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Gosh, so many people here seem anti-sex.
Personally, I write a lot of porn, and I'm good at it. It ain't tasteful, but I enjoy it.
It depends on what you're writing. Sticking a thousand word, detailed sex scene into a fantasy book or something wouldn't be a good idea. However, you're writing a romance, which often includes a bit of erotica.
Personally, I'd go for it. And I wouldn't use nice words about it, either, like 'member' or 'petals' or whatever people use these days. But if you're aiming for a Mills and Boon type thing, they're probably not going to go for words that talk about actual anatomy.
SO. I'd suggest reading some of those books. You can pick 'em up real cheap in any second hand book store. You'll learn all about 'dewy entrance' and 'throbbing manhood' in no time.
I don't think anybody here is opposed to
sex. I have nothing against porn, I read and watch it fairly often.
But in a work that is not porn, and especially in a work where the romance is a side plot and not even the main narrative, sex scenes tend to be unnecessary, dull and often jarring. It's not that they're bad (although they often are), it's that they're so utterly
pointless. And I feel the same way about lengthy sex scenes in visual media like movies and particularly videogames. Technology in that medium hasn't yet progressed to the point where character models can even hug or kiss convincingly, let alone ********.
Sex scenes add little if anything in terms of plot and/or characterization. The act
itself can be integral to plot or character development. In terms of the relationship between the two (or more) characters involved, it's probably
very significant. But it is enough for an intelligent reader to simply know that sex occurred. The significance is apparent from the get-go. We don't need every detail, or even
any details. It's unlikely that every new position is going to bring about a sudden epiphany.
But if an author is determined to write a sex scene, that's their prerogative. As a reader, I can skim it or skip it entirely.