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Inane Wanderings
A blog about....well about....something. Really.
On Life And Priority Changes
For most of the past six years, give or take a couple of weeks, I've spent a lot of time in my journal and elsewhere in the forums writing about Gaian issues, doing numerical analyses of games, metagaming, and in general spending a lot of time thinking about Gaian stuff.

There were multiple reasons - it's what I do, being the most important part. And I wanted to document my findings and share them because sometimes other people find this kind of stuff interesting too. A big part of it was that due to a bunch of reasons, I had time and energy to do so, and nature hates a vacuum.

Unfortunately, that supply of time and energy is dwindling.

As I've written before, my father is having health and memory issues, and it's become necessary for me to step in and start supervising his financial and legal issues. Even though I have all the legal powers necessary to do so, the banking laws in the state where he lives (and where he has made it clear he wishes to continue to reside) have changed so that's not enough, so I'm swimming in a sea of red tape that needs notarization to get the access that my father has already granted me. (Dad's still quite competent, just has certain issues that require another set of eyes and backup to keep on track. He's well aware of everything going on and is on board with it.)

The stuff that I'm doing for Dad is pretty much the equivalent of my "How Much Should Memphis Cost?" analysis. So that part of my brain, the part that gets off on crunching numbers to come up with answers, isn't available for Gaia anymore.

And frankly, real life is more important. Because it's real. It's scarier because there are real consequences, but it's also more satisfying that way.

It's not that I'm leaving Gaia - I still have fish in my tank, I'm still playing BG (because it fits very nicely when I need 10 minutes away from all this crap), I'm still trying to be social when I have time because I still like an awful lot of people here. But I just don't have the time and energy anymore that I used to devote to some of the bigger projects here.

Does it mean I'm never going to do any more research here? I don't know. It's more than possible something eventually will catch my attention and I'll go after it like a cat chasing a laser pointer. And Gaia will probably piss me off enough sometime to need to write out a rant filled with colorful invective. But at this time, I have no plans.

I am happy to talk about things in more depth via PM, and I'm working hard to stay on top of my PMs (if I owe you one, you get one free kick at my butt to get me to reply) because it's so nice to write emails that aren't about what paperwork still has to be filed or how much certified copies of something cost. And I'm trying to at least chat in a couple of threads.

(BTW, if anyone has experience with elderly parent issues, I'm all ears. I'm winging this mother.)

There's lots more, of course, but I wanted to get this out there to let people know it's not personal, it's that time and life have a way of changing out from under you, and priorities change.

purplewiz
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  • User Comments: [2]
    I wish you the best of luck with your father and his memory problem.

    I'd happily contribute elderly parent experience.... if I had it previously. All I know for sure is that the same is going to happen on my end in the near future, possibly even within several years.

    So again, hope the best-case scenario prevails (within reality, unfortunately), and that your father has great years while they last. Darn my tendency to make short posts.

    comment Z741 · Community Member · Mon Nov 26, 2012 @ 07:57am
    Thanks smilies/icon_smile.gif. You never think it's *really* going to happen until it does, even if you're prepared. And it's all new ground to cover.

    comment purplewiz · Community Member · Tue Nov 27, 2012 @ 07:05am
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