Duck-munkey
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- Posted: Wed, 23 Nov 2011 00:23:08 +0000
Dolly Demon
I spoke to her just, just to make sure she was alright. She had a sandwich and i spoke to her. It went something like this:
"It's just dad. You know what he's like"
"what?"
"you know, always moaning and stuff, he always gets me down"
"why what has he said?"
"Saying i virtually live at uni, well i am 18 now"
"well just make sure you know what your doing"
"i know, i will still be coming home and stuff"
"and what will you be doing everyday...partying?"
"no...well yes. He treats me like i'm still a child"
"what do you mean?"
"I want to see new things, have new experiences. Going out makes me realise how much i haven't lived"
stare
"It's just dad. You know what he's like"
"what?"
"you know, always moaning and stuff, he always gets me down"
"why what has he said?"
"Saying i virtually live at uni, well i am 18 now"
"well just make sure you know what your doing"
"i know, i will still be coming home and stuff"
"and what will you be doing everyday...partying?"
"no...well yes. He treats me like i'm still a child"
"what do you mean?"
"I want to see new things, have new experiences. Going out makes me realise how much i haven't lived"
stare
She isn't wrong. Actually it's better that she learns about partying during her freshman year and gets over the obsession quicker. I think all you can do is tell her that you are concerned about her well-being but that you recognize it is up to her what she does. Tell her you'll be there if she needs you but that you don't condone the behavior. Let her know that she is upsetting your parents. Then let her be. She needs space and time to figure out who she wants to be and how she's going to become that person. Everyone goes through this phase to some extent.
