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Report | 07/24/2016 12:50 pm

cyberqueer

Ahh okay. That's too bad about the project, although maybe you're glad it fell through in the end? I hope getting a car and moving in goes well!!
Thanks for keeping me updated even though I haven't gotten back to you in a while. I've been juggling a lot of things recently and it's been hard to get back to everyone in a timely manner.
It's also neat that there's been a lot of celebrating going on this month for you! I hope your boyfriend and aunt have a good birthday too. 4laugh
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Report | 07/23/2016 7:13 pm

Guin - Aoiichi

I THInk i got knocked out . Mostly just bruises and scrapes from the impact and airbag. I think ... i stay a night in the hospital....ugh... that was expensive plus the ambulance ride...they also charged ....and the insurance i had was s**t.... TO this day i hate driving West at sunset...
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Report | 07/23/2016 6:09 pm

Guin - Aoiichi

the first car i bought was a station wagon.... i hated that car.... it was also the first car i got in car accident with... ended up in the hospital...
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Report | 07/23/2016 6:00 pm

Guin - Aoiichi

Too much info there at the end......... sweatdrop emotion_0A0 emotion_0A0
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Report | 07/23/2016 5:49 pm

Guin - Aoiichi

Well dang . WHat happend ? Did they at least pick up more work somewhere else ? Closer to yall ?
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Report | 07/23/2016 5:34 pm

Guin - Aoiichi

@ your status : Good Luck . emotion_brofist emotion_hug emotion_brofist
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Report | 07/18/2016 7:09 pm

cyberqueer

I'm glad your boyfriend wasn't laid off!! I'm also happy for you being able to see him for another week. I hope that you're both able to have a good week together. emotion_yatta It's too bad that your brother can't meet him right now though.
Will your boyfriend still move in with his former co-worker after the project (if it happens, I mean)?
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Report | 07/15/2016 8:22 pm

cyberqueer

I hope that you're both able to see each other somewhat regularly no matter who has to go where. It's great that the company is willing to pay for that as well, ticket prices add up very quickly.

I understand what you mean. There's really only two ways you can know when he's having his quiet time, and that's either by him telling you or you asking him. So it's whatever you're both comfortable with in the end. I'm sure you'll find what's right for you!

I think that focusing on those things will definitely provide some relief to you as you cope with the distance, as long as that's what you're interested in. c: I hope that it helps! It's too bad that you can't hang out with your friends though. What about chatting online? You can video chat with some of them, it's sort of similar to being face-to-face. It's one way for them to keep you company, at the very least.
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Report | 07/15/2016 2:10 pm

Parodius-Daryl

Hey Lily, I am sorry you are going through such a hard time sad
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Report | 07/14/2016 1:03 pm

lMMORTUI

thanks i definitely started! 10/10
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Report | 07/12/2016 8:28 pm

Guin - Aoiichi

UGh.... hate bugs.... Hey ! someone just shared a vid with me. ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TbsBEb1ZxWA] i can honestly say i dig it !
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Report | 07/12/2016 7:39 pm

Guin - Aoiichi

Dang, i hate bugs too. How do you even know if you have bed bugs ? ugh..... BTW your story cut off at the end....
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Report | 07/12/2016 10:22 am

Guin - Aoiichi

Did that last interview call back yet ? sweatdrop Didn't you say someone had bugs at you last job? sweatdrop
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Report | 07/11/2016 5:42 pm

cyberqueer

Yeah, same here as well. I mostly hung out in "Hangout" threads and now most of the ones I posted in are inactive. I guess I could try looking for more active threads but then I'd have to establish new friendships and stuff.
Oh, that's too bad. :c I wonder what post it was too.

My relationship started out long distance, but I do know a little bit of what it's like to go from being together often in person to going long distance again. I know this because, later on in my relationship, we were able to start visiting each other more, and sometimes our visits lasted for months. Then we'd have to go back to being long distance after that time, which was not fun to say the least.

A lot of the advice that's given about relationships in general can be applied to long distance relationships too. Being long distance encourages more verbal (as opposed to bodily) communication (although you can see someone's body language through a webcam) for sure. So communication is incredibly important.

It would probably be a good idea to establish what you might expect from him (like how many calls a day, texts, etc), at least while starting out and getting comfortable with being long distance, and also have your boyfriend tell you the same about what he might expect from you. It's important to create boundaries and discuss what kind of behavior (or lack thereof) might bother you while long distance. For example, you might think it's really clingy to get called every night before you go to bed but your boyfriend may think that's fine. That kind of stuff is good to discuss, to avoid future conflicts. But maybe you two have already lined these things out in your physical relationship, which is great 'cause then it'll be easier to do it long distance! But either way, communicating what you want and expect (or, at the very least, what you think you will need) from him is a good starting point. Then you can see where things might conflict and create a compromise.

What else... I know a lot of people get really worried about their partner cheating on them while they're away, or vice versa. I don't know if you're poly or monogamous but that might be something good to bring up too, if you're concerned about it or feel the need to clarify something on your end.

If you're both sexual people then it would also be good to discuss what you want to do about that, like when and how you want to have your private time together, or if one of you needs to have a friend with benefits in the meantime. I would especially suggest discussing this stuff if one of you is asexual (or at least on the spectrum) while the other is not. That can create problems sometimes if there's not enough communication.

It's also good to figure out some coping strategies for yourself if you're not able to talk to your boyfriend for a bit and you're feeling really bad about it. Things like your specific interests, hanging out with friends, or whatever else makes you feel better and is healthy to do. But it is also good to be honest with yourself and how you're feeling, especially if you're feeling particularly low because of that. Journaling might help there, or confiding in a friend. You could also, of course, confide in your boyfriend about how you're feeling at any point in time.

I think that's it tbh! As long as you're honest, up front and open to communication about potentially hard subjects when you can't do it face-to-face, long distance should be easier overall. I hope what I had to say was helpful and what you were looking for. If not then feel free to ask me a specific question about something that I may not have addressed here!!
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Report | 07/10/2016 5:46 pm

cyberqueer

Yeah I don't post on Solia much more either. It seems like most of the people I talked to just kinda stopped posting. Either that or they don't continue conversations with me anymore.

Ahh I see. That's unfortunate about his dad's situation and the problems he's going through as a result. sad I hope that the project will give them both time to heal too. It sounds like moving in with a co-worker is one of the better options for them as well.

Good luck with going long-distance for a while! It will be hard but I'm sure you can do it. I was in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend (who I met on Gaia) for 7 years before we moved in together in January. So if you need any pointers, I'm happy to oblige.
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Report | 07/09/2016 1:57 pm

cyberqueer

btw, would you like me to add you on here, and Solia too? emotion_c8
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Report | 07/08/2016 11:13 pm

cyberqueer

no problem! I'm alright with belated responses, sometimes I even make them myself. razz I hope your boyfriend is okay and that things get resolved for him soon!

ahh I see. I don't even remember the last time I did a cartwheel lol. That kind of stuff makes my head dizzy now. That's interesting to know about ballet and dance though, and it seems about right considering how long ballet has been around for. I can appreciate both ballet and modern dance for what they are, even though they're both fairly different now.

Nice captcha btw. Mine just asks me "which one is a real word?" and has a drop-down list for me to choose from. The real word is "science," which is good cuz I like science.
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Report | 07/08/2016 8:55 am

Guin - Aoiichi

Wow , i wish i could give you some relationship advice . But ive never been good at those. emotion_hug
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Report | 07/07/2016 2:20 pm

Guin - Aoiichi

@your status : Woah. Are you gonna be alwright ?
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Report | 07/06/2016 7:59 am

Guin - Aoiichi

And the passengers side thing.... they didn't say that until the email i got last friday.... really gonna go check that posting again.
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