Quick overview before I get to the main problem!
- I've had problems with my mother for as long as I can remember. The last time I remember her and I getting along is when I was six years old. Since then it's been all fighting and blaming me for things I did and didn't do.
- She constantly makes me feel like I'm worth little to nothing, like I don't do enough to impress her or make her proud even though I've made it through my associates degree in college while dealing with many hardships along the way. She constantly compares me to my younger sister who she deems an angel while I'm the devil (yeah she's literally said that).
- When I try to talk to her about these things she screams in my face and tells me I'm an ungrateful b***h.
So after all this and much more that I haven't discussed- at 21 years old I've decided it's time I need to get the f**k out of this house.
I get along with my father just fine but now that my sister is home from college my mother has become even worse and I cannot handle it.
I have a friend in another state that has offered a spare room in their house and I'm planning to go through with it.
The person is meeting my parents officially at the end of June and if things go well I should be figuring out my plans to move and get out by August or by latest- September.
The thing is that only my father knows about this plan because if I told my mother lord knows what she would do.
I understand the whole "you're 21 she can't legally make you do anything" shizz but it's different when I'm still living in the house with her. She would make my life even more miserable than it is now and I cannot handle that.
So I guess what I'm trying to figure out is how to break it to her that I am leaving and I am going to live with this person who is very many states away.
My father and I have already decided that we aren't going to mention it until he meets this person who I would be living with and makes sure everything would go okay...
So for telling my mother... any suggestions?
- I've had problems with my mother for as long as I can remember. The last time I remember her and I getting along is when I was six years old. Since then it's been all fighting and blaming me for things I did and didn't do.
- She constantly makes me feel like I'm worth little to nothing, like I don't do enough to impress her or make her proud even though I've made it through my associates degree in college while dealing with many hardships along the way. She constantly compares me to my younger sister who she deems an angel while I'm the devil (yeah she's literally said that).
- When I try to talk to her about these things she screams in my face and tells me I'm an ungrateful b***h.
So after all this and much more that I haven't discussed- at 21 years old I've decided it's time I need to get the f**k out of this house.
I get along with my father just fine but now that my sister is home from college my mother has become even worse and I cannot handle it.
I have a friend in another state that has offered a spare room in their house and I'm planning to go through with it.
The person is meeting my parents officially at the end of June and if things go well I should be figuring out my plans to move and get out by August or by latest- September.
The thing is that only my father knows about this plan because if I told my mother lord knows what she would do.
I understand the whole "you're 21 she can't legally make you do anything" shizz but it's different when I'm still living in the house with her. She would make my life even more miserable than it is now and I cannot handle that.
So I guess what I'm trying to figure out is how to break it to her that I am leaving and I am going to live with this person who is very many states away.
My father and I have already decided that we aren't going to mention it until he meets this person who I would be living with and makes sure everything would go okay...
So for telling my mother... any suggestions?
