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Since having my first serious relationship I have understood more about love and when I write I include emotion and small movement.

I'm not a virgin but I never tend to write about sex but kind of hint that it is going on, but not describe it in great detail. But I believe that you have to have some experience to understand it fully.

Like somebody said before, can you write a murder scene without murdering anybody? I suppose you write what you would do in real life.

Probably helps? There's no probably about it. razz But like Axioma said, even not being a virgin doesn't automatically mean you can write sex very well. A great deal of it is writing skill and imagination. Of course, depending on your libido, you can draw on and extrapolate from experience with masturbation to approximate what sex would be like, and while it won't always be entirely accurate, most people are not going to notice, since it's only the most intimate details (mainly the sensations of climax in/on, mouth and tongue on skin, etc.) that would be a little lacking. Even these details, though, can be fleshed out if you have a few friends who are tolerant enough of probing questions to give you that sort of information. (This is something I'm well blessed with, since one of my erotica projects is first person as a woman, but not being a woman, I'd be unable to effectively write certain elements of the story. A large portion of my women friends have been good enough to put up with some (sometimes) very probing questions so I could get that information in order to write the character more realistically.)