Retrospectus
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- Posted: Wed, 01 Aug 2012 06:52:58 +0000
I know quite a few people who have ended relationships because the other person is "too nice." Several other people have ended relationships because they're too clingy, surprisingly though this one is men and women..
Maybe it's just because that's what we've always been told is beautiful and that's what we strive for in a relationship. If you have studied Psychology, there's what they call Cognitive Dissonance, which leads to this happening.. People in these bad relationships with more attractive people can overlook things like fighting, being taken advantage of, or being cheated on because they convince themselves that they couldn't live without this wonderful person that is most of the time nice to them and doesn't hurt them on purpose. You can convince yourself of almost anything if you believe it's an important enough decision.
Back on topic though, from my experience people enjoy the roller coaster ride of a bad relationship. They can sacrifice a few days feeling like absolute crap for a few weeks of pure bliss, even if that bliss is fleeting. Many people don't want to go the safe route with a "less ugly" person, because their adventure will end there.
Maybe it's just because that's what we've always been told is beautiful and that's what we strive for in a relationship. If you have studied Psychology, there's what they call Cognitive Dissonance, which leads to this happening.. People in these bad relationships with more attractive people can overlook things like fighting, being taken advantage of, or being cheated on because they convince themselves that they couldn't live without this wonderful person that is most of the time nice to them and doesn't hurt them on purpose. You can convince yourself of almost anything if you believe it's an important enough decision.
Back on topic though, from my experience people enjoy the roller coaster ride of a bad relationship. They can sacrifice a few days feeling like absolute crap for a few weeks of pure bliss, even if that bliss is fleeting. Many people don't want to go the safe route with a "less ugly" person, because their adventure will end there.