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ok kind of weird serious question
have any of you had trouble dealing with what turns you on? like trouble accepting it. trouble figuring out why it's what you want and what to do with it. I'm in my second kinky relationship. my first was pretty abusive so a lot of the kink stuff was just me trying to fulfill my gf's needs and ignoring my own. the relationship I'm in now is really healthy, and my current gf is a dream come true. she's also a sub. I identify as a top rather than a domme because I like some input from my partner on what to do during. I like her to say what she wants so I know what to do. but I have to be on the giving end. I can't handle even being touched much during. I don't know why, it's just the way things are. but I'm having trouble dealing with these facts about myself.
did anyone take a while to accept their kinky side? what helped you do that?
sorry if this is a little personal. I just didn't really know where else to go
I have times of struggling with dealing with my act of, and submission to, my Husband. I have always worn the proverbial boots and its hard for me to even get my head around the fact I allow him the lead, That I -wanted- him in the lead.
He was a first(in SO many ways). I struggle with it...quiet often.
As my partner puts it...I havent fully unlaced my boots
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When I first had the feelings of wishing it from him....I fought it...hard. I thought it a type of madness due to how it felt. It was utterly, completely new to me and I just didnt understand it. I almost walked away from the relationship due to me being so confused and fearful of how I felt.
I am blessed by the fact he is very patient and....Naturally Dominant. He is abit like a mountain...he just =is= and weathers my tossing my head and balking. It still amazes me that just a certain look he gives can make me go "eh..ok..." and ends a dispute or how something as simple as "good girl" can send a tension releasing thrill down to my toes. Particularly if someone else was to say it to me would get quite a different reaction.
It has been one of the hardest and best things I have done.