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First of all I don't think it's stupid.Actually one of my friends is going through the same thing,but he doesn't seem to want to change.You're on the right track because at least you are admitting that it's wrong. Because sin is fun for a season sometimes it takes us awhile before we want to stop. Sounds like you are seeing the consequences of it and you want to stop. Remember sin always starts with a temptation. You get tempted when the girls start flirting with you, so you have to determine in your heart what you should do when it happens. Be ready next time.When a girl starts flirting with you that you know you are not interested in, be nice but don't be overly nice. Take it one step at a time. If you fail, just pick yourself up and try next time. It sounds like girls like you so you probably will have more opportunities to overcome this. ANd once you do, it will get easier every time. Ask yourself what your motive is for flirting. Like why do you do it. We like attention, but really, just trust that the Lord has a girl just for you out there that is worth all your attention and will be worth waiting for. It will happen sooner than you think. And once it does, as long as you are walking with the Lord you will be able to continually overcome flirting.

My advice to you would be to make a decision and stick to it. God made you and your boyfriend to be attracted to the opposite sex. But as you know he created sex for marriage. When we go outside those boundaries we get hurt or hurt others but most of all we are disobeying our Lord. You know how hard it is when you put yourself in a situation when you are alone, one thing leads to another. You might not have crossed that line yet but you will if you continue down that path. It's best to make boundaries and ask him to respect you and be strong for you. You are worth it. One thing too is to watch what you think about. Alot of temptations start in our mind. If a thought comes in it really isn't a sin until you dwell on it and so forth. So when it happens take control over it and surrender it to the Lord. It is a process that takes practice, but it will help you to overcome these temptations. Also confession is good, talk to someone about it, you will see that by bringing it to the light it loses some of it's power over you. The devil wants you to think that you are sooo bad and that you can never overcome this, but he is a liar, and you can do all things through Jesus.

Umm...this might be a dumb problem, but it's been stressing me out. when i started dating my boyfriend, my friends all said it wouldn't work cuz he MIGHT have cheated on his last girlfriend, but it's not for sure that that's why they broke up. And i trust him, its just that he's leaving for camp for several weeks, and there's a nagging fear in the back of my brain that won't leave me alone...that he might cheat on me...i don't know what to think sweatdrop

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i worried about that with my boyfriend for a while. i think its just an insecurity thing that all girls get, whether your friends have perpetuated or not. dont rule out the possiblility but dont let it get in the way of the relationship either. talk to him about it, and pray. =]

My school is like that too. There's not much you can do with the people you don't know, but what I've done in the past is: if my friends swear, I just ask them (nicely) to stop because I don't like it/agree with it, etc. Some won't stop, but the nice ones will. It worked for me, hope it works for you! smile

A church should NEVER treat anyone that way. If people in that church were really Christians, then they'd welcome ALL people to thier church and be loving...Trust me! You need to find a church that is more on fire for God. If you can't find a church soon, remember to keep calling on Jesus. Tell Him everything! Also, read His word and trust Him that He will bless you and your baby. I'll pray for you...