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 Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 9:05 pm
I'm just not sure anymore.
I'm bisexual and I recently came out to my mother, she's been telling me I'm wrong that I have a choice to pick who I like that I can suddenly change who I'm attracted too, which is mostly girls. I have never wanted to be involved with a boy emotionally, I find them physically attracted but have no want to really be with them in a relationship. I thought I knew the answer, that I was sure I couldn't change it, that I couldn't do anything about it, but like I said I just don't know anymore.
Please, I need someone older, someone with experience re-assure me I'm right that I can't do anything or tell me I'm wrong.
Tell me something I can't focus I'm so confused.
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Posted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 7:58 pm
You're not wrong. Sure you can choose who you like, but sometimes you can't help who you like either. It's completely okay. You're mother is most likely just taking it hard. Give her time and she'll open up to the idea more. I'm not bi or lesbian so I haven't had to come out so I can't relate to what you're going through, I'm sorry. Hopefully somebody will pop in here who has had to. But for not, don't stress. :] It's okay and you're right.
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Posted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 8:04 pm
I know how it feels..
Back in middle school I was dealing with a lot of things, and finding out I was Bi was one of them..
My mom, she smart, and somehow found out that I liked girls and told me it was wrong and I shouldn't think like that ect..
But now she's starting to accept it, and said that she would love me and support me no matter who I was with.
Just give her time, she will come to accept it and love you for you.
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Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 3:50 pm
I have the same trait that I'm sometimes physically attracted to other guys but don't really feel the need to be in a relationship with them. I think girls could give me the best care and vica versa. smile
Anyway, even though it seems confusing, you should try and stop it from messing with you like it is. You have to realize that no matter who you're attracted to, there's nothing wrong with you. After all, you're still human!
As to where to go from here, live normally. Fall in love, think someone's cute, do your homework, and have fun. Realize who you're attracted to isn't necessarily up to you, but it's good to have attractions so in the end no matter who you like you should be proud of yourself. smile
As for your mother, as others have said, let it sink in with her the same fact that no matter who her son's attracted to, it won't change him as a person and she will love you and be there for you anyway. It will probably be easier for her too since you still like girls so that's always a plus. ^^
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Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 1:12 am
hun, you don't have to officially decide.... it comes in time.... true one day will come when you decide...... p***s=gross or v****a=gross..... true not many adults are bisexual, but you still have time to choose.......
i'd say do a little research and bring up to your mom that it'll take time to make a comfortable choice of what you are..... bring up your research.....
and aside from your mom stressing you on the matter, stop stressing yourself..... just ease yourself into it otherwise you'd be in this same state forever.....
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