My adventure through the world of online dating.....5 weeks

[NobleAbsinthe]

So I'm starting to feel like an ugly man with no social skills or simply too nice to get anywhere. This post isn't meant to make me look like some victim, I understand that I have faults like everyone else, and I have to accept the fact that right one doesn't come just because you say all the right things.

I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years 4 weeks ago. We just kept arguing over stupid things and one night we got drunk and basically told each other to ******** off. It wasn't pretty, and it was very dramatic. I should have just offered to get ice cream and hug it out like we always do, but when she hit the bottle first, I went right after and got my own. I'm never drinking again after that, which rules out going to bars for potential partners.

Anyway back on track, I tried online dating. The lack of companionship was killing me so I wanted to try out an app to meet someone. My last girlfriend thought I would be a hookup guy, but she realized that I was actually pretty decent for her, and she wanted to see me again and again. So I thought maybe it can happen if I use apps like tinder or zoosk or something. I downloaded a bunch of the popular apps, and some of the least popular ones and my experience has been one of nothing happening....

Seriously I have decent pictures, I've got face shots, body shots, shots with friends, and I'm smiling. I'm not showing my naked body and I'm not doing anything sexual. I'm just showing simple shots and I get silence. A whole lot of silence.

My experiences with these apps:

Tinder: I basically haven't even been able to get a hookup from the world's most renowned hookup app. Also anytime I message someone my phone gives me the notification, "why don't you carry on the conversation you have with Kelsey?" Well because Kelsey hasn't responded to my first text in the first place, it's only a conversation if two people converse.

Bumble: I've only gotten one response from this app, and it was from someone I'm not sexually attracted to at all. She said she thought I was handsome in all of them, but I didn't feel attracted to her at all.

Okcupid: I only got hit on by trannys, legit just trannys. The thing is I didn't even know they were trannys until I actually viewed their profile after messaging back and forth. After i realized I stopped and immediately took a cold shower.

Mingle: This app only has users who're 125miles+ away from me so nothing

Zoosk: This site doesn't filter out paying members and nonpaying members, and ONLY paying members can respond. I paid thinking I was going to be able to talk to other serious people, this is rated as the number 1 mobile dating app, and I feel so cheated.

Coffee Meets Bagel: The most heart shattering app of all, the people you match with are too perfect, but the girls there say they go to colleges close by. You can match point for point, and you get a match everyday, but the person on the other end needs to accept you. This app just shows that the person on the other end can crush you with silence. I gave one girl 4 flowers since I assume you can't get notifications from the app unless you do that. I used all the credits they gave me for free to grab this person's attention and I got nothing. She seemed like one of my dream girls.

Jaumo: Silence

Meet Me: I got some invites from some women, but they weren't my type, and another tranny. I also got a friend request from a really attractive woman, and she has yet to respond to one of my texts, even though she liked all of my photos and sent me a request.

Plenty of Fish: Several responses with long conversations with women, however when the time came to actually schedule a date, they got silent....all 5 of them.

I'm trying gaia to find people, but alas, I think I'm doomed to be forever alone. cue to 2009 forever alone meme.

I try to say enough in my salutations to a woman. "Hi my name is ****, and I wanted to do the polite thing and say you're really attractive. I love you eyes, and was hoping we could strike up a conversation. What do you like to do for fun?"

I typically like to mix in something form their profile in the inquiry part. It's so basic and it's not some douchey pickup line. I keep reading from woman on dating sites that they want introductions that are well thought out and respectful. I think mine is a good foot in the door, but it's not from my experiences.  

[dax corsiar]

I'm sure you'll find someone. Love isn't always on time.

But most online relationships are pretty tricky. Not saying they won't work because I go see my girlfriend every 6 months (winter and summer and I'm there with her now) but when it comes to finding that someone you just have to keep going and going.

And believe it or not... my gf is more antisocial that me when I met her for the first time. I mean.... she talks a lot but only when I'm around.

But on the topic on hand.... you can't hurry love; you just have to wait. Online or Real Life. I hope you find someone. Good luck, my friend.  

[NobleAbsinthe]

Dax Corsiar

I'm sure you'll find someone. Love isn't always on time.

But most online relationships are pretty tricky. Not saying they won't work because I go see my girlfriend every 6 months (winter and summer and I'm there with her now) but when it comes to finding that someone you just have to keep going and going.

And believe it or not... my gf is more antisocial that me when I met her for the first time. I mean.... she talks a lot but only when I'm around.

But on the topic on hand.... you can't hurry love; you just have to wait. Online or Real Life. I hope you find someone. Good luck, my friend.

My last girlfriend approached me, since I commuted to college I always came to the class building early, better early than late. She also commuted and would sit next to me reading her book. I introduced myself and just kept reading my book with the idea that she had a boyfriend already. after a few more days I realized it was weird not to talk to someone you sit next to for the past week so I asked her what she was reading, and after that we just talked a bunch. She then found me on facebook and we then scheduled a date for coffee and hit it off.

I just feel like no girl is ever going to do that for me. It's like god gave me a freebie and I threw her away.  

[dax corsiar]

Don't think as breakups to be the end of the world. It's a learning process. To be honest.... I learn a lot from breakups and learned to not ever do it again and to try to work things out.

Why not go back to her and say sorry?  

[NobleAbsinthe]

Dax Corsiar

Don't think as breakups to be the end of the world. It's a learning process. To be honest.... I learn a lot from breakups and learned to not ever do it again and to try to work things out.

Why not go back to her and say sorry?

I was the only thing keeping her in NY, she's moved to Hawaii. She's a hippie free spirit kind of girl. I'm always the slow and cautious guy, she just dropped all her belongings and left. She quit school and plans to live with her mom in Pahoa. I went over to patch things up, and I got the door. This was the third time we got into a breakup make up, and this time was permanent.  

[dax corsiar]

Oh dear.... that's pretty burial. But if someone traveled that far to say something then I salute you.

But if it permanent then there is nothing I can say. Breaking up is one of the hardest. And to be honest..... relationships scare me sometimes because it can only end up 1 of 2 ways; breakup or marriage.

But in life you got to take chances. Even though it's a longshot. I actually got out of my fear of asking girls out because you miss all of the chances you don't take and the worst is her saying no. But at least you know the answer and be able to move on instead of you liking her for so long and wasting all of your time.  

[NobleAbsinthe]

Dax Corsiar

Oh dear.... that's pretty burial. But if someone traveled that far to say something then I salute you.

But if it permanent then there is nothing I can say. Breaking up is one of the hardest. And to be honest..... relationships scare me sometimes because it can only end up 1 of 2 ways; breakup or marriage.

But in life you got to take chances. Even though it's a longshot. I actually got out of my fear of asking girls out because you miss all of the chances you don't take and the worst is her saying no. But at least you know the answer and be able to move on instead of you liking her for so long and wasting all of your time.

I'm trying real life, I almost had a shot today when I went to target. This woman was having a hard time parking her car and when she got out I make a joke about how her vehicle is so massive, she laughed. talked about my tiny tin can, and asked her what she was shopping for. Clearance stuff. I just said, "well i'll see you later." I'm such a wuss man. It feels weird being in the real world and no longer in school  

[AvalonIII]

I know the feels, man. Have a hard time finding a lady friend and tried just about all those apps aswell. Didn't get hit on by trannys on okcupid though. Although I'm open to TG women so I would have been interested but not even that. I don't even get hit on at all.  

[Whoopix]

I'm sure you'll find someone though ; u ; just keep fighting on. Sometimes you'll unexpectedly meet them. However it's extremely difficult to keep a online relationship because everyone is pretty a douche :[ but it takes time.  

[xGreyWulfx]

First off in understand completely, the loneliness all that sad mumbo jumbo!
Yeah easier said than done right? Wrong!! Why? because youve had relationships, you have friends, co-workers whatever the case may be, there are people who do accept for who you are. Having people whoa accept you for who you are is a very important key to turning your luck around.
I've done the online dating apps, i must have sent out 1 million messages some well thought out some not so much. I used Okcupid and POF, i met someone through OKC lasted two year and just like you we always had arguments every week, it was annoying so one day i said F-it its over it was toxic.
In three years i met about 5 females from these apps, okc worked better for me, its a numbers thing. There will be females who find you attractive and not attractive.
I wouldn't recommend looking for females at bars. There are plenty of other places, coffee shops, libraries, local events. Most importantly, it's all a process, if you rush you end up with something unfinished and toxic, or unhappy, never settle! nor give up. At least this is what ive learned so far. There is plenty of females out there, just have to have some determination and patience to go through this process. Good luck!  

[Smash_Announcer]

First gotta ask how many drinks did you guys have? I'm sorry just that shocks me. I have been drunk before but not to the point fighting and yelling plus I'm still myself when drunk just a little more talkitive.
Anyways onto online dating, for starters the sites you mentioned half of them are worthless and the other half works about 5% of the time. Wasting money on them won't help in any way. Trying to find a potential gf is almost the same.

Best way to find someone is just keep doing the things you love to do. And also be more adventurous as well you might end up bumping into someone your attracted to. Oh also look up speed dating, did it in china. I didn't really find anyone I really liked but I had fun and met some friends. Friends are not always something negative, sometimes they can help you meet people you might be attracted to. Always keep a open mind and keep at it, but have some fun and adventure while your at it.