Love is usually the hardest to define of all emotions. I am sorry to burst your bubble, but love is not magic. It's not a mystery. The only reason it is hard to define is because it is a one word summary of a long list of different feelings and desires.
Love is not like a rose. It's not red, it's not a flower, and it doesn't need water or sunlight. Please kill yourself along with your annoying and cheesy similes.
Love is simply caused by chemicals in our systems and in our brains. First stage, lust, caused by sex hormones. Second stage, attraction, caused by adrenaline, dopamine, and serotonin. Third stage, attachment, caused by oxytocin and vasopressin.
When you make a promise to someone, that you will love them forever. Do you realize that you are just fooling yourself? Forever means eternal. You cannot live eternally. And you need to be alive for your brain to function. Ergo, you need to be alive to feel love. Even a 5 years old should know.
You cannot say that you will love someone your whole life either. It's just another empty promise. For sure you can not see the future otherwise you would have won the lottery many times by now. Things happen and trust me, not all of them would be good. Time would come that your love for someone would die. It will no longer give you the same rush. In the end it will all just be commitment, no passion or anything.
I cannot promise any of those to Katelyn. But I can promise her, that I would try to make it possible. I can promise her, that I would understand and accept her flaws, her weaknesses. Any man who says their partner is perfect is a man who does not fully know his partner. Someone can only appear as perfect if they hide some, or even a lot of, truths about them.
I can promise my love, that I'd try my best, so that one day when I lecture my grandchildren about how humans can not possibly truly love one person their whole life and that the feeling would eventually die, I would be able to to tell them that there was one couple I know, a couple that is an exception. Us.
· Mon Jun 04, 2012 @ 11:28am · 2 Comments