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The journal of a lonely Tiger's past, present and future.
Am I a dog? Hell no.
Am I a dog?

I found myself asking that question. Well I'm a nice guy I try to help when I see someone doing something that is just wrong and it's going to hurt them or others. I kinda feel obligated to help. But at some points I get "I don't need your help or nothing is wrong leave me alone. (which is never true, something is always wrong.) I sometimes get the very childish "well I have to do this on my and it's my mistake to make." Well why even make the mistake when all you have to do is listen to the guy who've been through what your about to go through.. Seriously if your at a fork in the road and you see a guy coming from the other end of one of the roads all beat up and bloody and he tries to warns you that the path is dangerous or don't go that way. Are you seriously going to say "It's my life and it's my mistake to make."?

I ask "what's wrong?"or give advice about why its dangerous. Most of the time they ignore or flip out on me for simply helping or caring. Then they follow up with "no I don't need and/stop helping me I'm fine.." That's never the case I know that and it's confirmed about 2 weeks later sometimes more with a call or conversation ending with "I need your help." I could say "NO ******** s**t, what did I just tell you 2 weeks ago?!" But I say "yeah I'll help but we're going to talk about this later. What happens is we talk and accept his or her apology.... But after happening again I realized that my behavior is no better than a flipping dog. "Help when I say help, good dog." "When I'm not saying help don't help, good dog." I backed off when they say they didn't need it and I jumped to it when they needed it.

Part of me wants to help no matter what, but as a friend told me they are adults they have to take responsibility. I even said before "that being free is taking responsibility for your actions the good and the bad." (talking about not practicing what I preach). Well that going to change as of today. I'm going to offer my help every time I think anyone needs help, pretty much what I always do. But, when you tell me not to help/care or snap off at me don't expect me to. Especially when that choice I gave you fair warning on turns out to be a bad choice. Why? 1. Because you need to take responsibility for your actions the bad and the good, the pleasure and the pain in other words I'm not going to sugar coat it for you anymore. 2. Because I am not your dog, so don't expect me to come running when you call. I was the one person that was on your side. This is not me abandoning you, this is me teaching you.

b.l.Tiger
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