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I too have debated about this issue, and since i don't believe in marriage, it can be ok for sex before marriage as long as u love that person, use protection, and trust each other. sweatdrop heart

Agreed. I wonder why is people so stubborn.

"why do I have to get married before having sex, I think it's alright if you love the person blah blah blah....."

scream BECAUSE GOD SAID SO!!!!!!! scream


Is that so hard to understand? confused

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1. According to the bible, it's a sin to have premarital sex.
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2. When someone has sex, they are basically giving away a part of them to another person, and vise-versa. Wouldn't it be kinda bittersweet if you had premarital sex with someone and end up getting married to someone else? Sex is something that is sacred and should be done AFTER you're married.

My opinion though...

Ok lets put your oppinion against my experiance.

1. Ok i'll concede that point the bible does say i'm nto supposed to do that.
2. When some one has sex they are basicaly giving a part of yourself away to someone else. It's kind of bitersweet if the relationship goes sour. but actualy the feeling of being with someone so completely and wholy for even a few moments the rapture of it is indescibable. although i will say the first time sucks.You have absolutely no idea what you are doing but it is exciting and one way or another it's over way to fast. on the other hand it generates such a feeling that you realy should love the one yuo share that moment with. but trust me sex is anything but sacred if it's done right (or wrong depending on how it's perceived) it can be teh best feeling in the world.

Sex is a complete sensory experiance. it's not just the act of sticking it in a hole. (this is why guys should have experiance before getting married. taking a girls virginity is an art) Sex and love are intertwined to no end. hell, some people call the act it's self "Making Love" . The good news is that since all sins are equal it's about as bad as telling a lie.

I don't trust the words of a celebate old man. (Paul) when it comes to my sexual future. see they (the early church) didn't want people having kids at all because they thought the end of days was going to be the next morning and they didn't think it would be nessecary to continue creating new life if it was all going to end in the not too distant future. finaly the church decided well, ok you can do it, but only if you are maried and only if it's for procreation. no sex for fun. see i don't buy into the bible one hundred percent. i never have. things i read in that book just feel like the word of God is hidden in them adn ohters feel completely human. i dobelieve that the church (as an institution) may have added or removed a few things before they finaly released it to the masses.

Have you ever ******** anyone kid? no? I didin't think so. sit down and shut up. do not try and tell me what sex is and isn't.

My point is simple. being the way i am naturaly i have never realy though much of the bible. From as early on as i can remember when told "don't do that." my imedaite responce was "why not?" the bible has not given a good anser. "God says so" is not an answer it is rhetoric. i still don't know whether to believe the whole bible , or even any of it. i live by the fundamentals of christianity. God exists and becasue of him we exist. Jesus of Nazareth was the son of God. Love thy neighbour. Let he who is without sin... . the way i see it these are incorruptable truths. God has spoken to me. his first words that i can remember hearing were "I am here" so i know the Big Guy is real. as a concequence i believe Jesus is real. I know he is the son of God because with his name through prayer i have seen amazing things. and the other two were things i believed before God woke me up. i never trusted authority. especialy organized religion. the sole purpose of the institution i will collectively call "the Church" has been to keep it's self going (and money coming in) they control through fear and rhetoric. God teaches through love. and he has not once Yelled "HEY! YOU'RE NOT MARRIED TO HER! SO STOP THAT!" while i was making love to someone.
Had he done so i would refrain from sexual activity.

so, in short can any one offer me a good reason to stop having sex?

I don't realy know much about fear so please don't try and scare me with rhetoric.
I regret nothign i do. it's a principle i live by. so there your argument is flattened. and as for the soul so blackened thing. how long is that supposed to take because i have been sexualy active for abotu 4 years, i've had more than 25 sexual partners i have 0 STD's and 0 b*****d children. and my soul still shines bright enough for people to know where i heep my focus.