Why are you single right now Gaia?

[RossetteAmi]

Because I don't feel like dating anyone.

[Jubilant Sunrise]

If I date ask and she says no, I feel hurt. If I ask and she says yes, it is almost an inevitability that she will leave me in the future, and thus I feel hurt. Logically, to avoid pain altogether, you should remove yourself from that which causes it.

[Bleach Squished Flowers]

because i want a PhD, and am working on my second masters degree. i have a 4.0, i don't drink alcohol, i'm a vegan who ended up celiac and allergic to soy (so where the hell will we meet?!). I work 50+ in a week, and am taking yoga teacher training ...

I like to tell myself it's because i am successful, and intimidating, and possibly too busy...but in reality i'm just afraid of men LOL

[Shirabelle]

Jubilant Sunrise

If I date ask and she says no, I feel hurt. If I ask and she says yes, it is almost an inevitability that she will leave me in the future, and thus I feel hurt. Logically, to avoid pain altogether, you should remove yourself from that which causes it.

It's okay. If it makes you feel any better, she'll likely say no.

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[Maou Chiaki]

I actually loathe the idea of being in a relationship.

Seeing all my friends dating strengthens this idea. It's just... no.

[Cold Sandstorm]

I broke it off with a guy that I've been dating for the past couple of weeks. We didn't have much in common and he was taking it way too fast. If he really loved me he wouldn't of been so damned horny on our first and second date. Oh well, I will say he was nice though.

I just haven't found 'the one' just yet. I am a pretty patient person. I don't mind waiting. I will admit there are pros to being single.

[The Psychotic Artist]

Vantharas

In honor of the 14th let us discuss the psychology of why we're currently single and the particular events that put us here.

For me, a history of betrayals in early friendships as well in many of my relationships (Getting cheated on lied to etc..)) I find it hard to connect to females and get close to them and without closeness their can't be sparks for a new relationship to form.

I still have no idea. In the past few months, out of no where I went from being ignored to being noticed (at school). Except, I don't want to date or a relationship. I don't mind dating, there is no committing or fear of losing a friend. You can always just try to have fun and now it's okay. And honestly, it's hard finding guys that just want to have fun and it doesn't feel like they are interviewing you. Though, I don't plan to be single, I decided I don't want the guy to come to me, I want it to be the other way around.

[Vantharas]

The Psychotic Artist

I still have no idea. In the past few months, out of no where I went from being ignored to being noticed (at school). Except, I don't want to date or a relationship. I don't mind dating, there is no committing or fear of losing a friend. You can always just try to have fun and now it's okay. And honestly, it's hard finding guys that just want to have fun and it doesn't feel like they are interviewing you. Though, I don't plan to be single, I decided I don't want the guy to come to me, I want it to be the other way around.

Very understandable viewpoint! I definitly see where your coming from.

[Product_of_Boredom]

I'm asexual. =)

I literally have no desire to be in a relationship.

[-EboniiSkinn-]

I've cheated on a guy once by kissing another. Did I feel bad for my actions? In a way, yes, but I didn't regret it, because if I hadn't done it, I wouldn't understand what it'd be like to hurt someone in that level.
And it doesn't feel good at all.

I knew inside that we weren't the best match.
We wanted different things from each other entirely. He was striving to find that perfect wife to marry and raise kids with
(considering that we were only 16 and he was looking for that so early partially scared me...)
while I wanted a temporary companion, a masculine, attractive friend whom I wanted to spend time with before we went off to college, eventually parting our separate ways. Once I realized this, I should have ended it when I had the chance, but I was nieve I continued to be with him knowing that somehow, I was going to satisfy this appetite I had within me one way or another, even if it meant sacrificing his trust in me.
The irony is, after I told him, I had to be the one to end the relationship because this guy just kept holding on to something that has already been destroyed.
It was...
quite the experience.
So, between you and me Gaia, I've thought much more about the consequences of my actions and do not jump into any relationship that I'm positive I won't put my full 100% in. I don't want to start anything of which I may be afraid to end. I've realized the hard way that there's no shame in ending something BEFORE you make a mistake and hurt someone.

(That, and I haven't met the next guy to get to know/befriend to take that next step. I think that's pretty important too.)

I'm single now so that I can learn more about myself and find my own happiness by doing other things that I enjoy and spending time with friends/family vs. relying on guys to fill an empty void like I've done in the past.

cat_redface Hey, ya live 'n you learn, right? cat_sweatdrop