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This is my "viewpoint" on sex and marriage...

I don't believe in sex. Sex is something wordly people do out of lust. I see it as making love. Thats what I feel it is to me, love. I prefer people be in love to make love. I think it is better that two people be in love, and not married and make love, rather than get married, with no love, just to have sex. If you get married just to have sex, that is an insult to the institution of marriage. I've never lost my virginity. I gave it to my love and I have hers in my heart. It was something we both talked about for a long time and we both made sure it wasn't lust. We discussed our wedding night and the possibility of us separating (should it come to that). We decided it was something we wanted to go through with in our love.

We did separate for a while and even then we talked it wasn't something we regreted, actually, it was one of the best memories period. We're back together now. My viewpoint hasn't changed and I'm not any less "pure" as when I was baptized...

I don't suggest this for everyone because not everyone shares my point of view of love, but thats my story

I'm sorry to hear your first time wasn't a good one...

If you wait to have sex then you're positive you won't get STD's or get pregnant/get someone pregnant, or feel guilty about not waiting.

I say you should wait.

It's wrong, because sex is a uniting of man and wife.
Why would you have sex with someone else if you are not morried?

that's a very good point, and people should NEVER marry just for the sex. if you don't marry for love then you are making a mockery of what god has planned for you, not to mention that you are missing out on some seriously wonderful, deep spiritual gifts that god wants you to have.
and a wedding should be proclaiming to god and to the world that you are taking this person in the most intimate relationship humanly possible (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) and that you will love this person and work to grow closer to god together (and by growing closer to god, you grow closer to each other) for the rest of your lives (until one dies, anyway). it shouldn't be "yeah, i'm gonna bone them over and over until we get bored, so then we'll just get a divorce." (jesus said divorce was only acceptable in the case of sexually immorality. period.) and when you say "i do" you are not making a promise to the person you're marrying or to their family. you are making a promise to god.
people don't seem to understand that there's more to love than sex and there's more to sex than the physical. marriage should only occur between you and a person that god would want you to marry, and only when both have reached that point in both their relationships w/ each other and w/ god where you are both ready spiritually and emotionally. once you have gotten to that point, sex should be a by-product of your love. sex is a wonderful great fantastic gift god has given to married couples and he definitely would want you to take advantage of it at that point.
sex, at its core, should be a form of worship. i know, it's strange to look at it that way, but think a/b it. it's obviously a very intense, personal, intimate thing, just like our relationship w/ god should be. by becoming one w/ someone else in a physical fleshly way, you are symbolizing the very intimate way you should be one w/ god (and your spouse) spiritually.

i think its wrong, very wrong. you should wait till your married and can trust your partner befor you give somthing to special up

If your christian and you respect your beliefs ,. then what in ******** name are you thinking.. going around having sex before your marrige.. I myself are among you what I think uhmm what you call a pagan.. nor do i know much of your belief.. thus do i not need for they do not lay far apart..I promissed myslef not to have sex after i were to be 16.. and my first one was not a good experiance as well.. I still hate him for what he did to me.. and well I'm bisexual as well,, and I made out with a girl when i was like ten or eleven,,by making out I mean the whole packege..

Really .. I think the age thing doesnt tottaly matter .. aslong as you keep dignity to yourself.. And as for following your religion.. you decide wheter you want to have sex or not, God does not see it as a Sin.. enjoying yourself.. isnt a sin.. for then you wernt allowed to enjoy life .. and to kill yourself.. with a single breath taking, but that's my point of view..I have a friend who Belives in Jahova, He's comparable to god..only with a little twist.. she now has a BF for a while now.. and yes they fool around.. but she has said to me and others and to herself that she wasnt going to have sex with him after they were 18 or marriede.. and he's a year younger.. so she'll have to wait a bit longer,, So as you see.. it's how you set your needs.. not such crap as the devil pressuring you to make love , Its your own decision. He will not punish you if you wer enot to keep the promise.. it's you who will punish yourself.. for God knows you will..and will not mind one persons life , when there are miljoens of more in war , struggeling with deat and poverty, so mind yourself to be careful, and not to rash yourself into any situation..Belive me.. I know what I'm talking about cry

And the way I see it.. most people these days get married, cheat , or divorce, or kill there partners for mony.. anmd i wish no such thing upon myself.. so All i'd do is a smaller commitment.. not even at all.. on paper but to eachother, They way I have experianced is that marrige is a tottal drag.. but thus shall you not forget .. it's not always like that..


(sorry for the bad grammer.. My English is rather bad, that what you get when foreign people invate xp )