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 Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 10:49 am
Tasuki_Forever I love that you're always honest. Hey, not everyone is going to agree with you all the time and I'm sure you get that. But, I rather someone that says what's on their mind than say what they think I would like to hear. Yea, sometimes it might hurt but, it's better that way in the long run. At least I'll honestly know where you stand.
An exception if anyone is disrespectful to me though, then -----> talk2hand talk to the hand. And since when are you afraid of what people think on here? Then again I guess I understand where you're coming from ._.
Sometimes I feel like I'd rather be lied to than told straight up that people don't like me... I try to act like I don't care what people think, but I really do sometimes... at least when it comes to the people I like. Like, if you were to tell me that you hated me, I'd probably feel really crappy, because I like you and I value your opinion =(
@Sikh: I've been getting enough sleep... but maybe it has something to do with not being in school all day anymore. Maybe all this free time is giving me too much time to overthink things @___@
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 10:50 am
Little Miss Fortune Kamdage I missed the gender thing but I saw and was to late to reply
@Perfect part- People are perfect as in they can be perfect for someone else
like we all look for someone we can make happy and they can make us happy =]
sorry I know you said dont bother reading this *hugs*
*Clings* T___T <33333333333333333333333333
I feel really bad for bringing so many other people into this, though... I'm really sorry to everyone I've flipped out on... I don't know what's wrong with me crying
and atleast you honest and not holding stuff in -hugs-
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 10:51 am
Kamdage its what friends and we re here for , dont be sorry if you need or wish to rant its best to rant because its a good release and beats keeping it in
and atleast you honest and not holding stuff in -hugs-
But it makes me feel like a total hypocrite >.<
*Clings tighter* crying
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 10:51 am
@LMF: I used to be the same way. I would over react about practically every single thing, even the things that really shouldn't matter. I would get upset over something insignificant, and make something small a big deal and it would turn into drama.
I'm not saying that's what you're doing or that what you said was insignificant, I'm just kind of relating I guess? But in a badly worded way. XD
I don't let things people say over the internet bother me anymore. It was getting to the point that it was about to ruin a few of my very good and great online friendships, so it had to stop if I wanted to save them.
I mean, there are things that should bother you. Like the things you pointed out, but if you make a really big deal out of it it'll just end up hurting everyone in the process. Or something like that.. I'm not exactly sure what I'm saying. XD
But um.. I don't think you're overreacting? I think those are normal things to be bothered about.
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 10:53 am
Little Miss Fortune I keep getting upset over things, and I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or not, so now I just want to type everything that pops into my head so I can get it out of my system. Don't bother reading this... ^^;;It makes me sick to read some of the s**t that people say in this guild. It's as if they think it's somehow okay to say completely sexist things, as long as they act like they're joking or something. Saying "women are better, and we should just keep men as pets" is absolutely horrible. She may have been saying that that's the way other people feel, but she also didn't include anything in her post that said "I completely disagree with this," so it sounded to me like she meant it. Why is it that people can say things like this every day, and most people don't even bat an eyelash? If it had been about race, would it have been different? What if she said "White people are better than black people, so we should keep black people as pets?" Would people still let a comment like that go without saying anything?
I don't understand why gender is made out to be such a big deal. It seems like whenever a man and a woman find out that they differ in some way, they're SO quick to attribute that difference to their gender, rather than realizing it's simply a difference in personality. I hate the whole idea of "the battle of the sexes" and all that. "Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus" or whatever. Yeah, 'cause we're an entirely difference species from another planet.
I also hate that whenever I mention my weight, people assume that I'm complaining just because they would complain if they were fat. I'm happy with my body. That doesn't mean I'm in denial about my weight. Is it so hard to believe that I can admit to being fat while also being happy with my weight? I have no problem looking in a mirror. I love the way I look. But whenever I describe myself as fat, people start trying to give me advice on ways to lose weight. Wtf? Not everyone wants to look like you. By telling me to change things about my body, you're implying that there's something that's somehow "wrong" with it. Maybe I don't conform to your narrow definition of beauty, but that DOESN'T mean that there's anything wrong with me. Go ******** yourself.
I actually read something once about how unconditional love and support led people to lose more weight than guilt and insults did. People who were made fun of or guilted into losing weight don't lose as much as people who are loved unconditionally. I find that fascinating, especially because of how it applies to me. My first boyfriend, Christopher, used to try to guilt me into losing weight. He'd make fun of me or he'd take food out of my hands and tell me I'd had enough. I gained weight throughout my relationship with him. On the other hand, Alex loves me more than anything. He's happy with my body, and he doesn't try to make me change it. I find myself feeling better and eating healthier than I did when I was with Christopher. It seems counterintuitive to me, though. If someone already loves you and thinks you're beautiful, why would you be motivated to lose weight? It's weird. ._.
Someone else said that anyone who thinks their partner is perfect is lying or delusional or something. That made me angry. Just because you've settled for someone who doesn't make you happy, that doesn't mean that anyone who claims to be happier than you is simply delusional. Maybe you need to tell yourself that so you can feel better about your shitty relationship, but I don't appreciate you trying to bring down me and my PERFECT boyfriend in the process. But hey, it's your problem, not mine =P
I feel like maybe I'm being overly sensitive in all of this, though. It's not like I can tell people not to state their opinions just because I'm upset by them. But I hang out here to get away from the real world. When I'm on Gaia, I just want to kill time and have fun, but that doesn't work when I come away from it feeling insulted or angry. Sometimes I wish that we could all just get along and talk about nothing but rainbows and unicorns all the time. But wouldn't that get boring? I love this place, but I hate the way I end up feeling sometimes when I spend time here. It would probably be way worse in the real world, though. gkgljfglkjfgkj I don't know what to do. At least letting all of this out has helped a little, but I'm afraid that people are going to read this and hate me for it. I hate that I get upset so easily T____T Meh. Both genders have fatal flaws, and many positive attributes aren't the result of either. Human nature is flawed in it's entirety. But, then again, so is life. Just a continuous string of the best that you can get, though it's far from perfect. *Shrug.* Weight is a person's deal. Small people, large people, rather meaningless in most aspects. And the heart can lead people to ignore flaws in others. More prevalent with parents, however. Racism wouldn't have lasted a long time at all if it wasn't true.
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 10:54 am
Kuroyanagika @LMF: I used to be the same way. I would over react about practically every single thing, even the things that really shouldn't matter. I would get upset over something insignificant, and make something small a big deal and it would turn into drama.
I'm not saying that's what you're doing or that what you said was insignificant, I'm just kind of relating I guess? But in a badly worded way. XD
I don't let things people say over the internet bother me anymore. It was getting to the point that it was about to ruin a few of my very good and great online friendships, so it had to stop if I wanted to save them.
I mean, there are things that should bother you. Like the things you pointed out, but if you make a really big deal out of it it'll just end up hurting everyone in the process. Or something like that.. I'm not exactly sure what I'm saying. XD
But um.. I don't think you're overreacting? I think those are normal things to be bothered about.
But is it better to speak up when something upsets me or bottle it up until I flip out and rant like this? Because this doesn't feel good... but I hate that I've turned into the sexism police or whatever. I feel like I'm being a stick in the mud while everyone else is just trying to have fun >.<
@Divine: Thanks for not being a jerk when you easily could have <3
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 10:57 am
Little Miss Fortune Kuroyanagika @LMF: I used to be the same way. I would over react about practically every single thing, even the things that really shouldn't matter. I would get upset over something insignificant, and make something small a big deal and it would turn into drama.
I'm not saying that's what you're doing or that what you said was insignificant, I'm just kind of relating I guess? But in a badly worded way. XD
I don't let things people say over the internet bother me anymore. It was getting to the point that it was about to ruin a few of my very good and great online friendships, so it had to stop if I wanted to save them.
I mean, there are things that should bother you. Like the things you pointed out, but if you make a really big deal out of it it'll just end up hurting everyone in the process. Or something like that.. I'm not exactly sure what I'm saying. XD
But um.. I don't think you're overreacting? I think those are normal things to be bothered about.
But is it better to speak up when something upsets me or bottle it up until I flip out and rant like this? Because this doesn't feel good... but I hate that I've turned into the sexism police or whatever. I feel like I'm being a stick in the mud while everyone else is just trying to have fun >.<
@Divine: Thanks for not being a jerk when you easily could have <3Easy things aren't worth the while. [/shot] ninja I might not be nice, per say, but I only move with reason. Some would venture to call it laziness, and I call that assumption stupidity.
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 11:10 am
Little Miss Fortune Tasuki_Forever I love that you're always honest. Hey, not everyone is going to agree with you all the time and I'm sure you get that. But, I rather someone that says what's on their mind than say what they think I would like to hear. Yea, sometimes it might hurt but, it's better that way in the long run. At least I'll honestly know where you stand.
An exception if anyone is disrespectful to me though, then -----> talk2hand talk to the hand. And since when are you afraid of what people think on here? Then again I guess I understand where you're coming from ._.
Sometimes I feel like I'd rather be lied to than told straight up that people don't like me... I try to act like I don't care what people think, but I really do sometimes... at least when it comes to the people I like. Like, if you were to tell me that you hated me, I'd probably feel really crappy, because I like you and I value your opinion =(
@Sikh: I've been getting enough sleep... but maybe it has something to do with not being in school all day anymore. Maybe all this free time is giving me too much time to overthink things @___@
Anyways, I don't think you were necessarily overreacting. That's just me. Equality in terms of sex, race, religion, etc is something that I'm a bit sensitive too as well. However, for another person, it may not be a big deal. Just be you LMF, there's always gonna be those that love you or hate you
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 11:15 am
I know there will always be people who love me or hate me, but I don't exactly wanna go out of my way to give people even more reasons to hate me, you know? D=
It's not like I like being like this... When I see a post like the ones I described, I always have a battle with myself before posting. It's like "ARGGG! HOW CAN THEY BE SO STUPID! I NEED TO YELL AT THEM!" and then I'm like "Wait, no, they were probably just joking... I should give them the benefit of the doubt..." and then I'm like "BUT WHAT IF THEY DON'T EVEN REALIZE HOW HORRIBLE WHAT THEY'RE SAYING IS?!?!" and it goes back and forth like that until I finally get angry enough to post, and then I regret it immediately.
I hate it crying
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 11:15 am
I'd wanna hear the truth more if it'd sting, honestly. Bad things would go on should such feelings go untold.
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 11:19 am
Divine_Malevolence I'd wanna hear the truth more if it'd sting, honestly. Bad things would go on should such feelings go untold.
I'd rather be lied to to keep from being hurt. Like, remember when Shae listed all the faults she thought we had? Rather than taking that as constructive criticism, I let it get to me and it almost ruined my friendship with her. As long as she still likes me enough to want to be friends with me, I'd rather she keep any bad feelings to herself, because telling me is just going to hurt me.
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 11:23 am
Little Miss Fortune Kuroyanagika @LMF: I used to be the same way. I would over react about practically every single thing, even the things that really shouldn't matter. I would get upset over something insignificant, and make something small a big deal and it would turn into drama.
I'm not saying that's what you're doing or that what you said was insignificant, I'm just kind of relating I guess? But in a badly worded way. XD
I don't let things people say over the internet bother me anymore. It was getting to the point that it was about to ruin a few of my very good and great online friendships, so it had to stop if I wanted to save them.
I mean, there are things that should bother you. Like the things you pointed out, but if you make a really big deal out of it it'll just end up hurting everyone in the process. Or something like that.. I'm not exactly sure what I'm saying. XD
But um.. I don't think you're overreacting? I think those are normal things to be bothered about.
But is it better to speak up when something upsets me or bottle it up until I flip out and rant like this? Because this doesn't feel good... but I hate that I've turned into the sexism police or whatever. I feel like I'm being a stick in the mud while everyone else is just trying to have fun >.<
@Divine: Thanks for not being a jerk when you easily could have <3Well, if you think it's important to speak up, you should. Just try not to speak up every single time like I did.. because it got to the point where my friends would know when they said or did something, they'd be able to predict that I was going to freak. ^^;; I'd say.. pick and choose which times you feel you should speak up, and which times you think it doesn't need you to speak up. Find a middle ground. Speaking up every single time and not saying anything at all both will likely end up badly. Also, I've been in the same situation with a friend of mine concerning someone I like hating me. I still consider her my friend because I do value her opinion and think she's a great friend. I just messed up to the point that she practically hates me and I have to earn her respect and friendship back. I did feel pretty crappy for a while, but I eventually got over it. I do still consider her my friend, I just resolved that moping around about it isn't going to change anything. If I want her friendship back, I have to prove to her that I can be a good friend again and earn it back.
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 11:26 am
Little Miss Fortune Divine_Malevolence I'd wanna hear the truth more if it'd sting, honestly. Bad things would go on should such feelings go untold.
I'd rather be lied to to keep from being hurt. Like, remember when Shae listed all the faults she thought we had? Rather than taking that as constructive criticism, I let it get to me and it almost ruined my friendship with her. As long as she still likes me enough to want to be friends with me, I'd rather she keep any bad feelings to herself, because telling me is just going to hurt me."I let it"
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 11:26 am
Kuroyanagika Well, if you think it's important to speak up, you should. Just try not to speak up every single time like I did.. because it got to the point where my friends would know when they said or did something, they'd be able to predict that I was going to freak. ^^;; I'd say.. pick and choose which times you feel you should speak up, and which times you think it doesn't need you to speak up. Find a middle ground. Speaking up every single time and not saying anything at all both will likely end up badly. Also, I've been in the same situation with a friend of mine concerning someone I like hating me. I still consider her my friend because I do value her opinion and think she's a great friend. I just messed up to the point that she practically hates me and I have to earn her respect and friendship back. I did feel pretty crappy for a while, but I eventually got over it. I do still consider her my friend, I just resolved that moping around about it isn't going to change anything. If I want her friendship back, I have to prove to her that I can be a good friend again and earn it back.
That's really good advice... I just hope I can put it into practice... >.<
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Posted: Wed May 26, 2010 11:34 am
Little Miss Fortune Kuroyanagika Well, if you think it's important to speak up, you should. Just try not to speak up every single time like I did.. because it got to the point where my friends would know when they said or did something, they'd be able to predict that I was going to freak. ^^;; I'd say.. pick and choose which times you feel you should speak up, and which times you think it doesn't need you to speak up. Find a middle ground. Speaking up every single time and not saying anything at all both will likely end up badly. Also, I've been in the same situation with a friend of mine concerning someone I like hating me. I still consider her my friend because I do value her opinion and think she's a great friend. I just messed up to the point that she practically hates me and I have to earn her respect and friendship back. I did feel pretty crappy for a while, but I eventually got over it. I do still consider her my friend, I just resolved that moping around about it isn't going to change anything. If I want her friendship back, I have to prove to her that I can be a good friend again and earn it back.
That's really good advice... I just hope I can put it into practice... >.<-hugs- heart It took me a while to actually do this myself, but once I put it into practice, a lot of things started to get better. I wish you luck with it all. <3
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