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Hi all! I'm an amab trans person, non-op. Which is mostly relevant because of the topic.

My significant other and I are considering having sex, and in particular a**l sex is a topic we have both expressed interest in. My previous relationship was with a cis woman who had no interest to my knowledge in a**l sex, and I at the time was not comfortable with the idea of being on the receiving end so I never brought up anything along those lines either.

My significant other has never had sex of any kind, and I've only been intimate with one person who I know has been tested and is clean.

Mostly what I want to know is whether or not it would be safe not to use a condom when having a**l sex given that neither of us have the possibility of having any STDs or anything of the like. I know vaginal sex is very different than a**l, and want to be sure to be safe, but I also am in a monogamous relationship in which pregnancy simply isn't a concern.

Please excuse my ignorance on the topic as it is new to me. Any information I have found on this topic is a bit unclear.

Hi! lol. I remember you from a while ago, also facebook lol. Yeah a**l sex without lube just sounds....ow lol. Id rather not share whether it's all we'd be doing or not. But I can say that it is something that we plan to do.

There's always going to be the risk of a bacterial infection. Just unavoidable so that makes bareback always "risky".

Plus, poopdick. It's not a great experience trying to clean that off.

Mostly I'm being ambiguous to things like gender, birth assignment, etc. But agreed that going straight from a**l to vaginal is just a bad idea for obvious reasons.

As for poop d**k, I'm gonna be very blunt here. That sounds like a symptom mostly of not being clean and not sufficiently emptying your bowels beforehand. Maybe I'm just lucky, but I've used toys in that area and it was only the first couple times where I tried to do it after eating that anything like that got on the toy.

But yes, I can see how despite not being a risk for STIs, it can still be a risk for things like infection. Once other question if you don't mind though, if I DO plan to do it without a condom, are there any other ways to reduce the chance of bacterial infections?

Condoms are used for a**l to also avoid getting feces inside of the givers p***s, to keep both partners cleaner in case of accidents (there will be accidents), and to help avoid nasty infections. Also helps so you can go a**l > oral, since you wont need to clean it off, youll just have to remove the condom - but dont enter again until you have another condom to use