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Um, are you kidding me? When I say to a guy, "I see you as a friend, I'm not looking for a relationship" he either needs to be my friend or GTFO. And yes, I do have guy friends who realise this, have their own relationships and are still happy to hang out at the beach and eat icecream.

Just because YOU take every friendly gesture as a courtship ritual, doesn't mean that every guy does and it doesn't mean it's right. Maybe the reason that so many guys feel led on is because they have a habit of imagining romances when there isn't anything there.

I started out being attracted to some of my friends and not able to date them for various reasons, but guess what. I don't stay their friend in a sad hope that one day they'll see me for the beautiful soul I am and propose marriage. I stay friends with them because I like who they are as people and I enjoy being around them.

If I try to become someone's friend, then I am not leading them on. I'm trying to be nice. If some guys misinterpret that, that is THEIR problem and not mine. I'm not cruel, they're just self centered idiots. They can't win a girl because they're "too nice". The reason they can't win a girl is because they can't see outside themselves, have no idea how to woo women and resort to whining and attempting (and failing) to pressure girls into pity sex.

There is such a thing as a friend zone. It's when a woman doesn't find any romantic interest in you and makes you her friend.

It's just another word for being friends. It does exist. Lol.

Guys tend to like "bitchy bimbos" not because of the fact that they are "bitchy bimbos" but because they're physically attractive. Women who are physically attractive probably more often than average women are spoiled and get everything they want which turns them into bitchy bimbos.

I do want to point out though that I don't think most physically attractive women are bitchy bimbos, I'm just giving my personal experience, but as far as I can tell there's not much of a correlation between a woman's personality and her physical appearance.

However I'm just pointing out that the honest truth is that men aren't attracted to a woman because she is a bitchy for the reason that men for the most part don't put a lot of value on a woman's personality. Men care the most about the way a woman looks.

However with women it's quite different. Women mainly care about a man's power, resources (money in today's society), and social status. The way a man acts as a signal for all these things, and women draw a connection between an arrogant man and a successful man. So that's why so many women are drawn to men who are "jerks."

It's also important to point out there have been studies on mammals and they find what they call a "paradox" that the more an authority figure treats their mates and/or children in an abusive and cold way, the more they cling onto the authority figure. Considering the fact that you often find that women who date jerks are also women who really just want to be submissive to a man and want to be protected by him, that this study really does support that their probably is a biological/neurological phenomena occurring that causes submissive women to be attracted to men who are abusive/arrogant/cocky/jerks/etc/etc. It's also well known that women who date abusive men also tend to have had abusive parents.

I think it's interesting, I just think the big mistake lots of people make is their hesitancy to look at human beings as animals or as just another biological creature. People do not like the thought of analyzing human behavior from a scientific perspective to understand it, instead we're told to just take what people say at face value and not be skeptical of what they think of themselves.