D/S, S/M and B/D are the terms most often used in society today. They are distinctly different in that D/S stands for Dominance and Submission, S/M stands for Sadism and Masochism while B/D stands for Bondage and Discipline. These are three distinctly different life styles.
But remember at all time and in each of the separate lifestyles all actions must be SAFE, SANE AND CONSENSUAL.
The terms are not interchangeable, yet one lifestyle may lead into the other or may overlap another depending upon the limits agreed upon by both consenting parties.
As the relationship continues to grow and expand the limits may be changed by both parties and therefore lead from one lifestyle to the next.
S/M may be and usually is incorporated in both or either of the other two lifestyles in one form or another or may be considered a separate lifestyle on it's own.
These lifestyles might better be referred to as a form of alternative relationships, each of them being a form of love in which one person controls and the other person surrenders willingly, never forcefully.
First some terminology is necessary:
Dominant one- The controlling person. They may be a Master, a Mistress, a Dom, a Domme, a Goddess, a Lord, a Switch or a Top
submissive one- The one who chooses to be controlled or dominated. They may be a submissive, a slave, a switch or a bottom.
submissive- One who chooses to be submissive but who does not give total control of all aspects of their lives to a Dominant one.
slave- One who have given all aspects of their lives, physically, sexually and mentally to be controlled by a Dominant one and who usually has a contracted relationship.
Dom or Domme- One who is a Dominant one.
Master or Mistress- A Dominant one who has accepted the gift of submission from a submissive one who then has become theirs.
Floating or subbie space- The state where the submissive one relinquishes all control to the Dominant one and simply put, floats on a cloud, thus reaching a state of euphoria.
Switch- One who chooses at different times to be either a Dominant one or a submissive one.
Bottom- One who chooses to be scened or sessioned by a Dominant one but who is not necessarily a submissive one.
Top- One who chooses to scene or session a submissive one but who is not necessarily a Dominant one.
Goddess- Usually a Domme who have been trained under the "Old Guard" and who has earned the right to be worshipped and obeyed and who trains other Dom/mes, Masters, Mistresses, submissives, Switches, Tops, Bottoms and slaves.
Lord- The masculine equivalent of Goddess
Sadist- One who likes to inflict pain upon another.
Masochist- One who likes to have pain inflicted upon them by another
Limits- These are actions or areas or degrees of pain and/or experiences that are not to be inflicted upon a submissive one.
Safeword- A word or gesture that has been agreed upon between a Dominant one and a submissive one that should it be used by someone during a scene or a session will cause the other person to have an immediate agreed upon response.
boy- A term used for a submissive one which could be for either gender.
girl- A term used for a submissive one which could be either gender.
Dominatrix- A female Dominant one who gets paid for scening or sessioning a submissive one.
Implements-Toys-Accouterments- Anything that is used during a scene or session by a Dominant one on a submissive one.
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