Everything on this earth is fragile and fleeting, they can break or easily leave you at any time. If that one thing or person defined you, you'll lack direction in life once it's gone. That kind of dependency and devotion should be directed towards something immortal that'll never leave you.
I'm content with the person in my life. I don't need anything more. If I lack direction after that person is gone, then so be it. I can't simply change the things that fulfill me the most, the things I love the most on command. I already lack direction. Nor would I ever want to. Please don't try to convert me again. I don't desire a God.