Pretty girls are victimized

[SmexKittan]

Snail Mother

I ain't seeing it neutral

[The_Divine_Archangel]

Chibi-Miss-Chaos

All my life everything has been about the way I look. When I was little my parents threw me into baby pageants and displayed me to their friends like I was some sort of trophy child. "Look what I made, isn't she beautiful?" As though my only worth was measured in the shine of my hair or the sparkle of blue eyes.

I was abused... well... you know, how a pretty-girl-child left alone in a drug house with perverted monsters would be abused... for years.

For a few years I did everything I could to make people think I was ugly... binge ate so I'd gain weight, dress in my brothers old baggy clothes, act mean to everyone, self mutilate, even shaved my head bald for 2 years in my teens.

But even with all the extreme measures I took, the abuse still continued - so I decided even if I hated everything about my life I didn't want to hate myself anymore. I lost the weight, grew my hair back out, started wearing clothes that actually fit me... And even though my attitude has changed the way people treat me hasn't.

I've always felt like... a doll or something. A misused toy everyone thinks they should be able to play with, that no one cares if it's broken because toys aren't real and don't have feelings.

And even after 10 years of therapy (8-18 ) I can't stop being who I am... I was taught to act a certain way around people as a child. So I'm friendly and charming and try not to say or do things to upset others. I'm like... obsessed with not making people angry, because angry people are liable to swing their fists and sling harsh words. So I don't know what to say or do when people start making me uncomfortable.

I think i have a total of three friends that don't think of me in a sexual way and act on those thoughts... I thought I had more, but recently since my 'look' or whatever has improved old friends have started to declare the existence of long held torches and have started to vie for my affections.

I can't handle it. I've stopped talking to almost everyone now, when I do see my friends they remind me why I didn't want to in the first place. When I've tried to make new friends I'm greeted with the same problem.

It hurts so much to think that my family and friends only value me for superficial reasons, that they don't see me as a person worthy of respect or honest and innocent affection. It hurts so much and I don't know what to do to change it, if I should or am able to change myself in a way that would make people see me differently, or if I should just... start cutting ties with people because I can't handle the way they treat me and don't know how to make them stop.

I have no sympathy for you, Have fun biggrin . You know, I'm glad pretty girls are victimized lol.

[ihavenewacct]

DollxSpice

Snail Mother

I ain't seeing it neutral

Seriously. I'm not.

For starters, OP wasn't the least bit hesitant to post a photo of herself ( and she's honestly not ugly, but certainly not jaw-dropping "beautiful" ). It really makes ya' wonder how "victimized" this person feels. If it be true, why give us the opportunity to judge for ourselves just as your friends/peers have? Personally, I wouldn't befriend somebody based on looks alone, even if they were the epitome of beauty. I'm hard-pressed to believe the majority do.

Having gotten that off my chest... Your friends could very well find you attractive, but aside from that physically, there's a fusion of things going on. Average/cute + personality + whatever else = beauty. It's in the eye of the beholder. Simple.

OP, bottom line, you need to seek therapy or shop for new if you feel people like you solely based on the physicalities and not a whole BEING. It's a somewhat warped and delusional way of thinking, tbh.

[EmeraldSigns]

Wet Chocolate Lips

You should get plastic surgery.
Tell the doctor make me look horrible!

I know what you mean.
Its been kind of hard for me to find somebody that likes who I am that I return the feelings to.

me too ppl just like me for my body its crazie annoying like would u plz get a mind and want to kno about emerald the person...ahhh that felt gud to let out!!

[sweaty latina]

Snail Mother

DollxSpice

Snail Mother

I ain't seeing it neutral

Seriously. I'm not.

For starters, OP wasn't the least bit hesitant to post a photo of herself ( and she's honestly not ugly, but certainly not jaw-dropping "beautiful" ). It really makes ya' wonder how "victimized" this person feels. If it be true, why give us the opportunity to judge for ourselves just as your friends/peers have? Personally, I wouldn't befriend somebody based on looks alone, even if they were the epitome of beauty. I'm hard-pressed to believe the majority do.

Having gotten that off my chest... Your friends could very well find you attractive, but aside from that physically, there's a fusion of things going on. Average/cute + personality + whatever else = beauty. It's in the eye of the beholder. Simple.

OP, bottom line, you need to seek therapy or shop for new if you feel people like you solely based on the physicalities and not a whole BEING. It's a somewhat warped and delusional way of thinking, tbh.

wow, seriously? your jealousy is seriously showing. someone had to ask her to post a picture, and she said "umm, ok" and it was a tiny webcam picture. neutral anyone telling her "you're not that pretty" has no reason to say that to her other than jealousy. if all you have to say is "you're not that pretty," then gtfo. the issue here isn't if YOU think she's pretty. she doesn't care. obviously in her life, the people that DO think she's pretty are an issue to her. so stfu and help if you can't control your jealousy, k. all you did was make ONE post, "I don't see it," then a page after that quoted yourself insisting she wasn't pretty after no one responded to you. rolleyes get over yourself.

as for my advice, I'd start trying to judge people more. it's definitely creepy how people will go out of their way to touch you and they'll get upset when you reject them. if someone makes you uncomfortable, leave the situation and don't be friends with them. everyone wants to be friends with the pretty people. it's a sad fact, and sometimes people will do anything to be a pretty person's friend.

also, I'm not sure if you mentioned this, but I think you said that acting nice towards everyone was a result of your upbringing. it's good to be nice to people and I also read that you're afraid of being insulted or hit....

look at it this way, neither of those things are very bad. yes, getting the s**t kicked out of you would suck, but that's EXTREMELY unlikely to happen and if it were to happen, there would be some very large warning signs and you could get help before it escalated.

I think you should focus on being yourself above all. you don't HAVE to be nice to everyone, especially if they're just sucking up or making you uncomfortable.

[XMintheeX]

sweaty latina

Snail Mother

DollxSpice

Snail Mother

I ain't seeing it neutral

Seriously. I'm not.

For starters, OP wasn't the least bit hesitant to post a photo of herself ( and she's honestly not ugly, but certainly not jaw-dropping "beautiful" ). It really makes ya' wonder how "victimized" this person feels. If it be true, why give us the opportunity to judge for ourselves just as your friends/peers have? Personally, I wouldn't befriend somebody based on looks alone, even if they were the epitome of beauty. I'm hard-pressed to believe the majority do.

Having gotten that off my chest... Your friends could very well find you attractive, but aside from that physically, there's a fusion of things going on. Average/cute + personality + whatever else = beauty. It's in the eye of the beholder. Simple.

OP, bottom line, you need to seek therapy or shop for new if you feel people like you solely based on the physicalities and not a whole BEING. It's a somewhat warped and delusional way of thinking, tbh.

wow, seriously? your jealousy is seriously showing. someone had to ask her to post a picture, and she said "umm, ok" and it was a tiny webcam picture. neutral anyone telling her "you're not that pretty" has no reason to say that to her other than jealousy. if all you have to say is "you're not that pretty," then gtfo. the issue here isn't if YOU think she's pretty. she doesn't care. obviously in her life, the people that DO think she's pretty are an issue to her. so stfu and help if you can't control your jealousy, k. all you did was make ONE post, "I don't see it," then a page after that quoted yourself insisting she wasn't pretty after no one responded to you. rolleyes get over yourself.

as for my advice, I'd start trying to judge people more. it's definitely creepy how people will go out of their way to touch you and they'll get upset when you reject them. if someone makes you uncomfortable, leave the situation and don't be friends with them. everyone wants to be friends with the pretty people. it's a sad fact, and sometimes people will do anything to be a pretty person's friend.

also, I'm not sure if you mentioned this, but I think you said that acting nice towards everyone was a result of your upbringing. it's good to be nice to people and I also read that you're afraid of being insulted or hit....

look at it this way, neither of those things are very bad. yes, getting the s**t kicked out of you would suck, but that's EXTREMELY unlikely to happen and if it were to happen, there would be some very large warning signs and you could get help before it escalated.

I think you should focus on being yourself above all. you don't HAVE to be nice to everyone, especially if they're just sucking up or making you uncomfortable.

I don't want to argue or sound like I'm nagging. But I seriously don't see where she's being jealous, just because she said that she personally doesn't see this girls devastating good looks. That's just her feelings. Someone saying that a person isn't that attractive doesn't always equal jealously.. We all have different views of what attractive is, be it physically or mentally. And that's probably what she meant by it. Plus she never said she was ugly, just said she didn't see whatever everyone else did.

I mean, I don't agree with everything she's said.. But I said don't see it either. And it's not because I'm jealous, there's nothing for me to be jealous of. And that's not to sound conceded either.

[Squidy McSquidsworth]

ITT fat people make themselves feel better by insulting some "hot" chick.

[sweaty latina]

MarmeeXnoir

sweaty latina

Snail Mother

DollxSpice

Snail Mother

I ain't seeing it neutral

Seriously. I'm not.

For starters, OP wasn't the least bit hesitant to post a photo of herself ( and she's honestly not ugly, but certainly not jaw-dropping "beautiful" ). It really makes ya' wonder how "victimized" this person feels. If it be true, why give us the opportunity to judge for ourselves just as your friends/peers have? Personally, I wouldn't befriend somebody based on looks alone, even if they were the epitome of beauty. I'm hard-pressed to believe the majority do.

Having gotten that off my chest... Your friends could very well find you attractive, but aside from that physically, there's a fusion of things going on. Average/cute + personality + whatever else = beauty. It's in the eye of the beholder. Simple.

OP, bottom line, you need to seek therapy or shop for new if you feel people like you solely based on the physicalities and not a whole BEING. It's a somewhat warped and delusional way of thinking, tbh.

wow, seriously? your jealousy is seriously showing. someone had to ask her to post a picture, and she said "umm, ok" and it was a tiny webcam picture. neutral anyone telling her "you're not that pretty" has no reason to say that to her other than jealousy. if all you have to say is "you're not that pretty," then gtfo. the issue here isn't if YOU think she's pretty. she doesn't care. obviously in her life, the people that DO think she's pretty are an issue to her. so stfu and help if you can't control your jealousy, k. all you did was make ONE post, "I don't see it," then a page after that quoted yourself insisting she wasn't pretty after no one responded to you. rolleyes get over yourself.

as for my advice, I'd start trying to judge people more. it's definitely creepy how people will go out of their way to touch you and they'll get upset when you reject them. if someone makes you uncomfortable, leave the situation and don't be friends with them. everyone wants to be friends with the pretty people. it's a sad fact, and sometimes people will do anything to be a pretty person's friend.

also, I'm not sure if you mentioned this, but I think you said that acting nice towards everyone was a result of your upbringing. it's good to be nice to people and I also read that you're afraid of being insulted or hit....

look at it this way, neither of those things are very bad. yes, getting the s**t kicked out of you would suck, but that's EXTREMELY unlikely to happen and if it were to happen, there would be some very large warning signs and you could get help before it escalated.

I think you should focus on being yourself above all. you don't HAVE to be nice to everyone, especially if they're just sucking up or making you uncomfortable.

I don't want to argue or sound like I'm nagging. But I seriously don't see where she's being jealous, just because she said that she personally doesn't see this girls devastating good looks. That's just her feelings. Someone saying that a person isn't that attractive doesn't always equal jealously.. We all have different views of what attractive is, be it physically or mentally. And that's probably what she meant by it. Plus she never said she was ugly, just said she didn't see whatever everyone else did.

I mean, I don't agree with everything she's said.. But I said don't see it either. And it's not because I'm jealous, there's nothing for me to be jealous of. And that's not to sound conceded either.

jealous of the attention, not jealous of her looks.

if you'll read OP's posts, she's very humble. snail and others are trying to find any reason to bring her down. rolleyes there is NO reason anyone needs to post "you're not that pretty." the issue here isn't whether or not YOU think she's pretty and commenting on her looks is out of line. the issue here is how people IN HER REAL LIFE act towards her because of her looks.

the fact that the issue is about her looks unsettles people because people are so opinionated about looks. people need to put aside their biases and give her good advice, not tear her down because you're jealous you don't get attention everyday for being pretty. the fact will still remain that she's being mistreated for her looks, and by you saying "well you're not that pretty, I don't see the problem" you're not helping AT ALL. so please, she really doesn't care whether people online think she's pretty or ugly. so don't bring it up because it's not the issue, especially if you read her first post.

stop making this an issue of whether or not YOU think she's pretty. obviously this IS an issue for her and if you want to offer advice, leave your personal opinion out of it, because it's irrelevant. the issue here is how people she knows irl treat her because of her looks. again, it doesn't matter what YOU think of how she looks. use the information she provided to offer sound advice that will help her cope and learn to accept herself.

[Absolute Zero -273C]

You look like... a lot of other girls I see. neutral

[Absolute Zero -273C]

sweaty latina

MarmeeXnoir

sweaty latina

Snail Mother

DollxSpice

Snail Mother

I ain't seeing it neutral

Seriously. I'm not.

For starters, OP wasn't the least bit hesitant to post a photo of herself ( and she's honestly not ugly, but certainly not jaw-dropping "beautiful" ). It really makes ya' wonder how "victimized" this person feels. If it be true, why give us the opportunity to judge for ourselves just as your friends/peers have? Personally, I wouldn't befriend somebody based on looks alone, even if they were the epitome of beauty. I'm hard-pressed to believe the majority do.

Having gotten that off my chest... Your friends could very well find you attractive, but aside from that physically, there's a fusion of things going on. Average/cute + personality + whatever else = beauty. It's in the eye of the beholder. Simple.

OP, bottom line, you need to seek therapy or shop for new if you feel people like you solely based on the physicalities and not a whole BEING. It's a somewhat warped and delusional way of thinking, tbh.

wow, seriously? your jealousy is seriously showing. someone had to ask her to post a picture, and she said "umm, ok" and it was a tiny webcam picture. neutral anyone telling her "you're not that pretty" has no reason to say that to her other than jealousy. if all you have to say is "you're not that pretty," then gtfo. the issue here isn't if YOU think she's pretty. she doesn't care. obviously in her life, the people that DO think she's pretty are an issue to her. so stfu and help if you can't control your jealousy, k. all you did was make ONE post, "I don't see it," then a page after that quoted yourself insisting she wasn't pretty after no one responded to you. rolleyes get over yourself.

as for my advice, I'd start trying to judge people more. it's definitely creepy how people will go out of their way to touch you and they'll get upset when you reject them. if someone makes you uncomfortable, leave the situation and don't be friends with them. everyone wants to be friends with the pretty people. it's a sad fact, and sometimes people will do anything to be a pretty person's friend.

also, I'm not sure if you mentioned this, but I think you said that acting nice towards everyone was a result of your upbringing. it's good to be nice to people and I also read that you're afraid of being insulted or hit....

look at it this way, neither of those things are very bad. yes, getting the s**t kicked out of you would suck, but that's EXTREMELY unlikely to happen and if it were to happen, there would be some very large warning signs and you could get help before it escalated.

I think you should focus on being yourself above all. you don't HAVE to be nice to everyone, especially if they're just sucking up or making you uncomfortable.

I don't want to argue or sound like I'm nagging. But I seriously don't see where she's being jealous, just because she said that she personally doesn't see this girls devastating good looks. That's just her feelings. Someone saying that a person isn't that attractive doesn't always equal jealously.. We all have different views of what attractive is, be it physically or mentally. And that's probably what she meant by it. Plus she never said she was ugly, just said she didn't see whatever everyone else did.

I mean, I don't agree with everything she's said.. But I said don't see it either. And it's not because I'm jealous, there's nothing for me to be jealous of. And that's not to sound conceded either.

jealous of the attention, not jealous of her looks.

if you'll read OP's posts, she's very humble. snail and others are trying to find any reason to bring her down. rolleyes there is NO reason anyone needs to post "you're not that pretty." the issue here isn't whether or not YOU think she's pretty and commenting on her looks is out of line. the issue here is how people IN HER REAL LIFE act towards her because of her looks.

the fact that the issue is about her looks unsettles people because people are so opinionated about looks. people need to put aside their biases and give her good advice, not tear her down because you're jealous you don't get attention everyday for being pretty. the fact will still remain that she's being mistreated for her looks, and by you saying "well you're not that pretty, I don't see the problem" you're not helping AT ALL. so please, she really doesn't care whether people online think she's pretty or ugly. so don't bring it up because it's not the issue, especially if you read her first post.

stop making this an issue of whether or not YOU think she's pretty. obviously this IS an issue for her and if you want to offer advice, leave your personal opinion out of it, because it's irrelevant. the issue here is how people she knows irl treat her because of her looks. again, it doesn't matter what YOU think of how she looks. use the information she provided to offer sound advice that will help her cope and learn to accept herself.

If she's an average looker, than idk maybe just maybe it's not because of her looks. Have you ever thought of that? rolleyes Jesus christ, stop being so insipid

@OP, it's not your looks which are dragging people into thinking of you, but rather the way you present yourself. If you're constantly charming EVERYONE, then they will be drawn to you sexually. If you soot that up a bit, you won't have to worry. No one stays friends/attracted to someone purely based on looks.

[SugaryStrawberry]

Without trying to sound like a b***h your not that pretty, infact your rather average looking. I don't see why you need to bring up your looks anyway. It has very little to do with anything.

People victimize others who appear vunerable like children and old people. Like a predator they pick on the weak member of the herd. Why? Because they know it'll be easier.

Put on a strong front make yourself appear stronger or perhaps start defending yourself. Also if you thought beyond "I'm so pretty" people would think bit more of you as a person. People don't like vanity after all.

Sorry if that was harsh but it needed to be said.

[GrandpaJones]

Chibi-Miss-Chaos

All my life everything has been about the way I look. When I was little my parents threw me into baby pageants and displayed me to their friends like I was some sort of trophy child. "Look what I made, isn't she beautiful?" As though my only worth was measured in the shine of my hair or the sparkle of blue eyes.

I was abused... well... you know, how a pretty-girl-child left alone in a drug house with perverted monsters would be abused... for years.

For a few years I did everything I could to make people think I was ugly... binge ate so I'd gain weight, dress in my brothers old baggy clothes, act mean to everyone, self mutilate, even shaved my head bald for 2 years in my teens.

But even with all the extreme measures I took, the abuse still continued - so I decided even if I hated everything about my life I didn't want to hate myself anymore. I lost the weight, grew my hair back out, started wearing clothes that actually fit me... And even though my attitude has changed the way people treat me hasn't.

I've always felt like... a doll or something. A misused toy everyone thinks they should be able to play with, that no one cares if it's broken because toys aren't real and don't have feelings.

And even after 10 years of therapy (8-18 ) I can't stop being who I am... I was taught to act a certain way around people as a child. So I'm friendly and charming and try not to say or do things to upset others. I'm like... obsessed with not making people angry, because angry people are liable to swing their fists and sling harsh words. So I don't know what to say or do when people start making me uncomfortable.

I think i have a total of three friends that don't think of me in a sexual way and act on those thoughts... I thought I had more, but recently since my 'look' or whatever has improved old friends have started to declare the existence of long held torches and have started to vie for my affections.

I can't handle it. I've stopped talking to almost everyone now, when I do see my friends they remind me why I didn't want to in the first place. When I've tried to make new friends I'm greeted with the same problem.

It hurts so much to think that my family and friends only value me for superficial reasons, that they don't see me as a person worthy of respect or honest and innocent affection. It hurts so much and I don't know what to do to change it, if I should or am able to change myself in a way that would make people see me differently, or if I should just... start cutting ties with people because I can't handle the way they treat me and don't know how to make them stop.

well this is interesting to me....I haven't seen you but I can not imagine all the personal crap you have to put up with....I know there are alot of people in this world that are very sexuall and oputspoken, and some times I have met people withoutknowing it brought that out in people....you don't suppose that you are bring ing this out in all these people? Its strange that almost all people treat you like this....hummmm


Gramps

[GrandpaJones]

Chibi-Miss-Chaos

roxii_rawr

Can i see a picture?

Um... sure I guess.

UpsideDownSkye

Most people would be flatter, maybe you're just insecure. Maybe you don't see what the others see and find everything they do irrational. Or just show them that you're not all looks.

I do get flattered, when I'm complimented on something that actually took me time and effort... And you're right, I don't feel very secure about my personal self (professional self is very healthy and thriving though) - and I probably don't see what it is about me that makes people react to me the way I do.

How would you suggest I show them I'm something other than the way I look?

ok, heres what I think....it the way you make yourself appear, low cut clothes, alot of makeup, now I know thats not what you think it is but people play on these things. You mayu just want to look beautiful, which you are by the way, but wearing to much also says other things that you aren't aware of.
I personally lioke women that use very little makeup, I l;ove the natural look, and when you make yourself up like you do and you know you like the way you look, others portray you as something different...understand what I mean?

Gramps

[Curourke]

Chibi-Miss-Chaos

All my life

i been considered as the worst, lyin to my motha, even stealin out her purse

[XMintheeX]

sweaty latina

MarmeeXnoir

sweaty latina

Snail Mother

DollxSpice

Snail Mother

I ain't seeing it neutral

Seriously. I'm not.

For starters, OP wasn't the least bit hesitant to post a photo of herself ( and she's honestly not ugly, but certainly not jaw-dropping "beautiful" ). It really makes ya' wonder how "victimized" this person feels. If it be true, why give us the opportunity to judge for ourselves just as your friends/peers have? Personally, I wouldn't befriend somebody based on looks alone, even if they were the epitome of beauty. I'm hard-pressed to believe the majority do.

Having gotten that off my chest... Your friends could very well find you attractive, but aside from that physically, there's a fusion of things going on. Average/cute + personality + whatever else = beauty. It's in the eye of the beholder. Simple.

OP, bottom line, you need to seek therapy or shop for new if you feel people like you solely based on the physicalities and not a whole BEING. It's a somewhat warped and delusional way of thinking, tbh.

wow, seriously? your jealousy is seriously showing. someone had to ask her to post a picture, and she said "umm, ok" and it was a tiny webcam picture. neutral anyone telling her "you're not that pretty" has no reason to say that to her other than jealousy. if all you have to say is "you're not that pretty," then gtfo. the issue here isn't if YOU think she's pretty. she doesn't care. obviously in her life, the people that DO think she's pretty are an issue to her. so stfu and help if you can't control your jealousy, k. all you did was make ONE post, "I don't see it," then a page after that quoted yourself insisting she wasn't pretty after no one responded to you. rolleyes get over yourself.

as for my advice, I'd start trying to judge people more. it's definitely creepy how people will go out of their way to touch you and they'll get upset when you reject them. if someone makes you uncomfortable, leave the situation and don't be friends with them. everyone wants to be friends with the pretty people. it's a sad fact, and sometimes people will do anything to be a pretty person's friend.

also, I'm not sure if you mentioned this, but I think you said that acting nice towards everyone was a result of your upbringing. it's good to be nice to people and I also read that you're afraid of being insulted or hit....

look at it this way, neither of those things are very bad. yes, getting the s**t kicked out of you would suck, but that's EXTREMELY unlikely to happen and if it were to happen, there would be some very large warning signs and you could get help before it escalated.

I think you should focus on being yourself above all. you don't HAVE to be nice to everyone, especially if they're just sucking up or making you uncomfortable.

I don't want to argue or sound like I'm nagging. But I seriously don't see where she's being jealous, just because she said that she personally doesn't see this girls devastating good looks. That's just her feelings. Someone saying that a person isn't that attractive doesn't always equal jealously.. We all have different views of what attractive is, be it physically or mentally. And that's probably what she meant by it. Plus she never said she was ugly, just said she didn't see whatever everyone else did.

I mean, I don't agree with everything she's said.. But I said don't see it either. And it's not because I'm jealous, there's nothing for me to be jealous of. And that's not to sound conceded either.

jealous of the attention, not jealous of her looks.

if you'll read OP's posts, she's very humble. snail and others are trying to find any reason to bring her down. rolleyes there is NO reason anyone needs to post "you're not that pretty." the issue here isn't whether or not YOU think she's pretty and commenting on her looks is out of line. the issue here is how people IN HER REAL LIFE act towards her because of her looks.

the fact that the issue is about her looks unsettles people because people are so opinionated about looks. people need to put aside their biases and give her good advice, not tear her down because you're jealous you don't get attention everyday for being pretty. the fact will still remain that she's being mistreated for her looks, and by you saying "well you're not that pretty, I don't see the problem" you're not helping AT ALL. so please, she really doesn't care whether people online think she's pretty or ugly. so don't bring it up because it's not the issue, especially if you read her first post.

stop making this an issue of whether or not YOU think she's pretty. obviously this IS an issue for her and if you want to offer advice, leave your personal opinion out of it, because it's irrelevant. the issue here is how people she knows irl treat her because of her looks. again, it doesn't matter what YOU think of how she looks. use the information she provided to offer sound advice that will help her cope and learn to accept herself.

Right, anyone that would be jealous of not having that kind of attention would have to be warped.

As for her looks no one is making an issue out of them. Just speaking their minds as they do in other threads where people are after the same thing and people say the same stuff or worse. And that's not to say it's right... But what's the difference now? None.

And I read the post and added my advice for what she needs to do for herself, pages ago.
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Also like berry said. Was pointless for her to say her looks are the cause of all her problems that's she's encountered, When really that's not what's causing her to be victimized, it's her personality now and because of the way she was raised.