Magical Felicia
This idea would never be accepted here because it infringes on privacy and goes against EU regulations and the convention on human rights. Just because someone is a young parent does not mean they are a loser, or will be a loser. I knew a girl in college who had a daughter when she was 15. She was a beautiful Mongolian girl who became a Dentist. So this whole logic is flawed and based on stereotypes. What is considered ideal age, intellect, and financial security is all subjective. People can have children later in life, after going to college and having a nice job and doing everything the ''right'' way and lose it all in the blink of an eye. You never know when your stable household becomes chaotic or you become a window/widower and your life is turned upside down and you have nowhere to go. You never know if your husband/wife will cheat on you leaving you in he midst of a nasty divorce and having no other option but to take your kids and claim welfare and collect child maintenance payments until you get on your feet. On the other end of the spectrum, there are plenty of young parents who continue school and go on to make good careers and get married. There are also many who wait until later in life who turn out to be horrible parents.
For sure, as I stated I already know that it wouldn't be accepted. This conversation is more so about the ups and downs of the proposition and if it really even is a good idea.
Firstly I would never ever say that because someone has children at a younger age that they're automatically a loser. I'd question if they knew what they were getting into, or if they wish they had waited abit longer and figured their lives out, but I'd never say they're automatically a loser.
Secondly, I totally agree with you that age doesn't necessarily equate to good parenting. However there are a lot of young adults who have kids...and I mean a lot who have them and have NO IDEA how to deal with them, too many in fact. They then might abuse the kids or raise them resenting them for ruining their lives. And I feel that if making young adults wait and prove themselves a little helps taper off that number, then it might be worth it. this is not based on stereotypes by a long shot, in fact I'm speaking from personal experience. Now the examples that I'm going to give are totally anecdotal because they're from my perspective in "my" life, but I know it's not isolated or even a minority thing. My grandma had four kids, all of them daughters, all of them she had by the age of 18. My grandma spent most of her time clubbing and looking for men and leaving her kids with relatives who didn't much care to feed them. One story my mom told me (You can skip this if you want ;p) was that one of her favorite things to do as a kid was to run up to the local middle school with her and her sisters around the time the school let out and talk to the kids about what they got to eat at lunch that day, because her and her sisters weren't being fed very often.
My mom had my sister and I around the age of 19, and every day after maybe the age of 7 was "I CAN'T WAIT UNTIL YOU GROW UP AND GET OUT!". Now this isn't everyone's experience with a parent who had them at a young age, but this is roughly the story for every single person in my family, as well as any kids that they've had today. I'm about 24, and many of my cousins have already had kids. I had to help take care of two of them along with taking care of my grandma when I moved in to take care of her. My cousin's girlfriend who he left would generally only have things like "SIT DOWN BEFORE I BUST YOU UP SIDE YO HEAD" to say to her kids, and she made good on her threats. At one point I attacked her because of it. So yeah, it's not based on stereotypes, I've got a lot of real world experience with it xD. But I can't stress enough that my experiences aren't everyone else's.
I remember when the new high school in my city got finished being built and students in that area flooded to it from other high schools. I attended as a sophmore and the very first day...a huge amount of the freshmen there were pregnant...just ready to pop. It's not a pretty site seeing 13 and 14 year old kids walking around with bowling balls in their shirts. I don't think it's a stretch to say that they didn't know what they were getting into, and how a good portion of them if not all of them were unfit to be parents at that age and would have been better off not being pregnant. Totally coincidentally today at my job which is working on a food truck with my uncle a young white girl and her boyfriend...she had to be MAYBE 17, came up and ordered some food. They ordered, I served them, and out of nowhere I hear cussing and shouting and then a car pull off. He left her on the side of the road, stole her phone, money and other crap, and what's worse is that she didn't even live in this city! Totally blew my mind, and she looked really far along in her pregnancy. Once again, that happened TODAY!! I feel sorry for her because she's stuck with that guy in her life, because she has to have that baby.
As for the financial stability thing, I think it'd be a good idea more so just to show that you were or are willing to at least hold a job for a certain amount of time and don't just plan to have the kids and then lean on welfare. My cousin's ex girlfriend who I was just talking about does that, and I've got an auntie who does too, coincidentally she's that same cousin's mom.
Hey, sorry if that was a lot to read xD.
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