Bonjour Belle
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- Posted: Tue, 16 Dec 2014 15:23:33 +0000
Hi, Li. A little over a month ago, my girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me. Since then, she has been nothing but toxic, texting me when she's drunk for sex, writing nasty posts about me on Tumblr, messaging me on OkCupid, even after I told her to leave me alone. Every single day is a struggle because I didn't just lose my girlfriend, I lost my best friend. I can't say that I don't miss her because I do. So very much... But she made it very clear that, as she put it, she "closed this chapter of her life and needs us both to move on". And I'm trying, but she makes it difficult when she yo-yo's me around. Anyway, she called me yesterday. She had left a jacket of hers in my friend's car. She called me to tell me she wants the jacket back...by Thursday. I told her that it was impossible, that my friends both work and, since I don't have a car, getting to their place a half hour away before Thursday wouldn't happen. She threw a tantrum, saying really hurtful things like how "difficult" I am and how "complicated" things have always been with me. Finally, I told her I'd take a bus out there and get her jacket and mail it to her express. She didn't like that idea either. Freaked out again, told me she NEEDED it by Thursday and it wouldn't get there on time and demanded that I meet her at a Starbucks and give her the jacket. I told her no, that it would absolutely wreck me and that if she could do things for herself now that we've broken up, I can too and not seeing her is something I'm doing for me. Another tantrum. Threats this time, telling me she'd wait at that Starbucks all day if she had to and if she didn't have the jacket by Thursday, I'd owe her a $150 dollars. I panicked, told her I'd call her back, and rang a friend who agreed to give her the jacket in my place. She wasn't happy about that, either, but finally agreed. After all that, though, I'm now having second thoughts. I have no idea if I should just leave things the way they are, and have my friend hand the jacket off and never, ever see her again, or if I should just suck it up and give her the jacket myself so I won't have potential regrets of not getting closure by seeing her. I've been going back and forth since yesterday and she wants the jacket tomorrow so I need to figure this out. What would you do?