Chombi
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- Posted: Sat, 09 Jun 2012 04:25:13 +0000
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Chombi
But yeah, you consider him making her get into a car and making her nurish her body abuse? Really? Do you also consider every parent in the world abusive? He acts like a father figure to her, hes much older after all
He's not her father. He's not her parent, and it is not his place to parent her. He's a guy who wants to date her, and in that kind of a relationship, equality is key. It is not his place to attempt to put himself into a position of authority over her.
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and hes from an age where women were treated that way.
Yeah, and my grandparents are from an age when racism was socially acceptable--that doesn't make it okay.
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But thats mild compaired to the spats that some couples have.
So? Does that make it not abuse in your book?
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My father actually yelled at my mother during stressed out times when she kept him up for 5 days and wouldnt take her medicine, forced her into a car to go to the hospital and strapped her down. They have been married for 30 something years. Is that abusive? No he was stressed out from being kept awake for five days and he forced her into a car because she was in danger and she needed medical help.
Assuming your mother actually had a medical condition and was a danger to herself and/or others, then that's an entirely different situation. However, you'll have to be more specific with what was wrong with her. If she had something that wasn't life-threatening or dangerous, then it really wasn't his place to force her to do anything she didn't want.
But in the Edward/Bella situation? She wasn't in danger. She wasn't incapacitated in any way. Edward simply decided to ignore her wishes and force her to do things she told him she didn't want to do. Like ride home with him or eat something. And he physically forced her to do the first. THAT IS ABUSIVE.
Your later claim that she was dizzy is bullshit. She had been dizzy, but she already felt better by the time he asked the nurse if he could drive her home. She even admits to pretending to feel badly just to get out of gym. Edward knew that, too, if you read Midnight Sun. He knew she was faking, and he didn't give a crap because he thought his desire to drive her home overrule her desire to not be treated like an invalid.
Also, even if his motivations were entirely good (they weren't), HE STILL DOESN'T HAVE THE RIGHT TO INHIBIT HER ABILITY TO MAKE HER OWN CHOICES.
MuffinTheOrphan
Buffy had awesome vampires. From what I see though, that vampire and Xander aren't the same person. I don't think Xander ever was a vampire.
He was in some alternate future thing. I can't really remember what happened, but both he and Willow had become vampires. And I think their eyes do change, but considering that vampires in the Buffy universe are demon-possessed corpses--and not the pseudo-scientific monstrosities Meyer attempted to create--it's much easier to suspend disbelief and assume that the change is due to the demon within them.