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Lena says...
Advice
So, I'm told by most of my friends, and a lot of my family that I am really great at giving advice. I've heard I always know the right thing to say, I have a good head on my shoulders, and am an old soul. My friends have been asking me to make a blog or something for a long time, but I decided I would sometimes do it here instead. (However, if you're a fan of Girl Code the tv show, I may cover topics they've done, so sorry if I end up repeating something they said.) So, without further ado, here's the first topic!

Taking a Break in a Relationship:

For those of you that don't know, this is when you are in a relationship, and you decide you two will take a short break, anywhere from a week to a few months, to decide if you want to continue your relationship. The problem with this, is that you are postponing the inevitable. If you want to take a break, that really means you want to break up. Either one of you can't say it to the other because you don't want to hurt them, or you are in denial about the relationship and can't let it go. If you do still continue to talk to the person you're in a relationship with, set boundaries. Are you two going to see other people during the break? How much will you contact each other? Are you allowed to ask what they did during the break? Who they dated? And so on. My advice is that you both decide you won't date anyone else. Spend the time thinking about your relationship, do you miss each other, or do you feel better now that you aren't with them for the time being? If you feel at all better without them, break up. You obviously don't want to be in a relationship with them, do not be with someone who does not make you 100% happy! The good thing about breaks though, is that you two really can focus on problems you're having. ARE they deal breakers? Perhaps it's that one of you isn't listening to the other, and you decide to change this for the better. That is a situation, where if you're really going to work on the problem, getting back together may be a good idea. Remember, do NOT run back to them during your break. Even if it's hard, if you decide to go a full month without seeing each other, don't ask them to meet up for coffee! Don't invite them over! Enjoy your time to yourself, and then tell them how much you missed them at the end of the break. Also remember, if they decide they do want to break up, please don't be caught by surprise. Don't be heartbroken. A relationship break is like a trial break up, you're seeing what it's like without this person in your life. If they decide they want to break up with you, it should NOT surprise you! Finally, good luck my dears, relationships take patience, and sometimes don't end the way you wish they had. cat_smilies/icon_emo.gif

LenaWillow
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