Songlian
Oh, for heaven's sake!
I find myself wondering how many people in this conversation have had any form of real relationship. Ah, well.
I've dated 'nice guys', and I've dated 'bad boys'. Both terms are sickening, but hey, I'm prepared to work with what you're giving me this once.
In my experience, a self-professed 'nice guy' is to be run from like the very plague, because he is extremely likely to be a passive-aggressive immature ******** whiner, who blames his own issues on others. "I can't get a girl because they all like jerks!" as opposed to "I can't get a girl because my behaviour around them is repellantly sappy".
Nobody wants to date soppy wet whiners who can't stand up for themselves - not against other guys, but against their girlfriend. Men who always let you have your own way are just as bad as ones who never let you have your way. men to whom you can do no wrong are a complete ******** nightmare. You can't have a relationship with that. You can push it over, maybe scream at it a bit in the hope of getting a reaction with some kind of spine in it, but you damn well can't find any passion for it, nor with it can any romance occur. Because it's like trying to care about a lump of damp, soggy cotton-wool. It's inherently faintly disgusting.
"Bad boys" on the other hand - it mays suprise you, nice guys out there, but just because a man acts one way in public or towards you, this doesn't mean that he is the same in private or towards his girlfriend. The guys I've dated who were proclaimed jerks by 'nice' people in the vicinity have as a rule been far and away better at treating me like an actual human being than any 'nice' man I've been with.
So here's my advice - try treating your girlfriend like an adult human being, and stop blaming the fact nobody wants to ******** you on them having bad taste.
So, let me see if I understand. We're immature because we don't treat you like items, yet you're totally mature because you date bad boys just cause of seeking adventure.
Nah, I'm just kidding; I understand what you mean. However, "nice" guys aren't always overly sensitive, pussies like the ones you mentioned.
Edit: To clarify, I've been called sweet numerous times, but I'm a total asshat in public namely because I'm a VERY spiteful man. Towards those I care about I'm totally caring and all that s**t, but those who cross me I send away in tears.