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There's this close friend of mine who thinks it's okay to bash on other people's self-esteem by calling them ugly, and that they don't do their hair, and that it's ugly, or that the said person doesn't do enough to look good.

The thing is, the girl doesn't understand that other people struggle with body image, too.

Not sure how to tell her, because she keeps telling me how she's uncomfortable in her own body, DESPITE her many attempts at showing herself in pictures, calling herself cute, etc. etc.

Much help needed.


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One of those people is me.
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Drop that ******** like a rock. Anyone who claims to have issues with their own body shouldn't be using insulting others to make themselves feel better. No one has any right to ever bash someone for their body.

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Drop that ******** like a rock. Anyone who claims to have issues with their own body shouldn't be using insulting others to make themselves feel better. No one has any right to ever bash someone for their body.

But she's gotten so close to me, and I'd feel bad to have to do that. Plus, she'd get right back at me. She knows how to ******** with people.

Is there a way I can approach her? So that I'm assertive?

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But she's gotten so close to me, and I'd feel bad to have to do that. Plus, she'd get right back at me. She knows how to ******** with people.

Is there a way I can approach her? So that I'm assertive?

Just be up front but genuine about it.

Like "Hey, I get that you struggle with your own body and that's got to be rough, but how would you feel if someone said what you just said about her/him?
What if they have the same issues you do?
Try to make her a little more emphatic towards someone other than herself.

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But she's gotten so close to me, and I'd feel bad to have to do that. Plus, she'd get right back at me. She knows how to ******** with people.

Is there a way I can approach her? So that I'm assertive?

Just be up front but genuine about it.

Like "Hey, I get that you struggle with your own body and that's got to be rough, but how would you feel if someone said what you just said about her/him?
What if they have the same issues you do?
Try to make her a little more emphatic towards someone other than herself.

I see how that makes sense.
But what if she fires back?

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She's telling you she's uncomfortable cause she wants you to tell her she has no reason to be.
It's called ignorant attention seeking and the only way she will learn is over time, once more people realise her true colours.

& Also she'd get right back at me/knows how to ******** with people - tbh she doesn't sound like a very nice person over all so gonk

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She's telling you she's uncomfortable cause she wants you to tell her she has no reason to be.
It's called ignorant attention seeking and the only way she will learn is over time, once more people realise her true colours.

& Also she'd get right back at me/knows how to ******** with people - tbh she doesn't sound like a very nice person over all so gonk

I /do/ tell her. My other close friend complains to me as well that she does the same thing. I wrote her two pages worth of notes explaining that she shouldn't be ashamed, and that other people would want to be in her situation (she's /really/ skinny; not anorexic skinny but really fit) and it's just sejz,mf.
The thing is that people already know her as a b***h, since she's kinda too exuberant/flamboyant.

I dunno how to handle her without having to push her away.

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The more you say about her, the more toxic she sounds.
I feel like it'd be best for you to phase her out of your life. A friend worth keeping doesn't blackmail you.

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Call her ugly, then she'll see how it feels

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There's this close friend of mine who thinks it's okay to bash on other people's self-esteem by calling them ugly, and that they don't do their hair, and that it's ugly, or that the said person doesn't do enough to look good.

The thing is, the girl doesn't understand that other people struggle with body image, too.

Not sure how to tell her, because she keeps telling me how she's uncomfortable in her own body, DESPITE her many attempts at showing herself in pictures, calling herself cute, etc. etc.

Much help needed.


P.S.
One of those people is me.
Yes.



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I once had a friend like that... She hated on other cute girls... some complexes she had...
AND one day she called a chubby girl FAT... well I kind of have that issue with curves and in school boys used to bully me... so I turned around slapped her in the face and said " ******** YOU b***h"
Never spoke again... NOT EVEN SORRY!!!

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The more you say about her, the more toxic she sounds.
I feel like it'd be best for you to phase her out of your life. A friend worth keeping doesn't blackmail you.

I'm gonna try to do what you said.
Thank you.
I'll see how everything goes, I might post an update later.

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Call her ugly, then she'll see how it feels

She'd call me ugly right back, hoooooly s**t.
It doesn't bother me, because I know who I am, but to hear it from /her/ is highly disappointing.

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There's this close friend of mine who thinks it's okay to bash on other people's self-esteem by calling them ugly, and that they don't do their hair, and that it's ugly, or that the said person doesn't do enough to look good.

The thing is, the girl doesn't understand that other people struggle with body image, too.

Not sure how to tell her, because she keeps telling me how she's uncomfortable in her own body, DESPITE her many attempts at showing herself in pictures, calling herself cute, etc. etc.

Much help needed.


P.S.
One of those people is me.
Yes.


Tell her that looks can't be ugly. Only personalities.

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I just call everyone gorgeous or beautiful no matter what.

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Call her ugly, then she'll see how it feels

She'd call me ugly right back, hoooooly s**t.
It doesn't bother me, because I know who I am, but to hear it from /her/ is highly disappointing.

Smack a b***h.
She's rude as ********.
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