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 Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 3:19 pm
Okay well, at school I'm the kid who sits in the back, is always dressed in dark colors, and has maybe one friend in the world. Rarely will a guy like me, since I'm so flat-chested and I don't wear slutty outfits. My best friend is crappy: She doesn't understand me at all, and even she talks about me behind my back. I wish I had one good friend in the world. I usually go on the sidelines at PE, I never get called on, I sit by myself at lunch time, I feel like I'm a nobody. Am I a nobody? I'm not really asking for much, I just want my school life to not be a living hell. This song honestly explains me in so many ways. It's freaky. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJBbBBezOSk
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 3:25 pm
The only reason you feel like a nobody and people see you as a nobody is because youve convinced yourself you are.
When i moved down to south carolina people saw me as a loser because i didnt say anything or do anything because i was really nervouse, then started hanging around with some crummy people and that really wasnt who i was. So after that school year (i moved down there over X-mas) i bought some new outfits that reflected me and the all of that and did a complete turnaround in school. It takes alot of emotional work and all of that but i think its worth it.
Spring break and summer are good times to look at yourself and find out what you want to be socially and then act! dont just say in your mind youll do it and then dont. dont be afraid to talk to those people you want to be friends with.
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 3:32 pm
I know it's hard and it seems like even if you try, people won't accept you. That isn't true. If you want change, make it! If you dont' like wearing dark clothes, find some brighter ones. People might be more open to you if you don't hide yourself. Show them who you want to be. It is never too late to change. It sounds like your friend isn't so nice. Try to get new ones. I know its hard and it seems impossible, but try to participate during gym, and maybe ask if you can sit next to somebody during class. If you open up to them, they will most likely open up to you. You just have to show people that you want to change.
I'm still here if you'd like to talk or rant. Post back or PM me. :]
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 3:48 pm
I'm like that too. Don't worry, you'll find a good friend sooner or later. Try not to make your self look to much like a guy, you might attract some girls. (Unless your Bi. Then that's probably okay, but otherwise it's a major pain.)
Just try to be more social, it might help. wink
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 4:57 pm
Maybe they are just afraid of you.
I used to be like that, Till I moved to the place I am now.
I used to be just like you.
But suddenly, I just started to get more into things,
and talk more, you know, put yourself out there.
When people start seeing that, they'll think your cool, but don't let people walk all over you.
-Bloody C.
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:08 pm
I use to have that problem. Maybe they're just hesitant to talk to you because you never try to approach them. My problem was I never made people notice me. Maybe you just need to be like "Hey I'm here and I'm not invisible". Take the time to reflect to yourself of why all this is happening to you. Most of the time when people are outcasts they do it to themselves. The guys might not notice you because you haven't developed but then again why would you want a guy who only wanted to stare at your chest? Just relax. Work on you. Be more social. People aren't outcasting you. You're outcasting yourself. Work to talk to new people. Even if it's a quick hello. It's something.
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:19 pm
Their right, you have to put yourself out there.
Maybe join some activities that intrest you?
also being flat chested doesn't mean guys won't like you neutral
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 8:19 pm
If she's talking behind your back maliciously, then she really shouldn't be your best friend. If she talks to other people about you out of concern... well, then, it would be more than okay to tell her your insecurities.
I agree with other people to an extent... try and be more social. It's a really hard thing to do, I know. I spent two years not knowing a single person when I started university; just because I moved to another country and was missing home so much.
If you like your dark clothes, you don't have to give them up. Just find a hobby or an interest or something else in common with a group of people and make friends with them. Do other people in your school go on Gaia a lot? There's a common interest right there!
It'll take a few tries, but once you start up a few discussions and find your niche in school, then it gets easier. wink
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 7:21 pm
Been there. I always wanted to meet someone who was in the same boat as me, I wanted to talk to someone i could relate to. Talk to your best friend and tell her you feel alone. If she has a heart then she will support you.
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