THE PULL-OUT KING
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- Posted: Thu, 19 Jun 2014 08:38:04 +0000
Huge personal rant, but better yet, what do you do when they do it and refuse to acknowledge it and give you closure. I can't just pretend the past three years never happened, as much as I wish I could. But really, the whole situation is taxing me emotionally and physically, resulting in severe bouts of depression, insomnia, cardiac problems, night terrors and so on..when I allow myself to think about the situation and her blatant disregard for her actions too much, the problems simply escalate. She won't even admit that she cheated after I pointed out that she consciously went to the effort to hide it and lie about it. I know that her actions speak to issues with her character and not mine, but really, that does nothing to mend any of the effects it is having on me. For so long I built my life around this other person and a future with them, and in an instant, poof, it was gone, both the person I thought I knew and the future I had spent so long constructing. It genuinely feels like my life is in shambles and I'm doing nothing but letting days fly by that I can never get back just brooding...and I'm tired of it...but it's a rut for me. What's more, I'm genuinely scared of trusting anyone anymore and it hurts because in my heart I know everyone isn't the ******** up mess that she is..I talk about this over and over with people that are close to me, and for a while it helps...but then I'll think about it and the stitches just tear..I'm tired of feeling like I've lost my passion for life because of the vibrant and joyful person I normally am, so I guess what I'm asking is how do I get back there when there is no chance of closure with someone that won't acknowledge their hurtful decisions?