Biphobia in the gay community.

[VHSdude1]

Why should I defend the rights of some people that hate me (Yes, I am bisexual). Why should I not mind being lumbed in with gay men when I am not gay, I am bisexual. I am not a collectivist, I am a radical Individualist.

Why should I just ingore the bihobic comments made by Dan Savage?! Just because it helps "us" as a... whole?! Bull-crap!  

[FragileHeart19]

I've got to agree with you, there, Jesse. I'm tired of being hated and discriminated against by gay people because, if I so wish, I could live a hetero-normal lifestyle. We talked about this in my SODA club's last meeting, an LGBTQPA panel. It is ridiculous.
I also agree that I'm a bisexual, not a homosexual, and should be recognized as such. We all should be. Bisexual stereotypes, as well, are particularly uncalled for and quite degrading at times.
Something should be done about it so that we can be a part of the LGBTPQ community without the need to worry if we're going to face hatred from both our community members AND the heterosexual society. It is completely and utterly ridiculous.  

[bicanthrope]

I agree.

My favorite is that if we're vocal about bisexuality or display any symbols of it we're in it for attention. I'm bisexual; I don't want to wear a rainbow when my blood runs purple.

I wear two pins (depending on my backpack), one is a male and female figure with a checkmark beside each, the other is the bi flag. I recently had a member of our local LGBT group comment that I wanted people to notice so I'd gain attention from men. The funny point here is that not only have I only been with one man, but through the course of the conversation which ensued I learned that I'd been with more women than she had!

I'm bisexual, and visible. I don't see what's wrong with that.  

[Bang Bang Kitty Lincon]

At the end of the day biphobia is no different then homophobia or rasism or any other form of hate.

I don't "wear my sexuality on my sleave" as it were but nor have I EVER denied it a nor will I ever!
But thankfully I've never been on the end of this sort of hate really (unless I've been to drunk to notice sweatdrop ) And try to put alot of things down to ignorence. I know it's not always, but it's nice to think that people can change for the better!  

[Orion_s Charm]

Human rights is my biggest concern. For anyone to have a bias or a hatred for another person or group is just wrong. It makes no sense to me for others to be so hateful or mean. The wrong idea is for the homosexual or the heterosexual community to turn on the Bisexuals. True Bisexuals are not looking for attention, but simply to exist without prejudice.

Why is my sexual or social life any concern to anyone unless I decide to share it with them? It's not! For love of human kind world wide, people need to be more accepting of one another.  

[Alykia]

I haven't been on the end of that kind of hate, but recently...one of my friends seemed like he was trying to convince me that I am not bi and just bi-curious or going through a phase. That was kind of annoying...I mean the reasoning seemed off. I understand his opinion and how different people might view someone being bi or not but he didn't have to be so adamant about it.

Sorry that was a little off topic I suppose...  

[Bang Bang Kitty Lincon]

I also don't get the issue alot of people have with (potential) bisexuals being "confused" I mean it's hard enough in life as it is then to be told your wrong for not being 100%, esp if you change your mind. How many people have honestly thought "I'm definately bi!" Then a few years down the line realised they were either gay/straight. Atleast with them you hopefully get a supporter

FYI I'm not talking about silly high school girls/guys that do it only for attention

(I think what I wrote made sence sweatdrop )  

[Esiris]

I'm not for the rights of any one group based on orientation, race, age, gender, sex, religion or anything else. I'm for civil rights- equal rights, period.  

[Faemint]

^Me, too.

It's not like this anymore, but last year, the LGBT club at my school had some lesbian girls who kept making fun of bi people...so a lot of them left. sad Me and another girl were some of the bis who actually stayed. It was ridiculous.

THIS year, that other girl is the treasurer, and she's very, very careful to ensure that no one gets made fun of or hurt. If we're all divided, how are we supposed to get the equal rights we ALL want?  

[Yumie-sama]

Agreed.

I have gay friends who are wonderful, but a lesbian friend who kind of disapproves of my liking of men as well as women. It's kind of frustrating.

Really, biphobia by homosexuals adds to the segregation of LGBT in the community. It's as bad as those man-hating, feminist lesbians hating on Trans.  

[Twitchums_1]

In general the whole thing is odd, I mean I have a boyfriend and all, but the stigma in society against bi's and lesbians and such kept me quadruple guessing what my own orientation was because it felt weird saying I'm bi considering how many times you hear that from a girl who likes to party hard in college because she wants more attention. But I also know for a fact that I'm madly in love with my boyfriend, and come on guys I'm 21 in college having dated a guy for 4 years....I know I like guys XP On the other hand though I'm 21, because of everything I haven't ever even kissed a girl (granted this is going to sound weird I am kinda still going through the whole puberty thing and finally coming into my own on the whole sexuality thing now.....).

Society needs to just stop caring about what other people do unless it effects them personally. I have no problems with gays, or bi's, or lesbians, or trans, or straight people and on and on over all groups as long as they can realize that everyone is their own person and will make their own decisions. Just because I like girls does not mean I'm going to say...try to kiss my college roommate. My sexuality should have no bearing over how others think of or react to me, unless I try to push it on them.  

[Jacey says hello]

Recently, one of my closest friends, who i thought had a crush on me stoped talking to me completly because of my sexuality. it stings at first.. but.. all you can do is be strong in the end and prove who you are..
What gets me the most, is my mom. she is always trying to say that i am not actually bi if i dont have fanasies about women. And i am like mom i do not want to be having this convosation with you.. plus it isnt really any of her business.. it just makes me sad.  

[Shilberu Erikku]

Those people are unable to feel empathy towards situations/lifestyles that they do no take part in their selves. So basically, they're just egocentric morons (or addicted to hypocracy).  

[Esiris]

Shilberu Erikku

Those people are unable to feel empathy towards situations/lifestyles that they do no take part in their selves

Reminds me of a post where someone flashed pornographic material at a group of Christians.

I agree- complete hypocrisy.  

[Alykia]

One of my gay friends said something interesting about bisexuals. It was something like...

"I am always curious to talk to and understand bisexuals...I think that they might have a real/better understanding of what true love is because they aren't hindered by gender..."

Well, it was something like that...and it got me thinking. I totally feel like it is the case for me. I mean personality is the driving factor for me. Of course looks affect things a bit and I suppose chemical things but yea. I just never thought about it like he did. ^_^