issue/drama thread then it will immedietly be closed. As far as the situation goes, and from what I have read, it looks like that you have an idea of what you need to do. Being socially awkward towards guys can be difficult (believe me I was like that for years) but sooner or later you will build up your confidance and you'll find a great guy. This guy may be taken, and it's only natural for you to slightly jealous towards both your friends. We're human, anything we know we can't have we want. You can say to yourself "It's okay if I can't be together with him, because I'll find myself a better guy in the close future and still be able to keep my friendship with this one." That's what you need to think, and go to parties too! This isn't high school where everyone knows you. It's college/university, and there are 10 times more people there than in high school. You can meet so many different people that don't even go to the university you do, so parties are a great idea! You'll be okay, and don't worry, things always work out for the best, one way or another. ^.^ *hugs* thanks ^^ It's funny, I can't say I've been jealous of a guy as much as this before, but because it's two friends that I really love, I won't do a damn thing ^^; We were talking about it a couple of days ago to be honest. I'd be really happy if those two ended up together. we kind of laugh together about him now XD When i mentioned semiformal, I was saying that there was nobody I could really take. When my friend mentioned the guy we both like, I said no, saying that I wouldn't want to do that, especially to her. I'd feel too guilty and it would be a bad night. Honestly, i kind of want to just go with her to semi because it would be more fun with the two of us ^^;
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Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 3:37 pm
When you attend a school with an insanely large number of males, and you generalize them all as being unattractive, that's either having high standards, or being ignorant. That's not me trying to make you look like anything, that's just a fact.
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Posted: Mon Nov 16, 2009 7:58 am
I went to a large high school Levi, and I can honestly say that 3/4 ths to 2/3 rds of the male occupation of that school were really quite unnattractive and acted like an immature redneck more than half the time, but then by the time I met Toboe I was out of high school for over 3 years.
I even have gone to the local college here off and on and half the males there are 10 yrs and older than I am. Not saying they aren't attractive and they do actually act mature, but I don't want to date someone who's 10 years older then me.
It's not having high standards or being ignorant, it's not wanting an immature guy who looks like he wants to go slap a bathtub on 2 piles of bricks with a fire underneath it and calling it a hot tub.
Play nice, or take it to PMs cause I don't want any fighting in the guild. Kapeesh?
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Posted: Mon Nov 16, 2009 1:51 pm
saturnwonder Play nice, or take it to PMs cause I don't want any fighting in the guild. Kapeesh? 
What she said. or I break out Der Bahnhammur von Götter-mods.
Keep it clean and constructive kids. 8D
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 7:54 am
So yeah, these past few weeks I've hung around this guy the same as before, and lo and behold, i'm seeing him as more of a friend again! 8D
I KNEW it was a phase.
Don't get me wrong, he's still good looking and really charming, but I realized I can go on without him. I don't feel those pangs of jealousy when he teases my friend now (as much. I still enjoy teh play fighting and they still like to tease her more than me) and when I look at him now, i just see him as a friend.
Great thing is nobody noticed my crush. The only one who knows is you guys, some friends at home, and the girl i admitted to that also likes him.
Her comment: "I doubt it'll last."
She thinks I will like him again XD
I MUST PROVE HER WRONG, EH? ^^
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 10:24 am
I'm really glad things are working out for you seddy ^.^
Now go to a party! biggrin
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Posted: Thu Nov 19, 2009 10:38 am
saturnwonder I'm really glad things are working out for you seddy ^.^ Now go to a party! biggrin mebbeh this weekend I hope i can find that sexy doctor house guy from Halloween owo
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