Most kids are fine. Misfits in society, but we accept their lack of etiquette because we know they have time to learn, and they are sponges for knowledge. On the other end of the scale though, there are kids that are screwed forever because of unsteady hands from the parents, like the tenants in our house.
These kids are broken. They whine about everything, and do not listen to their parents. When the parents actually enforce anything, it only brings crying. On several cases, I've witness the lack of follow through that have messed up these kids. Ultimatums with a count down from 3 are often given a dozen times before the parent actually takes action and forces the child to turn off the TV or go to bed, and this causes crying which makes perfect sense. Crying is a human's natural reaction to not knowing what to do, and thanks to the ******** up parenting, mixed signals is all that the kids get.
When the countdown is finished, the parent takes no action. This only reinforces the fact that the threats are idle. When the parent has had enough and forces what they had been asking for (should have been the first step) it is sending mixed information since the behavior that was reinforced is no longer what's happening. This happens time and time again where the underlying actions, invisible to the parent, are creating this negative behavior. This also happens when these kids want attention, or do not want to do what they are told. They only do this because in the past, I'm sure, the parent has given into what the child wants.
What does this all mean? A child that doesn't listen, whines when anything doesn't go the way they want it to, and potentially crappy person all round when they make their way into society. I only hope that the social interaction with peers can undo some of this damage as they will likely never fit into the world the way they are.
What kind of 4 year old cries for 3 hours strait just because they don't want to go to bed? I know of at least 1.
· Thu Jan 10, 2013 @ 09:06am · 0 Comments