My school found out when they kept playing the "who does Sarah have a crush on" game and then my mom poked at me for ten minutes and made a connection (she didn't give a s***) and then told my dad and stepfather and I have yet to tell the significant other mother figure in my life but I'll tell her tomorrow.
Posted: Sun Nov 14, 2010 1:49 am
ive come out to quite a few people... not to any family yet. They have no clue it seems like. But the most interesting story would probably be... when I was in italy on a choir trip. We were all about to go to bed (me and 2 other guys and we were sharing the same bed) but they were my 2 closest friends so its not weird that i was sleeping with them or anything (one of them already knew i was gay too) but then i was just like.. hey... paul.. im gay. And he was just like.. "ok -snore- good night buttercup." so thats probably the most interesting coming out story i have.
My coming out was pretty blunt. I'm not afriad of expressing myself and it wasn't hard. I figured if my parents loved me they would accept me. I will not be upset if they choose to not love me because of how I feel. So I just came out and said it one day. My dad is cool with it but when I first told my mom she told me that she wouldn't love me and she would kick me out. Now she denies ever saying it and says she doesn't really support it but she loves me no matter what. But she still thinks it's a phase. I'm pansexual by the way. But I am in serious like with a girl at my school.
Thought I was bisexual at first then decided I didn't care if they were men, women, transexuals or hermaphrodites. Love is love heart _________________________
Posted: Sun Nov 14, 2010 11:19 am
I'm planning on moving far away and telling them over the phone. conservative parents liek their guns and don't liek their gays.
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Posted: Tue Nov 16, 2010 12:40 pm
I'm half done with my coming out. Trans issue - I'm quite sure nobody would really care about my sexual orientation, so I never had to come out about it to anyone.
Mom knows, friends know, support workers and social worker knows and I'm in the process, but... I'm stuck with dad. I'm meaning to write him a letter (or facebook message, given he's rooted in FB), after which I've meant to publish another for relatives and whoever that might be interested = everyone, in public, on my facebook.
For the first time I'm happy about social media, lol.
I tried to start it once, but I chickened out. I'm afraid. I need to gather myself because now that I'm in the process, I need to tell them in order to get diagnosed and on T - I have 6 months time, but my deadline is in few months because my patience is wearing thin with all this double life crap.
I want them to know but telling is hard.
edit: Sent dad a private message with a three pages long letter.
Posted: Tue Nov 16, 2010 8:28 pm
I came out first in high school to all my friends. Most of us were etheir bi, gay or lesbian so it was just accepted as being what it was. I waited until I was 20 to come out to my family though. It was the funniest thing.
My dad and I were sitting on the back porch talking about relationships. I of course was being vague and talking about the 'person' I might evenually be with. He kept talking about guys until he near drove me crazy and it just burst out. I said 'or girl'. Lol. He looked at me for a moment as if I'd grown another head right in front of him. When he still didn't say anything I finally after all the years admitted. 'You do know I like girls too, right? So it might be a girl. You know I'm bi, right." He paused for a moment and then simply said 'I already knew that.'
It was the biggest weight off my shoulders until he said 'You know you have to tell your grandma, right?' Now while this might be a big deal for everyone it was even bigger for me. Two of my Uncles were openly gay before they passed. In my family the subject of AIDS is a very real reality because of this. Needless to say it was difficult, but I did tell her. She still to today doesn't acknowledge my sexuality, but she's been coming around.
Well...so that's how I came out. It was more funny then I thought it would be.xp
I plan on coming out when I'm old enough to not have to depend on my parents. They're strongly against homosexuality, and if they found out their daughter is bisexual (or pansexual...> n>) I'd die.
So, when I'm not depending on them for anything at all, I may consider coming out to them.
Posted: Sat Nov 20, 2010 12:25 pm
I did it digitally. I make a webshow so I used that, and changed all of my profiles to gay within a day. Lol. You should have seen how my family reacted. (all my friends said I KNEW IT!) xp
For most people, I just let them find out, unless they ask. It's not a matter of secrecy, it's just a matter of not making it public without necessity or context.
But I had to gain the confidence to be matter-of-fact about it, so I came out to my mother first. I was struggling with it personally, and she was wondering what was bothering me, so I wrote a note and pocketed it. While she was giving me a ride to work, I tossed it at her and quickly said goodbye. The note said: "I'm gay. Don't tell Dad."
My Dad (a stepfather whom I've never regarded as "dad," not even in the actual note,) was known to have a bitter and uncomfortable perspective towards homosexuality. It was bad enough that we were detached from one another as father and son, but this would only widen the gap, as I saw it. When my mom confronted me about the note, she agreed that she wasn't going to say anything to him. (Truthfully, that really only made me feel worse about his role in my personal life.)
Anyway, my stepfather eventually found out. (How he did, I'll never really know. His excuse for coming to the knowledge is strangely vague.) I thought I was done for in the family. Surprisingly though, he was more disappointed in the fact that I couldn't tell him. He's still super awkward when talking about it with me, and can still let bitter sentiment slip through, but he's not spiteful as I thought he would be.
Posted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 4:26 pm
This site actually gave it away to my parents. I did the facebook link to get 1000 gold, because we all know that no one looks at anything except quizes on there. Well, my dad looked at it and wanted to "make sure I wasn't doing anything dangerous". while on facebook it said I was straight, my profile on here screams gay. He pulled it up and showed my mom. Luckily my parents are actually gay rights advocates, so they were cool. Still, F*** you facebook.
I decided that I am not going to tell my parents unless I find a girlfriend that I feel comfortable telling them about.
Posted: Mon Nov 29, 2010 5:49 pm
I came out as trans years ago to a couple friends and my parents. Everybody except my father seemed moderately ok with it, but my father is just.. yeah. He pretends I didn't say it, I think.
A friend of mine knows very well my feelings, and seems to be supportive, but I don't know how he truly feels.
[My story is going to be choppy,i dont feel like typing 5 pages of how i fully came out, so heres bits and pieces] I came out to my friends, because my crazy ex-girlfriend told everyone that i was dating this senior lesbian, and I lost some friends, but regained them all back when they found out that i was still the same person[I'm bi, ] and my parents found out, through notes that i would write back and forth with to my Ex, which is the girl that told everyone that i was bi, which was stupid on her part, cause she basically told everyone she was too, considering they knew we were dating. aha. what a dumb a** |: , But yeah it was ehh, i denied it to my parents. lmfao. but now we just don't speak about it. <3
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Posted: Sat Dec 04, 2010 9:47 pm
I always thought I was lesbian but never sure so I didn't say anything One day one of my best friends asked if I way gay and I was like 'yeah' (cause by now I knew) I never told my parents but my mom kinda just... caught on she's alright with it but says it's probably just a phase and not to make any choices I'll regret later and that's my story =3
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Posted: Sun Dec 05, 2010 1:28 pm
The coming out process has been really difficult for me, partly because I'm older and I lived the "straight life" for quite a while. Although I identified as bisexual when I was 12, I never came out to my parents about it. At age 18 I entered a serious relationship with a guy and I decided that it would just be easier and better for everyone if I stayed with him. Years of unhappiness eventually led to a lot of confusion and finally some self discovery.
At the age of 24 I left my long time boyfriend and started dating one of my best friends. A few months later I came out to some of my closest friends and then gradually began telling other friends. I really did the dramatic, "I have something to tell you" thing. I just said, "I'm seeing someone new, and her name is..."
I'm a senior in college and I've been a member of GSA for years, but no one there has ever actually asked me about my sexuality. We leave it up to people to tell whatever they are comfortable with. GSA was one of the first places I was able to publicly talk about having a girlfriend and it felt incredible. Talking about her there gave me the courage to talk about her with my friends
The next step is to tell my family, but I'm not sure I'm ready for that. I don't know how well they'll take it or if they'll even understand. My mom has this perception that lesbians are just women who have "given up" on men and I worry that the fact that I was in a straight relationship for so long will contribute to that.
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