Thought I replied to this already, sorry xD. Yeh I know what you mean, I always get told I'm good with kids, but just with trying to figure out what they want sometimes or speaking to them like I would anyone else (the baby talk people do actually hinders they're development as they get older). Personally I'm not good with little babies, I feel like I'm going to break them but as they get older I can manage them alittle better. Yeh the motherly bit should come naturally for you as far as instincts go, and being a responsible person as opposed to how some folks are helps as well. It's good that both of your families are backing you all in this, you don't hear about it too often even as someone gets older.
Thing is it's mostly my mom who was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and not let him ruin his life, or at least she was. He's been doing a lot of boneheaded stuff and I've been calling everything he has planned on doing or has done since he moved back in with us in March. He's only 5mins younger than me (he's my twin unfortunately and then I have a little brother who's in uni himself right now from me working), but reality should have sunk in for him back when his first child was born. I'd go into further detail about this, but I'm trying to think less about how he's screwing up everything right now and try to focus on finding work as soon as possible.I'll probably mention it again at some later date.
I appreciate your sentiments, I try not to think about it as much as I used to, I get really bummed out now if I dwell on it for too long. I figured I would have done something with myself by now after being out of highschool so long...
Yeh, you always acted mature for your age as far as I could tell even though I never knew how old you were when I first met you.Also it seems you're going to be cutting it alittle close with a birthdate for the baby being after your birthday razz.
I say a year is good, hopefully it doesn't end up being longer as it has with me. Even so, the education will be there and hopefully it won't be too much trouble for you to get back in a long laying out and idea of how you want to do things. It's also a good idea to have a balance of short term expectations that you can do now along with some long term that will come along later that way things stay balanced out and you don't set yourself up for disappointment. Also the moving thing for you all will be right around the time when we *should* be getting away from this area of the state and moving back towards Atlanta. I hope by then I'm making some back so I can start getting out of the state more, I'm not getting any younger and I have too many people I've been wanting to meet for years I would like to see..besides wanting to do a vlog and several other things.
I had a customer tell me once whose little boy I was playing with tell me you will never be prepared enough or have enough money to take care of a kid, and it is true. The one gratifying thing is if they are taking care of properly and raised properly the payoff will be worth it because they will be able to contribute something worthwhile and/or become a model person.
Both of my nieces, the eldest is 3 and the youngest is 10 months, both my twin bro's (who is younger than me) children. Their was an incident that happened several months ago involving their mom so it's just him as their parent. My mom usually has the youngest in her room and the eldest is usually in the room her day sleeps in, but I usually do things for the oldest and sometimes for the youngest if need be since I suck with babies and usually doing something online or trying to find work. Without going into a ton of detail it's a pain because I haven't had much of a life in ages especially since I got out of highschool some years ago, and having to help take care of children most of the time that aren't compounds things for me even more, which wouldn't be an issue if my brother acted more responsible and reasonable.I'm 25 by the way, I'll be 26 in October. I'm guessing you're around my age though yes?
Your best is to try and keep school expenses down and make sure you can get something you actually are interested in and moderately decent pay, but either way college will be worth it. If you can manage it, I suggest you and your spouse going to school part time that way someone can usually be around for the baby and you two can still work jobs. Online courses are also an option but those tend to be way more trouble and work. You can also use a talent and make goods or services to sell online. Been trying to do that for awhile, I never have the properly equipment I need and it ticks me off to no end.