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 Posted: Mon Feb 20, 2006 6:07 pm
Rhiannon_Larae My own rant/question: So, I got my first random beggar PM today, less than a week after FINALLY getting my lovely butterfly wings! gonk What? If you dress nicely, it's grounds for harrassment because you MUST be loaded? How are these PMs handled? It's ok to just ignore this little beggar-boy, right? Adding insult to injury is that the kid can't flippin' spell! In the last week or so, I have gotten at least four random friend requests. I've never had a problem with it overly much in the past. Usually they just watn to chat and I don't mind that. Then, some girl made her name like mine.. and used her alt account to tell me her friend's name was almost just like mine. At first i fell for it, and I was being nice and gonna "adopt" her. Then, soon as i told her that, she started asking for my stuff, so I did give her a few things I wasn't using. Then, the very next day, I get another pm asking for even more stuff. So I was like, "What happened to the stuff I gave you?" She told me she sold it. stressed And, pm'ed me everyday for almost 2 weeks. Then, she changed her name and soon after made antoher alt account named something similar. Now, when that happened.. that acct pm'd me asking for stuf. And, on top of that for some odd reason, in the last week, I've gotten like countless pm's for stuff. I've gotten to where I just turn people down right away or just delete the pm. Kind of pisses me off because I am one of those people who it takes me a long time to make money on gaia. And, I've quested for a lot of what i have... or, some people were nice and did donate a few event items. But, those things I'm not giving away cuz they were presents and I happen to like them. What? I should have to give away everything and be naked? I don't think so... bleh.. I don't mind helping people out. But, when they don't even wanna poll or do anything. that just pisses me off. [end rant]
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Posted: Mon Feb 20, 2006 8:16 pm
They'll push and I outright will not give ANYTHING to a beggar. They get a to-the-point PM from me saying that what they are doing is rude, tactless and if they do it again I will report them to a moderator for harrassing me. I remember early on in my Gaia days even the begging PMs were a reportable offense, but apparently that's not the case anymore.
As for the protesting: TACKY, is all I'll say about that. People have a natural talent for forming a blind-spot when it comes to their behavior conctradicting everything they're supposed to believe and practice. Or when they believe they're morally superior, nothing applies to them. Thou shall not kill? Protest an abortion clinic, that isn't so bad except some escalate that to KILLING staff from said clinics. But it's OK to do that, those people 'murder' and it's suddenly man's place to judge and punish which I seem to remember being stressed is not our place to do.
I'm going to stay away from that before I get too much into religion though, because I don't want to offend anyone or see this get ugly which it could really quickly.
I'd just like to see people embrace the ideals they're supposed to like compassion and holding judgement on fellow people. Hiding hate and intolerance under a religious guise is disgusting if nothing else. I'd never pretend to personally know what God wants or how he goes about judging as what are the worst sins and how to punish them.
Oh god, that's it, I'm just shutting up. >_o -jedi mind trick- You saw none of this.
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Posted: Tue Feb 21, 2006 11:41 pm
Nikolita I couldn't date alone until I was 16 either. Not that that did much, since both sets of parents were still really way overprotective. sweatdrop I don't smoke, drink lots or do drugs though, because I know the effect it would have on my body. Overprotective? (I'm not saying my situation was worse, just giving an example 'cause I feel like it.) I wasn't allowed to watch The Simpsons until I was 14. They thought I was mischievous enough, I didn't need lessons from Bart. The twisted part is: for the most part, I listened! confused Their plan worked a little too well, though. I had my first date when I was 20. sweatdrop But yeah, I'm the same way with drugs and alcohol and whatnot, mainly because that two-year-old habit of asking "Why?" NEVER went away. As I grew up, they'd say no, and I wouldn't accept it until they told me why, and as much as I hated it, on some level I knew they were right. Eventually, I could come back with my own arguments and could usually reach a compromise we were all happy with. Hurray for awareness of right and wrong! Boo to "because I said so" Sorry for rambling.
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Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2006 2:11 pm
I didn't mean overprotective in just the dating sense, there were lots of other reasons too of course.
My mother is also the cause of my anxiety (took her leaving to Japan to finally figure this out for sure), so I had that going against me too. I'm finally starting to deal with it, now that my mom is not around for the next while, and I'm glad I'm getting better.
With a lot of right and wrong things, I kind of just taught myself. This includes sex and drugs and all that stuff. When my brother hit 16, my parents basically started passively parenting, and things weren't too good after that. neutral
So I'm on my own now, and am very happy with how things are turning out.
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Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2006 8:17 pm
@Overprotective parents discussion: I, for the most part, was raised by my INCREDIBLY Southern Babtist grandparents during my crazay adolescent years. Talk about overprotective! They raised me like it was the 1950s all over again. gonk Mind you, I'm not really complaining, now that I can look back on things with an adult's eyes.... and that I love them both way too much to be angry, but some things they did were just absurd. People, MTV was not allowed in my house. Along with the Simpsons, In Living Color, SNL, HBO, R-rated movies (at all), you can forget any form of cursing.... even pseudo stuff like "friggin or freakin", I wasn't even allowed to say "butt"! I was told to say "behind" or...... uuhhh.... "hiney". It was a sad time. A sad time which ended up prompting my total and complete rebellion of everythingeveromg!!11!! I shaved my head, donned scarey clothes, snuck out, got experimental, quit church, had boyfriends anyway, got tattoos, and raised general hell. Whee! But, like saints, my grandparents took it in stride and made fun of me. xd Not like, "Ha ha you're a loser", but like "We still love you but you're being ridiculous, dear." In the end I turned out... like I am now. However that is. In other news, I present this double whammy (for those who aren't on my LJ). Be prepared to be HORRIFICALLY offended by these two articles: Italy and it's really great justice system is hard at work! http://edition.cnn.com/2006/WORLD/europe/02/17/italy.abuse.reut/index.htmlAnd Loser much? * WARNING - This one is a bit "descriptive" about shaving certain areas and such, but nothing any worse than other stuff I've seen posted on Gaia. Enjoy* http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0217062contract1.html
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Posted: Thu Feb 23, 2006 10:58 pm
Well, for all the overprotection, you each seem to have turned out pretty cool, nonetheless. badloki In other news, I present this double whammy (for those who aren't on my LJ). Be prepared to be HORRIFICALLY offended by these two articles: Italy and it's really great justice system is hard at work! http://edition.cnn.com/2006/WORLD/europe/02/17/italy.abuse.reut/index.html And Loser much? * WARNING - This one is a bit "descriptive" about shaving certain areas and such, but nothing any worse than other stuff I've seen posted on Gaia. Enjoy* http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/0217062contract1.html Well, you warned me. I braced myself. I read the contract entirely. ... I feel ill! gonk I hope she didn't agree to ANY of that. I'm hoping many things for him right now... all but one of them being painful... very painful. twisted
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:36 am
Majior RANT warning!!!
I am so mad about his I had to wait a day to post about it just so I could keep my cool. Some of you know I have a son with some special educational and behavioral needs. He is basically a good kid whop has been through the wringer of abuse by my ex, taking him to court over it, loosing on a technicality (the had another convicted ***** living in the home at the time the abuse occured = reasonable doubt), and learning difficulties on top of all that! But that is not my rant just a little history!
Finally I find a school for him where he is having his needs met, he has a doc who has perscribed medication that helps, and he is doing great!! getting 80% in some courses! But we are poor! I live in Canada so I am very fortunate to be covered by Provincial Disability supports and most of our medication is covered and dental too! I feel very very lucky! However there is ALWAYS a but!
This new medication is not totally covered... this means that it will not be covered unless it is a special case. Well his DOCTOR feels it is a special case. The other medications are counter indicated because of his anxiety! He needs to be on the medication first perscribed... but the cost is prohibitave. Still I went out to on a limb to pay for it hoping that the special case review board would aprove it... most of my budget for things like clothing or school lunches for the rest of the family went to pay for his medication. The claim was deneyed out of hand because the medication was new!
So they then say it will be covered but only if the other medication for the condition is tried first. Now I dunno if any of you are familier with stimulant medication to treat ADD and ADHD but they have been proven to stop working post puberty in most cases. They are amphetamines (sp?) they work on the adult or adolecant brain like speed! They can lead to increased anxiety and irratability. But my child decided to take one for the team and for the aske of getting his necessary medication aproved he elected to do the medication switch, a meds test to see if the other medication would work. Well it is NOT working... as suspected by the Doctor his anxiety levels went through the roof.
Meds test confirmed put him back on the proper medication right? NOPE! Some government pencil pushing desk jockey has decided that he will change the rules and now he needs to be tried on yet another medication almost identical to the other one that is making him so much worse, that has more serious side effects (some of them permanent) before they will aprove the original good medication for coverage.
Meanwhile, my son was promised he would not be put on this drug. His grades are tanking, he is getting into trouble and feeling totally out of control and very horrible on this medication. He is jittery and anxious his condition converts fear into anger and causes him to fight to control his behviour!
WHY is some desk jocky getting to over ride my child's DOCTOR is deciding how to treat his patients? I know I am very lucky to get the entitlements I do with the social programs in my country and province! Do not get me wrong. But this medication may not save his life physically, but it will save his chances at becomming a productive member of society! If this were physically life saving sure we would do whatever it took to get him that drug. But I cannot conutanance putting a child through this hell just so some government buracrat can make sure his i's are dotted and t's are crossed. If the program is going to cover medication it should do it! If a doctor says this kid needs this drug that is legal in this country then that child should get it, not be put on protenially dangerous medications that DO NOT WORK and make his condition worse!
ARRGH!
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2006 8:36 am
Krystal that freaking sucks. You'd think after the test run that'd be fine. And since the doctor has made a CASE for it that it's not just to bilk the govt. out of money. I wonder if there is anyone else you can go to. A letter you can write...sometimes, just sometimes a well written letter to the exact right person will help. See if your doctor recommends someone you can contact yourself.
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2006 10:12 am
Krystlanna, I don't know what to say, but I'm so sorry you and your son have to go through this.
Just so you know, I'm in Canada too, and currently getting welfare and applying for disability. Now I haven't gotten the runaround at all, compared to what you're dealing with, (did you know Epipens aren't covered? ) but if you ever need to rant, please feel free to PM me.
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2006 5:38 pm
scream Grrrr ! I am so pissed! I was just in the avi arena and last weeks second place is someone dressed as a hobo. The outfit is mostly the same stuff I had on when I entered my hobo in like the third week of the arena. It just really bugs me because I was waiting and planning to re-enter the outfit at some point and now it's no good, because I will look like the rip off. Just so irritating.
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Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2006 6:44 pm
My mother had something very similar happen with her migraine meds. The only one that worked was the name brand and the insurance company told her she couldn't have it. She didn't win getting what she needed but I know her doctor called them pitching a fit about how they had no right to dictate what he could and could not prescribe her.
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So while not quite the same, I can totally understand the frustration of some person behind a desk deciding you aren't worthy of your meds.
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Posted: Sat Feb 25, 2006 10:46 am
Thanks to everyone for the support. I am working on the letter writing idea, I am sort of resigned to the fact that once this new meds test is over we should get the right medication. It is just the whole changing the rules in the middle that really ticked me off!
But I am a bit of an outspoken activist and I really do not wish to see this happen to another person's child. So I am looking at who in government I need to put pressure on in the government to change things.
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2006 1:48 pm
 Do you think it's too much? xd
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2006 3:13 pm
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2006 7:11 pm
I happen to love it. But I'm just a meanie head. <3
I really don't get how a teenager can call themselves a CFer anyway, because um, weren't we all saying we would never had kids when we were that age for the most part? It kinda goes with the territory. ROFL
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