I'm... Gay?

[Grayed]

Maybe instead of trying to define yourself, you should just be yourself. Nobody can tell you how you're supposed to be -- they don't know. They're not you. Sure, there are 'social norms' that some people expect, but obviously not everyone is going to fit into those brackets and it would be stupid to try and make it so.
Forgive me for using a trite comment, but not a lot of young people know who they are yet. During someone's teenage years, their bodies and minds change a lot and they don't always have a firm grasp of what they want or what tendancies they have.
I distinctly remember having a very different opinion of what I wanted when I was 13 or 14. I remember perceiving myself as one thing and wanting to be another, because the thing I wanted had a name and "was normal" and what I was didn't and "was not". When I was 16, my self image started to solidify, but it still underwent changes. I'm 21 now, and I'm fairly certain of, shall we say, 'what I am'. That's not to say that I'll never change.

I don't know for sure what causes sexual orientation. I've taken to believing that it's a mix of nature and nurture... You're who you are because of a mix of genetic predisposition and life experiences, especially during certain developmental stages. Some of it is 'choice', too... I think that people can change a great many things about themselves if they are ready and willing. If you add my religious POV, a person can change anything about themselves if this change is part of God's will. But again, they're not going to change if they don't choose to.

Regarding being "closer to straight than anything":
I think it would be very hard to aim for something on "the gay scale" and shoot for it, if you know what I mean. In my opinion, it can't be very helpful to tell yourself, "You know, I'm pretty sure I'm supposed to be 15% more gay," when you seem to still be figuring out what you want. I think you're looking for a label... a group or a description to define you. But that won't help you find out who you are. Labels are rigid and, if you're using them as a guideline, restricting.
Do you need to label yourself now? Is it helpful for you to don one, and use it to explain yourself to others? Are you looking for one so you can feel associated with something?

Find yourself, and then look for a label that matches. Don't pick a label and then design yourself after it.  

[William Che King]

Well, ya know...there comes a time in every mans life when he questions his sexual preference.

We all go through it. Hell, it's worse for the asians, because they're already so touchy (they like to hug and stuff).  

[Guacamole-kun]

Grayed's completely right. ^--^

And also: wanna know a secret? I'm completely straight. Like, one of the straightest people I know. (not that the fact that it's a secret matters to you at all. XD; But I just never admit it online.) Yet I still am fascinated by both guys and girls, and like to draw yaoi just as much as yuri. O: (In fact, I don't even really like having sex very much. I could go for years without. But, like I said before, I like to draw naughty things.) Fascination with a subject doesn't mean you have to embody that subject or the actions/lifestyles/whatever it entails. :3 Why? I don't know. IT'S A MYSTERY.  

[Grayed]

Yuvawrius

I'm not trying to do that. @_@ Lables honestly were the last thing in mind.

Even better. heart  

[Ouji_Kanaye]

Very few people go their entire life without having some kind of homosexual encounter of some kind... The fact of the matter is, most of us are, to some degree, bisexual: neither totally heterosexual nor totally homosexual, but somewhere in the middle with a preference.

The question is, do you trust God enough to wait and see who he will put in your life? I believe that when I meet the person God meant for me to be with, it will be very clear. Who you are "attracted" to has nothing to do with anything; it's whether you act upon those attractions or not that count!  

[Misandry Mermaid]

A cretain explanation to why homosexuality was wrong really lit things up for me at my church. Please understand tha t I do not want anyone to be offended by this.

Homosexual questioning is a temptation that the devil sends. We all have had it. Some stronger than others. You see, when you are hit with these kind of temptations, you really look at Christianity in a different light because the world tells you it's fine, but God tells you it's wrong.

In my opinion, it's a curse. The devil, like God can see past, present, and future, he knows no time. Purhaps he sees the most destructive path for you, and leads you to it? Purhaps he sees the children you could have and influence/bring to Christ in the future?

I'm not going to say all these things about homosexuality being okay, but I am also not gong to say that it is a sexual perversion or anything like that .

It's just a thing Satan tempts us with, curses us with, and we can not defeat it without God.

And all God's children said Amen.  

[Penguinone]

Sessal

A cretain explanation to why homosexuality was wrong really lit things up for me at my church. Please understand tha t I do not want anyone to be offended by this.

Homosexual questioning is a temptation that the devil sends. We all have had it. Some stronger than others. You see, when you are hit with these kind of temptations, you really look at Christianity in a different light because the world tells you it's fine, but God tells you it's wrong.

In my opinion, it's a curse. The devil, like God can see past, present, and future, he knows no time. Purhaps he sees the most destructive path for you, and leads you to it? Purhaps he sees the children you could have and influence/bring to Christ in the future?

I'm not going to say all these things about homosexuality being okay, but I am also not gong to say that it is a sexual perversion or anything like that .

It's just a thing Satan tempts us with, curses us with, and we can not defeat it without God.

And all God's children said Amen.

I don't know think that Satan can see the past, present, and future. If he did, then how come he would attempt to wage war with God at the end if he knows he's going to lose?  

[Spartan1989]

Satan can see some of the future but not the whole future. He knows that it is said that he will lose but arrogance and pride tells him that he won't.

As for the topic of homosexuality, I believe that it is a temptation that satan uses just like sessal said. I really have never questioned my sexuality because of the fact that I feel very passionate with women so that whole theory that every one experiments with homsexuality isfalse and so is the saying that we are all some what bisexual. If you are a Christian you should not partake and support homosexual acts but you should still love the people who do it and treat them like a equal because our sin (whether it be stealig, hate,lust etc...) is just as wrong as theres.
Love the person and hate the sin.  

[Eye_seE]

Just be you and dont try to fit a label.
And plenty of pastors out their are more then willing to tell yea how jesus loves gay marriage.  

[Darem]

I'll say this once and only once. You'll probably be offended by this, so no one send me hate mail or anything: Homosexuality is wrong! These people here are trying to coddle you. "You don't have to fit a label.", or "It's just fine." Or "Pastors will tell you homosexuality is fine, so it's O.K!". To an extent this is right. Except for the last thing. Those pastors are morons. Actually, only the first thing is sort of right. You don't have to fit a label. Certain labels. Homosexuality is completely abnormal! God made us with strange bodies, and urges, but those urges are tests! Tests of faithfulness! I believe Pornography or any sort of stripper, hooker, or sex outside of marriage is wrong, too! Most of us fall soemtime or another, but God still forgives! But back on subject! Homosexuality is abnormal! It only appeared((generally)) in pagan societies! Early followers of God, not Jesus, weren't gay! God made us in His own image! Can you see Him having gay sex?! If you can, you have a sick mind.

Oh, yeah. You're wrong about the whole "Most of us have a gay encounter." That's just stupid.  

[Eye_seE]

Luthos of the MoonClan

I'll say this once and only once. You'll probably be offended by this, so no one send me hate mail or anything: Homosexuality is wrong!.

You do have a right to your opinion but so do other people. If your going to make these kinds of arguments you best be prepared to suffer for it.
Though I'll try to keep this polite heart

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These people here are trying to coddle you. "You don't have to fit a label.", or "It's just fine." Or "Pastors will tell you homosexuality is fine, so it's O.K!". To an extent this is right. Except for the last thing. Those pastors are morons.

Well its nice of you to make vast statements against whole branches of the christian faith, as to their being "morons." You might disagre with them but that dosent make them morons. You will need to provide some evidence that they are in fact morons or else we must assume they are in fact not morons.

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Actually, only the first thing is sort of right. You don't have to fit a label. Certain labels. Homosexuality is completely abnormal! God made us with strange bodies,

I must admit im confused by your opinion on what is normal. Gays are abnormal, but so is the human bodie?
Homosexuality is refered to as a minority normality. Its reocurrence across all cultures and belifes, and its appearence in the god created animal kingdom, point towards a normality occuring only a minority of the time.

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and urges, but those urges are tests! Tests of faithfulness! I believe Pornography or any sort of stripper, hooker, or sex outside of marriage is wrong, too!

Well you see, homosexuality and everything you just listed have one majour diference. Jesus told us they are wrong cuase they are lust filled activities. Gay relationships within the confines of marriage under god, are built upon love, not lust. And love is a god thing as far as jesus goes.

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Most of us fall soemtime or another, but God still forgives!

Everyone is fallen say but Jesus.

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But back on subject! Homosexuality is abnormal! It only appeared((generally)) in pagan societies! Early followers of God, not Jesus, weren't gay!

I think I pointed out that homsexuality is current in all past and present factions of human society. That includes early jewish and christian faith groups. Some evidence even points out that early christians may of have a friendly relationship with homsexuality, and some early popes are counted as gay(though this is contested so im not going to argue this). So its not just pagans.

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God made us in His own image! Can you see Him having gay sex?! If you can, you have a sick mind.

Many other faiths protray god as having homosexual relations and I wouldent count them all as sick. But in christianity, god is generaly not protrayed as having any sexual relations with humans. Unless you count his relationship with the church. So when god made us in his image, that dont dosent mean were perfect copies cuase god dosent have sex.

well maby he does, it wouldent be a good idea to presume anything bout god.

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Oh, yeah. You're wrong about the whole "Most of us have a gay encounter." That's just stupid

Here I agree. That would be like saying Ive had a stright encounter. Aint ever happened. Some people migh have moments of confusion but not everyone does.  

[Monergism]

Eye_seE

Well you see, homosexuality and everything you just listed have one majour diference. Jesus told us they are wrong cause they are lust filled activities. Gay relationships within the confines of marriage under god, are built upon love, not lust.

I think you are confusing with two different things here. Explain to me what is the purpose for a homosexual (couple) relationship?

Eye_seE

Some evidence even points out that early christians may of have a friendly relationship with homsexuality, and some early popes are counted as gay(though this is contested so im not going to argue this). So its not just pagans.

Perhaps Christians may have friendly relationships with homosexuals but it doesnt mean that they approve such acts.

This is new, now some of the early Christian Popes were homosexuals. I know for sure this was developed by pro-homosexual propaganda. I would like to see witness documents of this claim.  

[Spartan1989]

Homosexuality is wrong once again and it is not right to encourage it but you shouldnever call anyone "morons" for their beliefs, cause many people call us the same thing. I highly disagree with the U.C.C (United Church of Christ) because they accept homosexual marriages. God hates HOMOSEXUALITY not homosexuals.