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Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 10:27 pm

Okay I would like to start off stating that I have loving family and friends (support, love, friendly affection, ect.). I don't have problems at home where I need security or anything of that sort. I am normally a happy person and I think this is sort of the missing piece.

For the past 6 months of so I have been really craving a romance. Like a serious relationship, to meet my soul mate. I need this more than anything. I am very lonely despite having many close friends and family. I really feel like what I need is that one special person. The problem is, I don't think I am going to get that sort of thing from any of the boys or girls my age. I don't think anyone is mature enough or ready for that kind of commitment. That is why I am starting to think that there must be something wrong with me, to be ready for a serious relationship in HS.

I have two years left of HS and I really would love to meet that special person as soon as possible. I have this feeling that I won't meet that person while in HS. That has made me pretty depressed.

What I have to ask you is, is this normal?

Posted: Sat Mar 29, 2008 10:50 pm

Blythe the Mass Debater

Okay I would like to start off stating that I have loving family and friends (support, love, friendly affection, ect.). I don't have problems at home where I need security or anything of that sort. I am normally a happy person and I think this is sort of the missing piece.

For the past 6 months of so I have been really craving a romance. Like a serious relationship, to meet my soul mate. I need this more than anything. I am very lonely despite having many close friends and family. I really feel like what I need is that one special person. The problem is, I don't think I am going to get that sort of thing from any of the boys or girls my age. I don't think anyone is mature enough or ready for that kind of commitment. That is why I am starting to think that there must be something wrong with me, to be ready for a serious relationship in HS.

I have two years left of HS and I really would love to meet that special person as soon as possible. I have this feeling that I won't meet that person while in HS. That has made me pretty depressed.

What I have to ask you is, is this normal?

I was ready for a serious relationship when I was in high school. I found one with my GF, but now she's just realizing she's not ready for something that serious (she's still in High School). I'm just going to say, no it's not abnormal. Just think, a serious relationship is a serious one. You can be ready at that age, but my GF seriously thought she was and it turned out she wasn't.

Make positively sure you don't want to play the field a bit before you commit.

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Posted: Sun Mar 30, 2008 8:32 pm

I really have to stress this.

DON'T MAKE SOMEONE OUT TO BE WHAT THEY ARE NOT.

I say this because I see loads of people who say they want a serious relationship and go on and on about how they are so ready for one. In the end you need to focus on you. If you try to hunt down every "possible" boyfriend then you'll end up hurting and breaking your heart so much you won't have much love for the right guy. Relax. Enjoy high school. You have only 2 more years of it left. I was in the same boat when I was a freshman. But I fixed that my sophomore year. I focused on me. I didn't give a damn what the freshmen thought of me. I just wanted to make me better. Needless to say, a wonderful and amazing guy found me. I didn't look for him. When I found him I didn't realize what a amazing catch he was until he told me he would protect me. We've been dating close to 7 months. Just make sure you focus on you. If you aren't ready for a serious relationship then why would you expect him to be ready. Fix what you need to fix. Solve what you need to solve. Picture perfect life still has it's flaws.

One thing I guarentee though. Is if you go looking for it it'll always hurt you in the end. [[Now I'm not saying don't look and try to find a guy..just don't fall head over heels after he says three words and decide you just have to have him.]]

Okay sorry about my little rant. I just hate seeing girls find the wrong guy and then screwing themselves over when the right guy comes along. PM me if you like. Always free to talk.

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Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2008 10:14 pm

Honestly commitment is a difficult thing in High School. It is called Tick Snydrome.

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Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 8:27 pm

Hey, I think we might be soul mates! Just kidding, but I know exaclty how you feel. I was always the kind of kid in HS that didn't want to date around b/c I wanted to have a serious relationship. I always felt like I was more mature that other kids and stuff. But yeah, I do know how you feel.

I think what you need to try and do it understand that you are more mature then those around you and that you will probably have to wait to find ur soul mate. And then you do don't rush things. When I got to college I found the right person and things have been going really well since then. Waiting sucks, I know I have no patience, but you can do it. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me!

Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 10:54 pm

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Honestly commitment is a difficult thing in High School. It is called Tick Snydrome.

tick syndrome?? never heard of it.

I have had only 2 relationships in my life. both were serrious. first guy we started dating a few months b4 i turned 14 (yeh i know young) we were serious about each other. but it was more of an internet type thing (we went to school together tho) we never had sex. I love him. but i found out that he is a better friend. he wasn't my soul mate. the time with him were good and bad. I did grow up a little with him and found out heaps about my self. we dated for 18 months. grde 9 - 11.

we still keep in contact and are good friends. I love him in that respect.

My now current partner. I love him to bits. we have learnt so much about each other. we started to date in the last year of high school . grade 12.
after 3 years we are engaged.,

I think it depends on the person. You may think that all the guys are imature but there might be a guy other there that you like. I do not think that it is weird at all that you want this kind of attention in highschool. I like the same thing. and no matter what older people say younger people can fall in love and find their soul mate.

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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 6:41 pm

I'm a 16year old Highschool Junior, and let me tell you, it's normal.
These feelings are just made stronger because of all the mass couples you see around school. I too want a soulmate in highschool, but in all honesty, and from observing othes, it's best to wait until college. The boys in highschool aren't worth it. Wait until you go off to college, then you'll find motivated boys that are worth your energy. Besides, you need to concentrate on your classes like whoa duing your sophmore and junior years, they build your GPA

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