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So my dealing with my estranged alcoholic husband continues... he binge drank for 11 days after being hospitalized a couple weeks before and finding out he has liver damage, damage to his bone marrow and a chemical imbalance that could affect his heart. He continues to try and emotionally manipulate me into coming and living with him, meanwhile he obviously has his own "life" going on as well. He calls me early (if he calls at all) so he can talk to some other woman later. He almost never calls when he says he will, but tells me how much he loves me and wants to be together... how can I believe that? What's going to happen to his nightly phone calls if I DO go live with him? He remains a pathological liar and completely addictive personality. The world revolves around and him and that's all that matters. The weather changes in CO have been extremely difficult for me. They cause me great, great pain by flaring my degenerative arthritis. Does he care? No he still wants me to drive 60 miles round trip to baby him. But I also have the issue of his grandfather begging me to go live with him, and give our relationship another shot, using their house while they're in AZ for four months. He wants us to be together so badly. I feel like I have to do it to say I tried everything...but why am I the only one trying? He did tell my husband everything he told me, and told him to take care of me as much as I was taking care of him. Unfortunately I think he was too drunk to remember anything.... *sigh* I'm so confused and tired of having this take up my entire life...

UPDATE: Well, I don't know why I continue to be the fool here... he went more than a week without calling me. Then he sent me a text on Thanksgiving and said he loved me to death and would call later. He did not. Then when he does it's all about how busy he is now that his Aunt & Uncle have finally moved. Right. What about the 2 weeks in between their last visit and moving? Why do I have to keep telling him if he loves me so much, he can't keep ignoring me whenever he wants? So finally they have moved into their house, so he can go to his grandparents and I can join him, right? He says his Uncle wants him to stay with them so he can keep an eye on him and make sure he stays sober. Even though he says he will drink if he wants to drink and nothing his Uncle can do will stop that. But he's such a people pleaser (his words) he doesn't want to hurt their feelings by saying no. Never did it occur to him that he's ripping my heart out. Never once did it occur to him to fight to be with me. Never once did it even occur to him to tell them I would be watching him just as effectively if we were living together. How stupid am I, right? Do I need a bigger slap in the face? He's got his own life going on that he's perfectly happy with and is just stringing me along for whatever sick reason. I think it's time I stopped listening to the words, believe the actions and accept that this relationship is over and move on. He certainly seems to have moved on already...

2nd UPDATE: So he calls, I tell him so when you're doing all this people pleasing did it ever occur to you that you were hurting me? He said yes, but there are so many people pressuring him, what could he do? Um, maybe stand up for me just ONCE in our relationship? Tell your family to mind their own business. I can tell he's already on his way to drinking just by how much complaining he's doing and how hard his Uncle is riding him. He got in his car to drive the minute to his grandparents house to get his laundry and his Uncle was calling him while we were on the phone. I know from experience that kind of "babysitting" will make him drink just to show he can. So fine, his family thinks they know more about dealing with him than I do, I'm going to sit back and watch this explode in their meddling faces...

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Miyoshii Report | 11/19/2015 3:03 pm
Thank you are always thinking of others. Yes you know what my life is like...I am always hoping it will change. I am praying and thinking of you heart hugs
Miyoshii Report | 11/18/2015 8:41 pm
Thinking of you... emotion_bigheart emotion_hug
Kendra Rosewood Report | 11/04/2015 4:42 pm
Kendra Rosewood

I'm enjoying myself but I can't help but to worry about you from time to time. heart You are a very awesome person.
Kaileiah Report | 11/04/2015 3:18 pm
Miyoshii Report | 11/03/2015 10:34 pm
I wish I could hug you in person ~ heart emotion_hug
Kendra Rosewood Report | 11/03/2015 5:59 pm
Kendra Rosewood

You are often in my thoughts. I wish there was something I could do to help you. :huggles:
cutester Report | 11/01/2015 2:52 pm
I am pming you - its too long a post here unless you want to see a book.
Totally Inappropriate Report | 10/28/2015 1:48 am
Totally Inappropriate
Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you. heart
Kendra Rosewood Report | 10/24/2015 9:18 pm
Kendra Rosewood

:huggles: Thank you!
mermaid_goth Report | 10/23/2015 8:00 pm
Just read your profile, sorry to hear about all this. I hope he can somehow pull through & stay sober. *hugs & strength to you*


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