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Look guys, I see that my post was something controversial and I apologise. I honestly didn't mean to offend anyone and will think more before posting next time.

So let me rephrase my point: I feel monogamy is much more deep a relationship. No matter what gender it is with. That is my opinion and I do not mean to offend you if it is not yours as well.

I am not closed-minded if my opinion differs from yours.

And that's exactly what I meant... but "someone who hates the GLBT community" isn't exclusive to only the worst homophobes. Hate spans a large scale, from posting minor hateful messages on a forum like this, to punching people in locker-rooms for being gay, to holding widescale protests with a rationale that defies all logic and human decency. Just because some forms are worse than others doesn't mean only the worst one is hateful; there's a lowest common denominator.

I'm only arguing this because you keep not understanding that I'm not at all saying her behavior was something as bad as the behaviors of those "higher-up" homophobes, and you appear to keep saying that it's what I meant when I'm the person who knows what I meant when I wrote that. :/ But plainly, it was hateful, as far as I saw it. She's apologized now and that's good, but that comment was in response to her initial post, not to her apology.

Hatred towards polyamorous people is just as bad as hatred towards GLBT people. Period.


Thanks.


Your prerogative to have that opinion, certainly. But I don't think it's your place to be the judge of someone else's relationship -- it doesn't work for you, well, that doesn't mean that it's less deep for someone else. I don't see how there could possibly be an objective standard for the depth of a relationship. Isn't it about how the people involved in it experience their own feelings?

I get that. You made that point just fine. But you kept talking about how I was comparing her to people like Phelps (or "comparing Bush to Hitler") when I was not. That's all I was objecting to, okay? You don't seem to be getting that no matter how many times I say it. confused

Yeah I noticed that too. And if I may add one more thing, do not treat me like my opinion is wrong and bad and evil because it's just a viewpoint that's different than yours.

That's fine to have that opinion. The words you used were still hateful, even if you don't hate them, so I don't think my inferrence was too far off. But you've already apologized for this, so it's okay.


I'm not asking you to change your gut feeling about it. I'm just saying that you can't really decide for someone else how deep their relationship is.


And here I thought it was you who was treating poly folk as being bad and evil to begin with. Silly me. I'm being just as civil as you are now, aren't I? Please don't be hypocritical and cite when I first responded to you angrily (and I do recognize that I certainly could have / should have done that more civilly) when your initial post was such as it was.

Agreed. I think you should either be in an open relationship with all genders, or you should be in a committed relationship with one person. Unless it's a threesome relationship. Though, from what I understand, those tend to get complicated.