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Personally I think people are born that way. (I'm damn sure I was born bi.)

But then, this is a traditionally held view by my religion. So maybe my viewpoint is slightly biased. But from what I observed this is a from birth thing, that you can't actually change. You can pretend to change it, but ultimately I think the person just ends up unhappy because of it. I'm fairly biased here though because of my own personal experiences.

I believe that people are born gay, therefore it just means they're born gay and slowly they begin to realise that they prefer the company of men (if they are male) or women (if they are female) in a romantic and/or sexual sense. Though, I wouldn't really consider being gay genetic, nor environmental. I just think some people are born one way, and other are born another way. It's hard to explain.


I don't think it's choice at all. Some gay men and women may make the choice to be straight, but being gay isn't a choice.


It's really difficult to explain my thoughts and opinions on gender and sexuality. Like... We don't even know why people are heterosexual. What if we were just conditioned to believe that marriage must be between a "man and a woman" because our religious ancestors believed that reproduction should be the only reason to love someone or want to be with that person (which is essentially true, if you think about it; a lot of religions state that attractive women are those who have good "childbearing hips" and what-not)?

This is why I don't like these threads; we start talking about how "unnatural" something is. People are SO hypocritical when it comes to naturality. Let me just inform you with a few points.

1. You can find homosexuality in other animals and living things. Sexual orientation means very little to basically everything else. Certain species are asexual. Others are genderless. It is so dang hard to compare humans to animals, especially when it comes to gender and chromosomes. Everything reproduces just a little bit differently, and in fewer/greater numbers.
2. Nature by definition typically has an anti-human element. I could argue that nothing is natural about being human.
3. If natural means living more like animals, and less like humans, then we would find that we are doing a terrible job at being natural. We have too much technology and advancement to be considered natural at all. Why should we start caring only about sexual preferences?
4. The only reasonable use of "natural" when it comes to humans, is that everything is natural. Or rather, humans are naturally humans. There is no specific standard. Human nature is a hard thing to generalize, especially when it comes to sexuality. I doubt there is any way that homosexuality could possibly be unnatural.

Sure, it doesn't make babies. But is that really what makes it more or less natural? I don't think so. Not at all. Nature is just another topic that people misunderstand. For everyone's sake, don't talk about how natural or unnatural something is. Even if we did find something "unnatural", we as humans don't really care anyway. Why are we only caring about this?

So how do I make myself sexually aroused by the opposite sex if its a choice?

I don't really ascribe to any of these.

I believe whatever is automatic and unintentional about your initial sexuality is a very real thing. I follow the nurture ideology moreso than the nature one, but the mechanics in which it works are so unknowable and personalized that it's probably no one's fault that any of it happens.

Then there's the unpopular view I have that attracts a lot of hate. I think that choice is a factor. I don't think that therapy, generally, will help. If someone wants to be different, they can... but they have to want it. Your parents or anyone else trying to force something that didn't just come naturally to you isn't going to happen. You, personally, desiring something else is a different beast entirely. I don't think most people have the willpower to face their demons, even if they want to. That, too, is choice.

It's all a choice.