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Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2012 2:40 am
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Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2012 3:58 am
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Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2012 4:24 am
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Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2012 8:29 am
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If you don't want a big ceremony, you could just go to city hall and sign a paper. If you want to argue about the paper meaning nothing, well, I think you should take a look at this. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BxOnOCpC6gA 3nodding Marriage vows are deeper than most people may think. And when you say Adam and Eve never had any witnesses or a wedding (considering the circumstances that they were supposedly the first humans on earth), and yet they were husband and wife, God was their witness to their wedding, and to them being husband and wife. God encourages marriage. 3nodding
Genesis 2:22-25 "And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed."
It's also said if you feel overtly passionate about someone, or burning with passion, you should get married to avoid sexual sin. (Fornication-sex before marriage, lust, cheating ect).
"But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband." This verse, states that marriage is the "cure" for sexual immorality."1 Corinthians 7:2
Now when you say we depend on the legal system to determine how people get married, do you mean the legal laws in the bible as well? Should we just throw God's word/guidelines in the garbage, and become secular? confused
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Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2012 11:57 pm
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Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 2:22 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 2:45 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 8:41 am
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I'm glad fornication was brought up because it got me thinking: wouldn't that mean having sex with someone you have no intention of marrying (exclusively uniting to forever)? That would include lusting after people that you have no intention of marrying; it's having sex promiscuously like a prostitute (having many sexual partners) without being exclusive to one person, in body and in mind, forever.
All the verses that speak of fornication sound like whorish behavior: [»], a total of 40 verses in the KJV; a whore is someone who sleeps around with many people and isn't faithful to one and only one.
To quote a few on the list:
Quote: John 8:41 Ye do the deeds of your father. Then said they to him, We be not born of fornication; we have one Father, even God.
One god, not many.
Quote: 1 Corinthians 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife , and let every woman have her own husband.
A man has one wife, not many wives. A woman has one husband, not many husbands. The emphasis being on exclusivity (and opposite sex), not on ceremony.
Quote: Revelation 2:14 But I have a few things against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumblingblock before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornication.
Balaam advised him to lure prostitutes into the camp and the children of Israel fornicated with them (Numbers 25); so again, don't whore yourself out. That's what fornication is.
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Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 10:37 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 11:22 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 11:49 am
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real eyes realize SinfulGuillotine Promiscuous = having had many sexual partners, usually without being in a relationship with said partners. Prostitute/whore = someone who has sex in exchange for money or other material gain. Sorry, using those terms interchangeably is a huge pet peeve of mine. All prostitutes are promiscuous, but not all promiscuous people are prostitutes. I was defining those terms based on scriptural examples; YHWH called Israel a whore/prostitute/harlot for "sleeping" around with foreign god(s), not necessarily for money, they were just plain disloyal to him. There's all kinds of nasty words that have been used for centuries to describe people (historically mostly women) who engage or have engaged in promiscuous behaviour, and I don't find any of them appropriate words to describe human beings. (Except perhaps for "prostitute," but only if it's being used to describe a person who has sex for money, and even then, the term "sex worker" is far more PC.)
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Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2012 12:09 pm
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SinfulGuillotine real eyes realize SinfulGuillotine Promiscuous = having had many sexual partners, usually without being in a relationship with said partners. Prostitute/whore = someone who has sex in exchange for money or other material gain. Sorry, using those terms interchangeably is a huge pet peeve of mine. All prostitutes are promiscuous, but not all promiscuous people are prostitutes. I was defining those terms based on scriptural examples; YHWH called Israel a whore/prostitute/harlot for "sleeping" around with foreign god(s), not necessarily for money, they were just plain disloyal to him. There's all kinds of nasty words that have been used for centuries to describe people (historically mostly women) who engage or have engaged in promiscuous behaviour, and I don't find any of them appropriate words to describe human beings. (Except perhaps for "prostitute," but only if it's being used to describe a person who has sex for money, and even then, the term "sex worker" is far more PC.)
I don't know what other words you have in mind, but this applies to both women and men. It doesn't really matter how the world defines behavior though, or what they think is politically-correct; How YHWH defines a thing is what matters, and it boils down to this: YHWH disapproves of sleeping around and having multiple partners. He's constantly talking about being loyal to one, unless that person commits sexual immorality against you and you divorce them. (More often than not, he's describing his relationship to the nation of Israel; but he expects the same out of the relationships we have with each other).
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He divorces Israel for her "sexual immorality" with other gods: (Jeremiah 3:8 ) Jesus tells us we cannot divorce unless it's over sexual immorality: (Matthew 5:32)
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Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2012 1:13 am
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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2013 11:45 am
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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2013 3:58 pm
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Hmm. That does get me thinking a bit.
My fiance always tells me, "How I already see it, we're already married." by that, as you have stated, given our loyalty to each other beyond belief. And, we act like a married couple as far as behavior in general in public and around friends/family. So to God it's like we are "married". I use parentheses for the term married, as in going by the whole Adam/Eve scenario/desert island scenario.
As far as in terms with a church/church ceremony, like baptism, I do agree it would be best to perform marriage in front of a pastor at least. Unless your friend is a pastor themselves, would it count if a stranger or regular person baptized you nowadays compared back in the Bible? Even if it was before God and by a stranger, you'd naturally still go to a church elder to get baptized.
My fiance and I are still going to get a legal ceremony in the next year or two of course and sign that paper to make it legal.
But honestly, if it would count to have a couple Christian friends, even if they weren't a pastor, by count I mean as in baptism/marriage and still before God, I'd love to. If that were to count, that's all I need. To just be married before God with Christian friends witnessing our vows to God, that would make me so very happy. That's all my fiance and I want. Something small, sentimental. And signing a piece of paper in a court office department isn't exactly our idea of sentimental by a court officiant. If you catch my drift. If it were only that simple and easy.
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