I just want us to part ways

[Paladin Magnus Dawnguard]

For purposes of protection I will keep the name secret.

Last year I learned that one of my "friends" became an abuser. To me. She'd take her anger out on me, yell at me, make it feel like it was my fault. When she got a job, I didn't know she couldn't text during work hours or that she was even working that day. So she screamed at me violently and made me feel like s**t for it. Whenever I would make a statement of my personal opinion, she would tell me flat-out that it was awful, wrong, and I shouldn't think that way. Instead, she'd tell me I should think like her. She wanted me to think exactly like her--be her clone. During her bad days, she would text me and scream violently at me again, or do the same in person. And... when I wanted to invite her to my birthday party I told her I didn't want to upset her and her former friend by inviting them both. She screamed at me that I was selfish for this, that I was thinking of only myself. I cried so much and screamed in front of our teacher that I couldn't bring myself to do gym that day and I sat out attempting to cope.

This year, this girl was supposed to graduate early. She didn't though. She chose not to, and to instead stay back another year. She comes up to me in school, talks to me like I'm a normal person and cheerily says, "Hi!" with a smile as though nothing ever happened. I want to be away from her. I don't want her near me. I want her out of my life and to never see her again... It's not fair... Why can't I just say goodbye, let us separate ways and move to different places, and never see each other again? Why should I spend 1 more year around her? It's not fair... It's so not fair...  

[delasislas]

I just don't know how to say this. You are in charge of who you are friends with. Personally I have friends and then I have FRIENDS, these are the people who I just plain feel safe around and I can be myself. If you feel like they are abusing a 'friendship' then you have to kick them to the curb. Just be sure that while you are doing it you don't do anything to outright shame them, just say that you are heading in different directions. You can't just shut them out because when you do that they are more likely to retaliate. I really hope that it all works out for you, but I know that I won't be able to help all that much on this fight.