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 Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 4:53 am
My last period was two days late (I'm incredibly paranoid when it comes to my body) so I was kinda freakin out about the what-ifs. Luckily everything was fine. But yeah I'm completely needle-phobic so if it had been delayed any longer I would have gone to get a pill abortion without hesitation. I even have the numbers of clinics because of research I did a while ago for a thread here which was about "what does it say in your phone book?"
Me and my boyfriend had dicussed it even before we had sex that we would use condoms and if i got pregnant anyway we'd get an abortion (neither of us in any shape or form would be able to handle having children right now, neither financially, emotionally or whatever). So I feel confident about choosing how I would handle it.
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Posted: Sun Jan 20, 2008 12:56 pm
As PhaedraMcSpiffy said, whether or not I would have an abortion depends on a lot of factors. Without being in the situation, there is really no way for me to know for sure. However, if I were to become pregnant right now, I believe I would have an abortion, no questions asked. I'm simply not in a position to have a baby right now. If abortion had been made illegal, I'd ship myself off to another state/country to get one.
I actually feel rather odd about the whole thing. Up until recently, I believed that if it weren't for my poor mental health, I would continue the pregnancy (except in the case of fetal defect or my health/life being in danger). But about a month ago my mindset changed, and I decided that I would probably get an abortion even if I was mentally capable of completing a pregnancy. I'm not entirely sure what happened. For years I made active attempts to become comfortable with the idea of personally having an abortion, but I was unable to accomplish this goal. I eventually gave up and decided that I just had to deal with the weirdness of not wanting to have an abortion personally while being completely fine with someone else having an abortion. Then, when I was having a discussion with someone about how you could personally not want to get an elective abortion but still be Pro-Choice, I suddenly realized that this was no longer my stance. I kept waiting for my feelings to swing back (after all, for most of my life I had felt that I could not personally have an elective abortion) but as of yet that hasn't happened. It's strange.
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Posted: Sun Jan 20, 2008 3:50 pm
I don't think I could go through with an abortion. I would if my life, health or the fetus' quality of life was dimished but those are basically the only factors. I'm not sure if I would be a good mother or not but I would be sure that my mother would help me and my fiance would help as well.
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Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 10:33 am
It depends... if I was in a stable relationship and we had a place to live and not too bad financial situation, I would probably decide to keep it even if originally it wasn't planned.
But if it happened now or any time before the above is provided, I would choose the abortion.
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 7:38 am
Blythe the Mass Debater PhaedraMcSpiffy I guess it would depend on a lot of complicated factors. I agree. And I love your avi!!! I am going to change mine up. Anyway I guess that if I found I was pregnant today here is how I would view my options- Parenthood= There is no way I could be a good mom, support a baby and eventually go to college. My life would be ruined and my kid's life would suck. Adoption= The appeal is the selflessness in giving away a baby to a couple that really wants a child. But I am not sure if I really want to go through with that and deal with the possible physical and emotional damage of pregnancy and giving a baby away. Though, my parents would probably more approve of this than my other two options. Abortion= Would allow me to remain in school and I could put it behind me and move on. I could go to college and I wouldn't have the emotional damage that giving a baby up could cause. But the downside is that my parents wouldn't allow me to and I would have to go behind their backs. If I was caught they would probably kick me out of the house. So I guess I would end up choosing adoption if my parent’s wouldn’t let me abort To add to this, I also think that if I saw the ultrasound I couldn't go through with it.
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Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 11:54 am
to be perfectly honest, i'm not sure. on one hand, i know that my body is not exactly the best place for a fetus, being that i'm bulimic and tend to starve myself a lot and i'm not yet ready to recover, but on the other hand i think i'm the only one who will provide my parents with grandkids.....i'm pretty sure i would abort, but i will never truly know until i'm in that position, which thankfully has never happened yet.
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 2:01 pm
My guy said he'd hate me forever if I got an abortion, but I'd do it anyway without hesitation.
I'm childfree. To me, having a child is tantamount to suicide (no offense meant to the parents 'round here).
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 4:41 pm
Yes. Don't want pregnancy. Don't want biological kids.
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 11:27 pm
I've done it, and it was the right decision at the time (about 4 years ago). I imagine there could be a situation where I'd do it again, if I had to, but it is now less likely. Now I'm married, and I want to be a mother. We tried to conceive, and did, and now I'm pregnant. I'm not really enjoying pregnancy to be honest, but I'm willing to go through it now. I wasn't before. I've never regretted it for a single moment.
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