When your parent(s) move in...

[Spenelli]

My mom was living down the street and her duplex flooded pretty much every time it rained. We had this really bad flood and it ruined a bunch of her furniture. We took up the floor tiles and realized how much mold was there. She couldn't live there anymore. It was a no brainer for her to come here. She fed me, sheltered me.. time to repay the favor.

She's driving me insane. xD

She is so loud. The older she gets the worse her hearing gets.. the louder she gets. My mom is a stoner... she talks about weed WAY too much. At the top of her lungs. I have reminded her a million times in the past week that my neighbors can hear her. I've actually shushed her like a child. We live in a state it's still illegal. You really shouldn't shout illegal things in an apartment. xD I wish she'd move to Colorado cause then I'd never have to worry about her loud a**. xD I'd go too of course, but it wouldn't matter what she's shouting.

Other than the yelling, she also talks CONSTANTLY. She is usually pretty chatty but we only visit an hour or so at a time. Now it's all day, bla, bla, bla. And the same stories over and over. She's 50 but has the memory of a 90 year old. xD

She misplaces EVERYTHING. All the time. She misplaced her keys today. Yesterday she misplaced her phone and her purse. Not a huge deal. But she freaks out every single time. "It's gone! I'll never get it back!!" She freaking CRIED yesterday cause we couldn't find her phone. I'm like can you at least wait an hour of it being lost before you freak out?

I love my mom and I'm actually kinda glad she's here. But I needed a good rant, haha.

Anyone else ever had your parents have to come live with you? Or had to move back in your parents house as an adult? It's so different than when you're a kid, haha.  

[Sassenach Queen]

I feel your pain! We let my mom stay with us for just a few weeks, which turned into a dang month! She had no where to go, no job, yada yada. She was EXTREMELY annoying. I've forgotten what it's like to live with her. She was constantly nagging, I was having to buy toilet paper constantly (lmao), she slept a lot on the couch, and she was just so needy in general. She didn't even offer to help with food or bills. Finally I had to be a little mean to her and get on to her pretty much. xD What finally caused me to tell her she had to go was she woke myself & boy friend up at 4 am to her bringing someone to our house, which we told her that was not allowed. I flipped out on her and told her she had to go!

We're fine now. She comes around from time to time to visit, but I'd hate to have to go through that all over again.  

[Spenelli]

ButterflyxMadness

Good lord. Yep, sounds like my mom too.

She ended up getting mad at me and moving out. xD

I don't think we're ever going to be friends again. And I don't want to. xD  

[Sassenach Queen]

Spenelli

ButterflyxMadness

Good lord. Yep, sounds like my mom too.

She ended up getting mad at me and moving out. xD

I don't think we're ever going to be friends again. And I don't want to. xD

Oh wow lol. I didn't think me & my mom would be again, but I'm sucking it up for my child.  

[Spenelli]

Daffodil the Destroyer

Man, yeah, my mom is just like that. xD What is with us all being so similar in this guild? xD I have met more normal moms before. My bf's mom isn't loud or negative and she doesn't repeat stories. But gawd my mom will ask, "Did I tell you about the whatever?" I'll say yes, and she'll still tell the story! I'm like dude, not again. xD She's not old enough for Alzheimer's so get it together. xD And very negative. Almost everything that comes out of her mouth is negative. I've tried everything to help her with that.

Aw, I'm sorry to hear your grandfather passed. It's really good you stayed with him so he didn't have to live with your mom. I'm sure he appreciated that so much. I have been in situations like that where the person wasn't really a problem but I still would have preferred my privacy. I've actually lived with way too many parental figures as an adult. xD I have a hard time adulting so I end up having to mooch off someone awhile. sad I really do try though and almost always have a job. Me and my bf have been making it alone almost a year now. smile But even when you're over 21 you feel like you have to act different cause your aunt or boyfriend's parent is there. -.- Me and my ex used to sneak out at night to party and sneak in all quiet. He was almost 30. xD His mom was a sweetheart but so religious we had to hide half the stuff we did. xD  

[Spenelli]

ButterflyxMadness

Oh wow lol. I didn't think me & my mom would be again, but I'm sucking it up for my child.

Yeah, I understand. I kinda feel bad just for not reaching out to her to tell her to come see her cats. I feel like the first step is her apologizing, but I still somehow get some guilt. If I had a child I would feel super guilty if I didn't let her see it. But I could never trust her alone with my kid. xD

I think eventually I'm gonna let her come see her cats and maybe take the crazy one off my hands. I don't really think she will harm the cats, I think she said what she did out of anger. I'm reluctant to give her the cat, but I'm about at my whits end with it. She managed to keep Precious alive 14 years and they always had food and water. She just wasn't the best owner. Ugh I just keep thinking about the one time I saw my mom pour ice cold water on the cat for running off. But I saw on her Facebook that she is planning on getting a new cat. :/ Like maybe I should spare another creature and let her have the crazy one back. It's scratching up my apartment even though it has 2 scratching posts and 2 cardboard scratchers and toys. :/  

[Sassenach Queen]

Spenelli

ButterflyxMadness

Oh wow lol. I didn't think me & my mom would be again, but I'm sucking it up for my child.

Yeah, I understand. I kinda feel bad just for not reaching out to her to tell her to come see her cats. I feel like the first step is her apologizing, but I still somehow get some guilt. If I had a child I would feel super guilty if I didn't let her see it. But I could never trust her alone with my kid. xD

I think eventually I'm gonna let her come see her cats and maybe take the crazy one off my hands. I don't really think she will harm the cats, I think she said what she did out of anger. I'm reluctant to give her the cat, but I'm about at my whits end with it. She managed to keep Precious alive 14 years and they always had food and water. She just wasn't the best owner. Ugh I just keep thinking about the one time I saw my mom pour ice cold water on the cat for running off. But I saw on her Facebook that she is planning on getting a new cat. :/ Like maybe I should spare another creature and let her have the crazy one back. It's scratching up my apartment even though it has 2 scratching posts and 2 cardboard scratchers and toys. :/

Yeah I'm the same. Not sure I wanna leave my kid alone with my mom just yet. Dx

Ugh! All mine & my sister's dogs we have except one were originally my mom's dogs. She's sweet to animals but she doesn't have the time for them. Ooooo poor kitty. I see it all the time on FB people that aren't good owners always looking for more animals. -.-  

[Different...Very.]

I haven't had my mom stay with me longer than a weekend. She travels a lot, so when she has something in town, she would stay at my house in the downtown area, central to everything. Now my brother has moved into the suburbs of this city, I've moved into a smaller apartment, and he has a five-bedroom home and adorable granddaughter, so she always stays with them.  

[YourPerfectWaitress]

Spenelli

Oh, wow. Sounds like a test in patience. Haha. sweatdrop

Well, I remember when I moved out to live on campus for a bit while I was in college. It was fun, but my mother and sister missed me dearly. It was nice to have a little freedom. (I didn't count it as my first time moving out, because I would always go home on weekends.)

At least she can rely on you, as difficult as it may seem. I'm sure your mother truly appreciates it. If you don't mind me asking, the flood your taking about...was that due to the severe weather in Texas or Florida that happened a while ago? sad  

[Spenelli]

ButterflyxMadness

Yeah I'm the same. Not sure I wanna leave my kid alone with my mom just yet. Dx

Ugh! All mine & my sister's dogs we have except one were originally my mom's dogs. She's sweet to animals but she doesn't have the time for them. Ooooo poor kitty. I see it all the time on FB people that aren't good owners always looking for more animals. -.-

I know this is old but I'm back so here we go lol.

Whole new update on the cat situation. I had the crazy one taken to a friend of a friend who has a cat rescue and can deal with that bs. xD My mom just now started moving in her new place today. I posted this August 30th so damn took her long enough. xD I'm keeping the old cute cat and she's gonna get the insane one soon. xD I think she'll behave better after her cat boot camp and maybe she can stay under my mom's radar as far as crazy s**t like what I saw years ago with the ice. :/

Yeah it really sucks to see animals not being treated right. My mom ironically has stolen an animal cause it was neglected. My mom would never not feed or water her animals though, and that's what these people were doing to their ferret, keeping it in a cold nasty garage, so she stole it and gave it to me. xD He died eventually but he was happy with me. When we see straight up abuse or neglect we should report it. I know I haven't in the past but I need to make a stand to do it next time.  

[Spenelli]

Different...Very.

I haven't had my mom stay with me longer than a weekend. She travels a lot, so when she has something in town, she would stay at my house in the downtown area, central to everything. Now my brother has moved into the suburbs of this city, I've moved into a smaller apartment, and he has a five-bedroom home and adorable granddaughter, so she always stays with them.

Damn, 5 bedroom house sounds nice. xD

You're probably better off without her coming to annoy you, haha. It's fine when it's a little while but moms can be annoying. xD It's good your brother is living in the same city! I don't live near any of my siblings.  

[Spenelli]

Aliannie

Spenelli

Oh, wow. Sounds like a test in patience. Haha. sweatdrop

Well, I remember when I moved out to live on campus for a bit while I was in college. It was fun, but my mother and sister missed me dearly. It was nice to have a little freedom. (I didn't count it as my first time moving out, because I would always go home on weekends.)

At least she can rely on you, as difficult as it may seem. I'm sure your mother truly appreciates it. If you don't mind me asking, the flood your taking about...was that due to the severe weather in Texas or Florida that happened a while ago? sad

It was, and she ended up moving out. xD We got in an argument. Not a surprise, haha. We didn't talk for a long time but recent dramatic events kinda forced us back together. That's a whole 'nother story.. which I've now mentioned directly to you twice but not explained. xD I swear I will post it all soon, it's a long story and not so happy.

It sounds like you are really close with your family. I wish it was that way with mine. I've had major issues with almost everyone and only talk to some people in my family. :/ Not cool.

Me and my mom fight and hate each other awhile but I know I at least always have her back. She has let me down a few times, but she's got mental problems beyond mine. Can't really blame her all the time. Only when I'm mad. xD

It was just from rain, there was no actual flood here. We had some high water areas but nothing major. Her landlord just wouldn't fix the bad wall and foundation so when it rained the water would come in. It rained a lot for a month and she had to keep using all her towels and blankets to soak up the water. When we took the carpet up we saw all the mold. The water was ruining furniture and everything.  

[Different...Very.]

Spenelli

Different...Very.

I haven't had my mom stay with me longer than a weekend. She travels a lot, so when she has something in town, she would stay at my house in the downtown area, central to everything. Now my brother has moved into the suburbs of this city, I've moved into a smaller apartment, and he has a five-bedroom home and adorable granddaughter, so she always stays with them.

Damn, 5 bedroom house sounds nice. xD

You're probably better off without her coming to annoy you, haha. It's fine when it's a little while but moms can be annoying. xD It's good your brother is living in the same city! I don't live near any of my siblings.

Yeah, my family is pretty central to this metropolitan. A lot of us are about an hour apart, 90 minutes max.  

[Sassenach Queen]

Spenelli

ButterflyxMadness

Yeah I'm the same. Not sure I wanna leave my kid alone with my mom just yet. Dx

Ugh! All mine & my sister's dogs we have except one were originally my mom's dogs. She's sweet to animals but she doesn't have the time for them. Ooooo poor kitty. I see it all the time on FB people that aren't good owners always looking for more animals. -.-

I know this is old but I'm back so here we go lol.

Whole new update on the cat situation. I had the crazy one taken to a friend of a friend who has a cat rescue and can deal with that bs. xD My mom just now started moving in her new place today. I posted this August 30th so damn took her long enough. xD I'm keeping the old cute cat and she's gonna get the insane one soon. xD I think she'll behave better after her cat boot camp and maybe she can stay under my mom's radar as far as crazy s**t like what I saw years ago with the ice. :/

Yeah it really sucks to see animals not being treated right. My mom ironically has stolen an animal cause it was neglected. My mom would never not feed or water her animals though, and that's what these people were doing to their ferret, keeping it in a cold nasty garage, so she stole it and gave it to me. xD He died eventually but he was happy with me. When we see straight up abuse or neglect we should report it. I know I haven't in the past but I need to make a stand to do it next time.

Hopefully the kitty will do great at kitty bootcamp lol. I don't either ugh. We really should report whenever we see it happening. My town doesn't really seem to care though.