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A Wayward Gypsy

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Post: 96769605_1 created on Fri, 01 May 2015 05:56:41 +0000
Posted: Fri, 01 May 2015 05:56:41 +0000

so my boyfriend introduced me to this girl when we first started dating and her and I instantly became best friends! Completely inseparable! My boyfriend and I have been together for at least two, if not three months now and I've had no reason to question any of her intentions however the other night she apparently messaged my boyfriend to tell him that she had participated in sexual acts with another man...

I would have understood if she had told me as we're best friends, but why tell my boyfriend? Why is that any of his business?
Why would you just tell him and not tell me? That seems a bit odd doesn't it?

Am I overthinking things?

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Post: 96769605_2 created on Fri, 01 May 2015 06:19:26 +0000
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Post: 96769605_3 created on Fri, 01 May 2015 06:21:00 +0000
Posted: Fri, 01 May 2015 06:21:00 +0000

I would say your overthinking it =) it sounds like shes known him longer as he introduced you to her maybe she just trusts him more right now? And besides its not like she performed said acts with him.

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Post: 96769605_4 created on Fri, 01 May 2015 06:21:28 +0000
Posted: Fri, 01 May 2015 06:21:28 +0000

:my boyfriend introduced me"
that means he's known her longer

i mean unless she said "i wish it was with you though" or he came on to her after that, you have no reason to worry. you're overthinking.

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Post: 96769605_5 created on Fri, 01 May 2015 06:24:10 +0000
Posted: Fri, 01 May 2015 06:24:10 +0000

I don't get why she'd announce something like that.

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Post: 96769605_6 created on Fri, 01 May 2015 06:28:15 +0000
Posted: Fri, 01 May 2015 06:28:15 +0000

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no, that is way out of line. that is a complete tease move, like she wants him to think about her having sex. did he ever mention what kind of friend she is to him? if you aren't ok with this going on you need to let both of them know, or get the hell up out of both of those relationships. not healthy to let yourself feel suspicious and bad about yourself just to keep the peace/ afraid to loose your relationship. nu huh girlie, you ain't gunna be that kinda hoe, a mind fuquer is what she is

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Post: 96769605_7 created on Fri, 01 May 2015 06:29:41 +0000
Posted: Fri, 01 May 2015 06:29:41 +0000

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Knowing someone longer doesn't define levels of trust. I know for a fact that she trusts me more, and that they don't necessarily have a very intimate friendship at all. They're quite distant actually, despite knowing each other longer than her and I.

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Post: 96769605_8 created on Fri, 01 May 2015 06:30:09 +0000
Posted: Fri, 01 May 2015 06:30:09 +0000

if your bf introduced her to you, that would imply that he's known her longer

she probably just wanted advice given that he's a guy and therefore knows a bit more about how a guy's mind works

i mean it could also be that she's trying to make your boy jealous but i don't really see it that way if she truly is one of your closest friends now

anyway i still think you're overthinking it

i definitely don't tell some of my closest friends everything i do... only one person in my life knows some of my deepest darkest secrets.