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 Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 1:02 pm
this is kind of like embarrassing, but im feeling pressured into doing stuff with my boyfriend. like, my friends basically force me to make out with him and are trying to pressure me into giving him a blow job. i dont really wnat to , we've only been going out for 4 days and i can tell hes always nervous when they tell us to do stuff. how do i stop this? its like im stuck and dont know what to do.
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Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 1:47 pm
Just say no. If you don't want to do this stuff, why would you do it? Who cares if your friends want you to do it, they're not supposed to be controlling your life. If they have a problem with your not doing everything they say, then they're probably not even friends to begin with.
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Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 4:58 pm
Don't give into the peer pressure. If you don't want to make out with him, then don't! If you don't want to give him a blow job than don't! If it makes you uncomfortable, you do NOT have to do it! If you're friends are true friends, then they shouldn't be forcing you to do stuff. Especially when you have only been going out 4 days, take it slow.
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Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 9:59 pm
exactly, it is your decision as to when you do these sort of things with your boyfriend. just tell them to back off and worry about their own relationships instead of them having their fun through yours. take all the time you need until your ready. forget them.
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Posted: Thu Oct 09, 2008 12:12 am
Everyone else has said it already. 3nodding It is YOUR relationship and therefore you and your boyfriends are the only ones who have control over what happens. People outside your relationship, including friends, have ZERO right to tell you what to do.
And as Lorien said, why would they try to tell you what to do in your relationship anyways? neutral That is called peer pressure and people like that are losers trying to live through your life apparently. Those are not friends. Tell them it's none of their business and ask them to leave you alone about your relationship.
Rushing to do things neither one of you is ready to do can make things awkward and uncomfortable, and it can very likely break apart the relationship. Take things at your own pace, including kissing, touching, and sex if you decide to be intimate. It's your relationship and it should have your rules, not other people's.
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Posted: Mon Oct 13, 2008 2:14 pm
It sounds like neither of you want to do what they're talking about. What you both need to do is 'sit them down' and with total seriousness (if you're laughing or sound like you're joking they may not take you serious) tell them that you JUST got into the relationship and you DONT appreciate it when they try to make you do those things. Tell them that if that is something they like to do that's fine but it's not what YOU want to do.
I would personally tell them that I have too much self respect to go and give him a BJ so soon in a relationship, that I'M not a whore like that and he dosent' want to jump the gun either. I want to wait untill WE both feel like it's the right time IF we feel there is a right time. They can go home and do what they want with their boyfriends, but I'm not going to do something that could get me called a whore or a slut.
Sadly if you do let them pressure you into doing those things they sound like they'll talk behind your back about how you're a "slut" or someother demeaning term because you did it so soon.
Whatever you do to tell them off keep a straight "i mean business" face and if they keep it up keep telling them NO so they know you mean it, or jsut avoid hanging out with them so much.
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