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The 18-year-old was consensual... but she woke up to her daughter's boyfriend going at it with her. She was literally asleep for that bit so...yeah, that's rape. Not that she didn't do about a million other incredibly wrong things here, but that's pretty clearly rape.

Agreed about the 18 year old.
The 16 year old - fuzzy.
I get what you are saying and I agree that strictly speaking initiating sex with someone while they are asleep (especially for the first time) is rape.
(I say for the first time because some married couples / partners enjoy waking up to the other person doing stuff to them but in that case both partners know that so it is consensual)

But the waters are muddied a bit by the fact that she apparently got that 16 year old drunk by hosting and supplying the alcohol and sent possibly very confusing messages for a young horny boy by getting naked with them, having sex with others, masturbating in front of them and who knows what else she said and did. Yes, he should have woken her up first (or not had sex at all) but one can see where the kid may have been a bit confused.

And that of course is assuming what she said is true. As you noted, intercourse with the 18 year old is legal. Sex with the 16 year old could send her to prison as a sex offender on top of all the other charges. She has strong motivation to claim she had nothing to do with it and she just woke up to him inside of her. I realize that may be true but if they press charges against the teen then there is a good chance in court it will come down to a he said / she said kind of thing for the jury and her credibility is spread rather thin.

Unless of course the boy readily admits he intentionally took advantage of her.
But if you take the stance that people can not consent when they were drunk, and if the boy was drunk, and he was drunk because she got him drunk (illegally) then at least some of the responsibility falls back on her.

Having sex with sleeping people is wrong
Having sex with drunk people is wrong
Getting people drunk to have sex with them is wrong
Getting minors drunk is wrong
Both people drunk is - confusing

In a way it is kind of an interesting one for the courts because it is a couple of different rape situations combined.

Ah, it crossed my mind to wonder about age of consent there but in this instance I was too lazy to go look it up. smile
But now I did go look it up and yeah, Georgia is one of the states with a flat age as opposed to a close in age thing. In some states it is stuff like - 16 if the other person is nearly your age or 18 if the other person is much older than you.

That would remove some of her incentive to lie about it - leaving perhaps just the, "Hey! I'm a victim too!" angle for the sake of jury sympathy. Also perhaps the angle of not alienating her daughter over seducing her boyfriend.

And I'm not trying to victim blame or say she has to be lying just because she did the other stuff. She may well be telling the truth. I suppose my hesitation is because by her own admission she was apparently pretty drunk. I've seen people do some pretty outlandish things (including sex) when they were very drunk and then later deny they happened or blame the other person even though there were witnesses to what really happened. She is attending AA so she knows she has a problem with alcohol. I still wonder from a legal perspective how the mom getting the 16 year old drunk (I'm assuming he was drinking with the others) will affect the case if they press charges on the boy.

Every victim deserves to be fairly treated by the courts but some people make it a lot harder for the courts to get a clear picture.

thats just crazy well what she expect she did invite them over