Selete
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- Posted: Wed, 12 Jul 2006 13:38:14 +0000
People who hate fat people won't read this, because they don't care.
That is because they are lazier even than they think fat people are, but don't look at themselves.
Not necissarily being disgusted by the sight of fat people, because that you can't help. But hating someone because they aren't attractive to look at is evil, plain and simple.
For some reason people think that hating fat people is 'okay,' because being fat is something you think everyone can control. It's true that almost everyone can become thin if they work very, very hard, and do the right things... but you have no idea how uncomfortable that is for some people. Not just 'oooh, I want that cheeseburger' uncomfortable, but physically and psychologically painful. And even if you change your lifestyle, it does not just go away.
I know this because of my mother, who is fat and has been that way all her life, except for three years in the middle of her life. (I'm not fat myself, because I'm lucky, I guess.)
My mother is not a slacker. She is not indolent. She is not 'okay' with being fat - and she has tried all her life to diet and excercize.
Of all those diets - in which she really tried, trust me, I've watched her and I know her - she lost some weight and then gained it all back.
The three years in which she was thin, she was in a program called Overeaters Anonymous. If you don't know what that is, it's a 'diet' which treats eating like an addictive drug. You have a sponsor, and you write out what you're going to eat the day before. You get to have a vegetable and a small portion of protien at every meal, and absolutely nothing else. In between those meals, you can't eat ANYTHING except for one unsweetened cup of tea, and water.
She lost the weight, and kept it off for three years.
She tells me that those three years were like hell to her, comparing the experience to sticking her hand in a fire and having to walk around like that. She was always cold, frustrated, irritable, and hungry. Even after three years. It did not get better.
After she had her second child, the weight came back and stayed on, even when she tried the program again.
Personally, I don't think that people should have to torture themselves to be tolerated by other people.
If you can't have basic compassion for people in that situation, you are worse than unattractive... you're disgusting morally, plain and simple. It's more than being shallow. It is being cruel.
That is because they are lazier even than they think fat people are, but don't look at themselves.
Not necissarily being disgusted by the sight of fat people, because that you can't help. But hating someone because they aren't attractive to look at is evil, plain and simple.
For some reason people think that hating fat people is 'okay,' because being fat is something you think everyone can control. It's true that almost everyone can become thin if they work very, very hard, and do the right things... but you have no idea how uncomfortable that is for some people. Not just 'oooh, I want that cheeseburger' uncomfortable, but physically and psychologically painful. And even if you change your lifestyle, it does not just go away.
Why I say this
I know this because of my mother, who is fat and has been that way all her life, except for three years in the middle of her life. (I'm not fat myself, because I'm lucky, I guess.)
My mother is not a slacker. She is not indolent. She is not 'okay' with being fat - and she has tried all her life to diet and excercize.
Of all those diets - in which she really tried, trust me, I've watched her and I know her - she lost some weight and then gained it all back.
The three years in which she was thin, she was in a program called Overeaters Anonymous. If you don't know what that is, it's a 'diet' which treats eating like an addictive drug. You have a sponsor, and you write out what you're going to eat the day before. You get to have a vegetable and a small portion of protien at every meal, and absolutely nothing else. In between those meals, you can't eat ANYTHING except for one unsweetened cup of tea, and water.
She lost the weight, and kept it off for three years.
She tells me that those three years were like hell to her, comparing the experience to sticking her hand in a fire and having to walk around like that. She was always cold, frustrated, irritable, and hungry. Even after three years. It did not get better.
After she had her second child, the weight came back and stayed on, even when she tried the program again.
Personally, I don't think that people should have to torture themselves to be tolerated by other people.
If you can't have basic compassion for people in that situation, you are worse than unattractive... you're disgusting morally, plain and simple. It's more than being shallow. It is being cruel.
