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...the first time?

I know there are going to be about a billion different answers but I'm happy to hear all of them.
When did you know you were in love? Did you tell the other person right away or did you wait? Is it okay to tell someone you love them even if that love isn't necessarily reciprocated?


I don't have to say I love you to a person for them to feel it.

I put my love into action, not just superficial words that can only be forgotten by the fade of the memory.

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Wow. I've very sorry you feel that way. While I can't say I agree, I definitely understand. I've been hurt like that, too. But I've also experienced love in a healthy way, too, which is why I disagree. I hope a healthy love finds you, too.


I don't know what's healthy anymore.

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I can't really answer that. It always started as a joke between my guys. Then it just fell into habit.




Oh, so you're poly?
Did one relationship come first? Are your SOs friends? How do you all live amongst one another?

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I think you should say it when you feel it. Mind you my boyfriend and I waited 4 months before saying anything but that's only because we were very shy with each other.

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Wow. I've very sorry you feel that way. While I can't say I agree, I definitely understand. I've been hurt like that, too. But I've also experienced love in a healthy way, too, which is why I disagree. I hope a healthy love finds you, too.


I don't know what's healthy anymore.




It's hard to say what is healthy, because healthy isn't necessarily universal.
But I think anyone has the potential to find a healthy relationship that suits his or her needs.
I'm sure that someone will come along for you eventually. The waiting game is always hard, but I think it's worth it.

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I can't really answer that. It always started as a joke between my guys. Then it just fell into habit.




Oh, so you're poly?
Did one relationship come first? Are your SOs friends? How do you all live amongst one another?


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Yes, I am.
My relationship with my husband came first. We were married seven years before my boyfriend came along.
They are amazing friends. They do a lot of things together, and even work at the same company. They split the work around the house, and work together to take care of me and the kids.
My husband, boyfriend, and I all live in one house with the kids, my mom, and my great aunt.
We take care of the later.
Boyfriend has his own room, and I sleep in the room with my husband to be closer to my kids.
It's not really about sex. It's a lot of balance and taking care of each other, specially because I am sick.
It's really average and really normal.
No craziness like people expect.

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I think you should say it when you feel it. Mind you my boyfriend and I waited 4 months before saying anything but that's only because we were very shy with each other.




Thank you for your input c:
I really appreciate it~

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I can't really answer that. It always started as a joke between my guys. Then it just fell into habit.




Oh, so you're poly?
Did one relationship come first? Are your SOs friends? How do you all live amongst one another?


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Yes, I am.
My relationship with my husband came first. We were married seven years before my boyfriend came along.
They are amazing friends. They do a lot of things together, and even work at the same company. They split the work around the house, and work together to take care of me and the kids.
My husband, boyfriend, and I all live in one house with the kids, my mom, and my great aunt.
We take care of the later.
Boyfriend has his own room, and I sleep in the room with my husband to be closer to my kids.
It's not really about sex. It's a lot of balance and taking care of each other, specially because I am sick.
It's really average and really normal.
No craziness like people expect.




Wow, that's amazing! Did you know you were poly before your boyfriend came along? Is your husband also poly? Your boyfriend? Was it hard trying to explain everything to your family?

I'm sorry for all of the questions, I just don't meet too many poly people and I love to hear their stories c:

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...the first time?

I know there are going to be about a billion different answers but I'm happy to hear all of them.
When did you know you were in love? Did you tell the other person right away or did you wait? Is it okay to tell someone you love them even if that love isn't necessarily reciprocated?


I don't have to say I love you to a person for them to feel it.

I put my love into action, not just superficial words that can only be forgotten by the fade of the memory.




I suppose that makes sense.
Thank you for your input c:

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Whatever you do, don't say it too soon. Not until you're completely certain. I felt pressured to say it very early on in my last relationship, because I felt that was what was expected of me. I was very young when we started dating so I mistook infatuation for love, and didn't think hard enough about the implications of declaring you're in love with someone.

TLDR; Don't tell the other person you love them unless you're a 100% certain you mean it. The feelings of lust /crush you experience at the start of a relationship do not automatically equal love. In retrospect, I think it takes a long time to know someone well enough to know whether you really love them or not.

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Is there such thing as "too soon"?
Well, as soon as you are SURE that you love someone, you can tell them.

Any time before that is too soon.

Infatuation is not love but many get them mixed up.

If you feel like you "love" someone after just two or three weeks of dating, it's probably just infatuation.

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Whatever you do, don't say it too soon. Not until you're completely certain. I felt pressured to say it very early on in my last relationship, because I felt that was what was expected of me. I was very young when we started dating so I mistook infatuation for love, and didn't think hard enough about the implications of declaring you're in love with someone.

TLDR; Don't tell the other person you love them unless you're a 100% certain you mean it. The feelings of lust /crush you experience at the start of a relationship do not automatically equal love. In retrospect, I think it takes a long time to know someone well enough to know whether you really love them or not.
I think it's cute that your TLDR is just as long as what you said before xd

Also, your avatar is always so adorable, I love how you kept it for so long!
And the art emotion_drool

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Is there such thing as "too soon"?
Well, as soon as you are SURE that you love someone, you can tell them.

Any time before that is too soon.

Infatuation is not love but many get them mixed up.

If you feel like you "love" someone after just two or three weeks of dating, it's probably just infatuation.




Thank you very much for your input c:

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It's hard to say what is healthy, because healthy isn't necessarily universal.
But I think anyone has the potential to find a healthy relationship that suits his or her needs.
I'm sure that someone will come along for you eventually. The waiting game is always hard, but I think it's worth it.

No. I've tried. Real relationships don't exist, in the end you are only with someone for what they can do for you, NOT for what you can do for them.

Would you be willing to stay with someone while they have cancer? When they're poor? When they have trouble with alcohol?

If you say yes, how long will you be able to until someone else enters your life? It can't be done. Life is just a series of moments to moments, instead of seeing a relationship as a "Forever" thing like some deluded schoolgirl's fantasy, see it for what it is.. A temporary reprieve from the despair of impending death.

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Whatever you do, don't say it too soon. Not until you're completely certain. I felt pressured to say it very early on in my last relationship, because I felt that was what was expected of me. I was very young when we started dating so I mistook infatuation for love, and didn't think hard enough about the implications of declaring you're in love with someone.

TLDR; Don't tell the other person you love them unless you're a 100% certain you mean it. The feelings of lust /crush you experience at the start of a relationship do not automatically equal love. In retrospect, I think it takes a long time to know someone well enough to know whether you really love them or not.




Yes, that makes a lot of sense. Thank you very much for your input c:
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